You Can Be Right Or You Can Be Happy – You Can Rarely Be Both

We never really win an argument.

No matter how hard we try to convince the other person that they are wrong, they will only dig in their heels.

If anything, they will only be more convinced they are right.

And if by some miracle we do get them to concede that we are right and they are wrong, they will remain angry at us.

If we lose, we lose, and if we win, we lose.

Perhaps because we are playing the wrong game?

Maybe what we should be concerned with is not winning, but being happy.

The old adage is ” You can be right, or you can be happy, but you can rarely be both.”

If we change our focus from one of winning to one of happiness, we can play a totally different game.

And then we play in a totally different way.

Because now it is not about the end result, it is about how we play.

When we give up our need to be right and focus on our desire to be happy, we can joyful skip down the road.

We can let others have whatever opinions they want to have.

As long as we’re happy, who cares?

Yet being in that joyful place will attract others to wonder why are you so happy?

Maybe then they also will give up the need to be right and focus on being happy instead.

That is how we all win.

So let’s stop playing the win-lose type of game, and learn to play more win-win games.

After all, aren’t they much more fun?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Play Can Be Deep Work

Sometimes, play can be deep inner work.

Yes, it can be superficial.

Yes, it can be just a distraction.

Yes, it can be nothing but play.

And it can be just what we needed.

Play is how the mind makes new connections.

Play is how we learn and grow.

When we get too serious, too stressed, we need play more than ever.

When we want to be more creative, play is necessary.

When we want to find a new solution, play allows us to be free.

Making time to play is never a waste.

The results may not show up right away, yet they will follow.

Are we taking enough time to play in our lives?

Perhaps we can all play a little more, and learn to be playful in our most serious work.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

We Are Not Broken And Don’t Need to Be Fixed We Are Perfectly Imperfect

It is easy to fall into the trap of thinking that there is something wrong with us.

It is not unusual to feel that we are broken, and need to be fixed.

That is not the truth.

Actually, we are perfect exactly the way we are.

This does not mean that we do not desire to do better.

What it is really is about is accepting ourselves exactly the way we are without judgment or criticism.

We all feel not good enough. We all feel unworthy.

The thing is, that’s usually our greatest gift!

It may seem counter-intuitive, yet the very things we are trying so hard to change, are our greatest assets.

We just have to learn how to reframe and reinterpret that part of our lives.

Our faults and our flaws are what make us human.

Sure, we can learn to do better and there is nothing wrong with wanted to improve.

In fact, doing that deep internal work is the great work of a lifetime.

It just means that we don’t have to judge ourselves in the process. Or others for that matter.

We are not here to beat ourselves up or pick at every little mistake we make.

It is primarily through our mistakes that we learn and grow. There is nothing wrong with making a mistake.

So let’s find a way to stop marinating in our misery and see ourselves as perfectly imperfect.

Let’s be not just a little kinder to ourselves, but a lot kinder to ourselves!

Live is meant to be joyful, not painful and demeaning.

Let’s let our light shine even though the dark spots are visible.

Being human is a lot easier than living up to some false ideal.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

We Don’t Need Another Strategy We Need To Just Look Deep Inside

It is not so uncommon to feel that we need another strategy to move forward.

We feel that when we find that the one missing key we will be able to change our lives.

Yet what we really need is not another system or blueprint.

The fallacy in this thinking is that we need something external to us to change our lives.

The only way to change how life feels to us and move forward in an authentic way is to look deep inside.

We do not need another book or another seminar to teach us something that is already in our heart.

We do not need another workshop or another experience to show us how to be different.

When we look inside ourselves at the real work we need to do, we know the answer before we ask the question.

What we need more than anything else is the opportunity to work on ourselves without distraction.

What we want more than anything else is to connect with our soul and heal the deep wounds.

What serves us more than anything else is to be present to our feelings and our unexpressed emotions.

When we look internally instead of externally, we find all the answers we require to move forward in our lives.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Making Time To Be With Yourself Is The Greatest Gift We Give The World

Taking time for ourselves does not mean we are taking time from something else.

Giving ourselves the gift of just being with ourselves can be huge.

When we make it a priority in our lives we are better able to be present for others.

It may not seem like that at the time. It may feel a bit selfish.

Yet no matter how we take time to be with ourselves, we can then show up for others in a more clear and open manner.

Yes, we all have responsibilities and roles to play.

Yes, we all have so many things pulling at our attention.

Yes, it takes some effort to make the time to meditate or take a walk by ourselves.

That effort though will be greatly rewarded with the peace and serenity we are cultivating.

It is not about forcing ourselves to do what we feel we should be doing.

It is not about living up to some promise.

It is about being generous with ourselves because we all deserve it.

