20170420

Knowing what to do, knowing how to do it, and actually executing on what you want to do are three entirely different things.

Is it important to know what to do? Absolutely!

Do we need to know how to do it? Of course!

Is executing on what it is you really want to do the same thing? Definitely not!

Sometimes we get too caught up in the figuring it out stages and forget that we can have all the best intentions, all the best ideas, and all the best know-how, but without taking action and actually working on the goal, it is all just a mental game.

Even if you are not quite 100% clear on the what, even if you’re not quite how to go about doing it, if you start working on it, if you start by just doing the very first step that’s right in front of you, the what and how will be clearer over time.

Just taking that first step, writing the first paragraph, creating the first outline, making the first phone call, hammering the first nail, planting the first seed, seeing that first client, just doing the very basic first step is the most important action you can take.

Because then the next step becomes obvious. We’ve broken the barrier to begin and overcome inertia. Movement created momentum, and momentum creates our destiny!

20170413

Listening to pain is one of the most informative things we can do.

We don’t like it, we don’t want it, and yet pain is one of our greatest allies. It lets us know that there is something that needs our attention, and it is time to take of it.

Pain is that big flashing neon billboard that calls us into action to make a change, to practice self-care, to pay attention.

Pain does not come to us merely for pain’s sake. It is here to deliver a message. It grabs our attention and smacks us around a little until we listen to the message. Not listening? Then it’s going to smack us around some more until we do.

The truth is, when pain comes around, it is usually because of something we know we should be taking care of, but aren’t.

Have we been exercising enough? Have we been paying attention to our diet enough? Is our physical/emotional/spiritual health where we want it to be?

The sooner we pay attention and take action, the sooner the pain goes away…

20170411

Making the first steps onto a new path are always the scariest.

The path is unknown, the consequences are unknown, and the outcomes are unknown.

That must not stop us from taking those first few steps. With each new step, the path becomes less treacherous, more familiar, and soon we gain confidence.

All great work starts with with one step onto an unknown path. The road traveled by many yields no new insights, no new secrets.

It is only when we have the courage to step outside the well-trodden path that we find treasures no one else found. When we explore new territory, we become rich in experience and knowledge.

Don’t deny the world your courage, for it is in that courage that you spark the hearts and minds of those around you, and that is where real change lies.

Do the great work, the hard work, the important work, for it is in the unknown that we truly get to know ourselves.

20170404

What does it mean to see yourself as a spiritual being?

It’s not about halos and harps, or wings and magic wands.

It’s about seeing yourself as something greater than just your physical, mental and emotional self.

It’s about being aware of the energetic side of life, the ebb and flow of our energy, the energetic implications of our thoughts, words, deeds and actions.

Mostly, when we recognize that we are more than just this physical body, we come to an understanding that how we feel about ourselves, how we treat ourselves, and how we talk to ourselves, is as important as what we do.

We learn to nurture ourselves, to support ourselves, to make a meaning of life that is loving and gentle to ourselves. Is that not the way you would treat an Angel?

When we recognize ourselves as spiritual beings, we see our limitless possibilities, our power, and our infinite capacity to love…

20170330

Stillness is something we achieve internally. Peace is not about our surroundings, it is about our heart.

Many times we feel that tranquility can only be achieved in monasteries and mountaintops. Yet when we achieve the peace inside, it doesn’t matter if we are in the middle of Times Square or the Alps.

Our projection onto the environment around us causes us to lose balance. Our attachments to things being one way or another causes grief around those very same objects.

It is not about detachment, as it is about non-judgment. Can we learn to accept the honking car as no better or worse than a tree?

Can we learn to see a skyscraper as equal to a waterfall?

Making one thing better than another causes us to loose sight ofthe fact that there is good and bad in everything. There is positive and negative in all that surrounds us.

Where is our focus? Where is our appreciation of the light and the dark?

Just as the Yin-Yang symbol has both within each other, it is incomplete without both aspects.

When we truly accept in our heart that all of this is necessary for the universe to unfold perfectly, then we achieve true peace and harmony.

20170323

When deciding on the meaning of a given situation, we always make it about ourselves.

Whether other people are involved or not, our minds believe we are the center of the universe and everything revolves around us.

Even when someone gets upset at us for no reason, we think we did something wrong, that somehow they know how we cheated or lied, that we’ve been caught at something.

In fact, it was not about us but about them. They had a bad morning, someone stepped on their foot, they just found out they have a medical issue, or some other unfortunate news.

They were never really upset at us, they were upset at something else in their life. When this is not evident we automatically assume it’s all about us.

Making meaning from the event and experiences around us is what we do.

When we realize that the meaning we make often has nothing to do with the reality of the situation, we are free to change the meaning we make from one that disempowers us to one that empowers us.

When we watch our minds and access our meaning making internal devices, then we can create wonderful new interpretations that show us how the universe is conspiring to help us, support us and lift us up.

How does that sound as a way to make meaning from life?

20170321

To feel our true power takes courage.

Not the kind of courage you’d think you would need.

You need the courage to feel your heart.

Power, like truth, without compassion can be cruel. Yet the real power that is beyond force lies in our ability to come face-to-face with our own soul.

Most people think of the soul as something only light and loving. Yet something as deep and complex as our soul holds so much more. It holds our darkness, as much as our light.

To face that darkness takes real power, real inner strength, a real commitment to know oneself. That is the truest form of courage there is.

And from that comes true strength.

20170307

We often react to the actions and words of people around us as something to do with us.

We analyze, interpret, make judgments and choices based on what we think the person’s intentions are for us around those words or actions.

The truth we all know, yet often forget, is that what the other person says or does has little to do with us personally. It is almost always about what is going on inside of them.

Our ego has a hard time conceiving that the universe does not revolve around us, yet on a practical, day-to-day level, nothing is further from the truth.

In everyone’s own mind, the universe revolves around them, not us.

So that time that person shouted at you for being rude, it really wasn’t about you being rude. Or when that person in the car cut you off in traffic, it really wasn’t personal. Or perhaps someone yelled at you for no reason at all, that definitely was all about them, not about you.

The thing is, we all do that. That knowledge can help make us more patient, more understanding, and more tolerant of other people’s actions and words. Doesn’t it?

20170228

Self-care has become a greater part of daily conversations.

In the past, no one really talked about it, or even used the term “Self-care.” Now, you can hear it in many daily conversations either directly or indirectly.

Yet for each of us, what we mean by Self-care can be vastly different.

For some of us, it might be just about pampering ourselves. For others, it is about how we manage our energy. And yet for others, it can just be about how much space we give ourselves in our schedule.

Ultimately, it is not about a specific action or practice, but about what makes us feel better. It’s about how we show love to ourselves, how we show how we care about ourselves.

It is not about being self-centered or egotistical, it is about recognizing how important it is for us to take care of ourselves first, so we can show up as our best selves in the world.

If more of us did that, what kind of world would we be living in?

20170221

When we look at others who have accomplished more than we have so far, it is easy to feel bad about ourselves.

We compare ourselves and see what we haven’t done while this other person has achieved monetary success, reputation and recognition.

Yet somehow, when we meet someone who has achieved much less than us, we don’t compare ourselves and say “Look how much I have done compared to them.”

Yes, many people have achieved a lot even late in life, though there seems to be something we are missing. Something very important.

When we look at what we have done with our lives as compared to someone else, what we don’t see is how we have affected the lives of dozens, hundreds or even thousands of people in small yet profound ways.

Do we know the effect of that one kind word or smile on that person’s life? Do we know the impact of that small bit of positive energy we sent someone’s way?

Perhaps it might serve us better to consider that we have made ripples in an enormous pond, and that we truly will never know what effect that has had on the world.

Accomplishment is not about the accumulation of wealth or fame, but about the energy we spread around us…