The funny thing is, the more generous we are with ourselves, the more generous can be with others.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

We Are Flow Not Something That Experiences Flow

Being In The Flow is something we all strive for.

That feeling that everything is just going right, and it all seems so easy.

Yet there seems to be a lot of confusion of how to get there or how to maintain that feeling.

Perhaps part of the issue is that we don’t really understand what it means to be In The Flow?

Of course, it can mean different things to different people. For many people, it is just a feeling that they know when they feel it, yet have a hard time describing it.

For many people, it is just a feeling that they know when they feel it, yet have a hard time describing it.

And maybe the biggest confusion is that we think Flow is something separate or apart from us.

The image of a river flowing, and how we have to jump in it to be carried by the water often comes up.

Could there be a better way of understanding Flow?

From an energetic perspective, Flow is not something distinct or separate from us.

Flow is what surrounds and engulfs us every moment of every day.

We are Flow, we are not something that experiences Flow.

We Flow, and as we Flow we experience being present in a unique way.

We Flow in our lives, in our jobs, in our relationships, and in all the moments in between.

Even when we are in resistance we are experiencing Flow, just a Flow of a different nature.

So instead of thinking How Do I Get Into Flow, try thinking What Flow Am I Experiencing Now?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

In a world where we are constantly surrounded by people, finding time to be with oneself can be difficult.

So many demands are put on us by other people, and with our constantly on devices, we are always reachable.

Yet taking time away from it all to be with ourselves is exactly what we need.

To find balance, to find peace, to find direction in our lives, we need the time to process all the stimulus we get on a daily basis.

To know ourselves on a deep level, we need time in quiet and solitude to actually feel what is going on inside of us.

How can we really connect with ourselves if our attention is constantly pulled to the outside world?

How can we find our inspiration if we are continuously exposed to the bombardment of information?

How do we learn what we truly have to give to the world if we cannot experience the stillness to feel our heart’s beat?

We think we have to always be there for other people. So many people rely on us, so many people want us.

Yet, we cannot truly be there for anyone else if we have not given ourselves the opportunity to be there for ourselves first.

It’s not about taking time off from work or from your business, it’s about taking the time to just be with yourself without any distractions or activity.

Learning to enjoy our own company is important, and the gifts we receive from it are enormous.

So let’s all look for  more ways for us to be peaceful and present with ourselves, and see what magic arises.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Contribution is not really about other people.

It is not about our community, our friends, or our world.

Contribution is about finding meaning in something more than ourselves.

Contribution is about how we feel when we contribute back to society.

Contribution can be a small effort, giving a charity or organization that is doing good work a few bucks.

Or contribution can be truly giving of ourselves, like donating our time to a shelter or soup kitchen.

There are many ways to contribute, not just time or money.

We can contribute our influence, or our resources.

We can contribute our ideas, or our expertise.

Yet the act of giving is more about how it makes us feel, than about being altruistic.

Of course, the two are not incompatible, nor are they exclusive.

There is nothing wrong with doing the right thing because it makes us feel good.

Indeed, isn’t it the sign of an enlightened soul the fact that they take great pleasure in helping others?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Each day we start out new.

Each day we get to choose how we decide to go through our day.

For many people, they choose by default.

For some people, they choose intentionally.

If we are to live life to our greatest capacity, choosing intentionally is far superior to letting life choose for us.

As we continue to grow and raise our awareness, we begin to understand that the more intention we put behind our actions and our thoughts, the more life yields to our desires.

The more we envision our future, the more we envision next year, next month, or even tomorrow, the more we see that vision come true.

The beautiful part about it is that we don’t have to stick to one the same intention.

Each day we can make a new choice, set a new intention, envision a new future.

From that day forward we can begin to build that future.

Of course, the more we change our minds the longer it will take to bring that new future into manifestation.

Yet, isn’t it nice to know that our intentions aren’t written in stone and can be changed when appropriate?

So let’s start this day with an intention and a vision, and allow them to guide our actions.

Together, miracles can be created…

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Community Is About The People Who Accept Us For Who We Are

Community is not about what we are born into.

Community is not about our neighborhood, our town, or our country.

Community is about the people we choose to be with.

Sometimes our community is in our neighborhood, sometimes it is spread across the globe.

People align with others for many reasons. Sometimes it is about a set of common values.

Sometimes it is about a common belief system.

And sometimes it is because of a group of shared experiences that form strong emotional ties.

We often shy away from community because when a small group of people know us so well it is hard to hide.

Yet we keep coming back to community because it is where we find the most support.

It is also where we find the greatest comfort.

When we are with the people who accept us for who we are without judgement, we find a sense of peace and calm that is very hard to find.

We are all part of one community or another. If you are not feeling the support from the community you are with, it’s time to find another one.

There are thousands upon thousands of communities out there. If you don’t find the one that’s right for you, create your own.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant