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We all tell stories. First to ourselves, then to others.

We tell stories about what happens to us, what other people  do, what the world around us is like.

What we often don’t understand is that they are just that, stories.

Stories are something we make up, full of meaning and nuance, and we give great power to the story.

We tell stories about how someone left us, what our parents did to us when we just little children, or about how our boss or our colleagues don’t understand us.

Because we are the ones telling the story, we believe the story. We give great credence to  the story. We know the story must be true.

This is how we get lost in our own story, we forget it is all just a story. And the story is made up, or rather, the meaning we make from the story is made up.

This is great news! It means we can make up a different story! We can change the role we play or the meaning we make from the story.

The key is to remember that the story malleable, fluid, and can be whatever we decide it to be.

What stories are you stuck believing are real? What stories would you like to change in your life?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

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We often search for information in words, actions, movement, and whatever activity is taking place.

When we do this, we miss the richness and abundance of information that is in the silence.

There is a great deal to learn from silence. From how people show up in silence, from how things feel in the silence.

That gap, that little moment between words and responses, between action and reaction, can teach us so much.

Is there any nervousness in the air? Is there a tension, a pressure, or something pushing back in the silence?

Is there an ease, a flow, an openness, a spaciousness in the silence?

When we rush to fill in that space, we miss what that space is telling us.

How can we learn to pay attention to the silence? Wait. Practicing waiting to response or react. Take a breath, and feel into the moment. What are you feeling? What are you seeing? What is arising within us in that moment.

Silence is golden because there is such great value in it…

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What if we assumed that the trauma we experience in our life was here to teach us instead of hurt us?

What if we decided that life was here to support us, support our soul’s development, and help us grow as people, instead of something to be conquered or fought against?

What if we could make a positive, empowering meaning out of everything we experience in our life, instead of feeling like a victim of circumstance?

Maybe life isn’t as harsh and brutal as we are sometimes led to believe. Maybe life is a great teacher that helps us to be more of who we really are, grow in ways we never could imagine, and become more evolved?

Our assumptions and our expectations shape our experience of life. The meaning we make from all the little, and great, things that we experience decides how we will feel about it, and how it will shape us.

We are individuals who experience life. How we choose to interpret what we live, is up to us.

What’s a more empowering interpretation you make of your own life?

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On the path to trust, we first come across acceptance.

Ultimately, we all want to develop that deep sense of trusting ourselves. The first step is to accept ourselves.

We start by learning to accept ourselves as human – which means we make mistakes, we’re not perfect, nor do we have to be.

We learn to then accept ourselves as perfect – yes, we are fallible, and we are also perfect in who we are. There is no one else quite like us, we are unique and perfect in our imperfections. We are the best manifestation of our spirits that we can be.

We then learn to accept ourselves as we are – if we could do better, we would, always!

Which leads us to accepting ourselves without judgment – we are not good, we are not bad, we are who we are and we make the best choices and decisions we could possibly make given our personality, our history and our experiences. We can do no better and no worse than we already are.

The amazing thing is how all this leads up to – accepting others as they are. We may not trust them, we may not like them, we may not want to be in their presence (and nothing says you have to), and you can still accept that they are who they are, and they are doing the best that they can.

And what kind of world would we be living in if we trusted our ability to accept things just as they are? That does not mean we don’t strive to make things better, yet we can accept that things are the way they are without judgment and still work towards evolving, awakening, and creating a better world for us all…

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The inter-connection of the the tribe is much deeper deeper than we normally perceive.

We usually just consider that the leader leads the tribe, and the tribe follows. If the leader does well, the tribe does well.

Yet there is something much deeper happening that we don’t often see.

It is not just about how the leader is, nor is it about the state of the tribe, the reflection of the leader in each member of the tribe, and the reflection of each member in the leader, is far more intertwined.

In fact, if we look closely enough, over a long enough period of time, everything happening within each member of the tribe, every dream, every accomplishment, every fault, every fear and every trauma, plays out in the relationship of the leader to the tribe.

So does every aspect of the leader’s psyche get played out in the tribe’s relationships not just with the leader, but with each other as well.

Indeed, as we all have massive collections of neurons in our brains that collectively add up to make one whole mind, the collection of tribe members add up to be one whole unit that reflects the leader’s soul.

The real question then becomes, did the leader’s presence call the tribe into being, or did the tribe’s being call in the leader’s presence?

And who evolves first? Does the leader grow as the tribe evolves, or does the tribe grow as the leader evolves?

This tight relationship between leader and tribe is always there, regardless of the type of tribe or the type of leader.

Whether we are part of the tribe or whether we are the leader (and we are all both in some aspect), it is our responsibility to evolve and grow and support each other, so the other may evolve and grow and support us as well.

So who is your tribe? Who are you leading? And are you evolving?

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Taking time to remember our ancestors is not something we do for them, it is for ourselves.

Our parents, grandparents, and even great-grandparents all had lives that were lived in very different times, yet their experience, their stories, their lineage all add to the fabric of our own existence.

Did they come from overseas? Did they lose their families in the war? Were they successful or did they work long and hard for not much recognition?

Their DNA is in our bodies. Their names live on in our hearts. Their trauma, their joy and their accomplishments all contributed to who we have become.

By remembering them, reflecting on what they endured and what they celebrated it gives us a stronger foundation upon which to build. We stand on their shoulders and we see greater heights because of what they did. Even the things that they thought were insignificant may have played a big role in shaping who we eventually grew into.

So let’s take some time to remember them, to honor them, and recognize how even if we never met them in person, they have influenced our lives in ways beyond our imagination. Let’s all learn to be a little more grateful for those who came before us.

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There is really only one way to understand the world around us.

Many people have come up with all kinds of theories about why things are the way they are, how things got this way, and what to make of it all.

These ideas can be helpful, yet all we really have to do to understand the world around us is to truly understand ourselves.

Not in a superficial, ego-centered fashion that makes everything all about us.

To understand ourselves in a primal, emotive way, that reveals our deepest fears and our highest aspirations. When we can be truly honest with ourselves about what we desire and what motivates us, them we can begin to see the same desires and motivations being played out before our eyes.

When we admit to ourselves our trauma, our most ferocious fears, and our most terrifying nightmares, then we can begin to tame the violence we see around us within our own heart.

As we come to terms with all of these aspects of ourselves, and more, we begin to come to terms with all the outward manifestations of these energies.

When we find the peace within us, we move through life in peace.

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When we allow others to be who they are, without having to change them or get them to believe what we believe, we actually give ourselves more freedom to be who we are.

What calls to us to change in others is merely a reflection of what we desire to change within ourselves.

It might not seem directly applicable, yet in some way the very things that annoy us about someone else, that irk us about someone else, that cause us to cringe when we think about this other person, are the very same hidden dark corners of our psyche that we feel are untenable.

We usually think it’s all about the other person. It’s not. It’s always about us. If we didn’t have that irritating thorn in our own side that causes us pain when someone else reflects it back to us, then those traits would not annoy us at all.

It is only because those characteristics hit home and ring true within us, that we have a reaction at all.

No, it’s not about them. Yes, it is always about us.

Maybe not directly, maybe not in the same way or about the thing, yet it is there, somewhere, lurking in the recesses of our mind.

Now that we know that, can we be a bit more compassionate for others?

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Control in our lives is something we often strive for, yet in fact it is not attainable.

We think we can control our circumstances, in reality we cannot.

We think we can control other people, in reality we never can.

We think we can control the environment, in reality the environment is much greater and grander than we can imagine.

When it all comes down to it, the only thing we can control is our responses to what life brings and the choices we make.

And in the end, that is the most important control we can have.

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Cleaning House is about much more than just straightening up our living environment.

How we take care of our home, the place we sleep at night and the location of our possessions, is a reflection of something much deeper.

Of course, we “clean house” with much more than our home. We can clean house with our mailing list, our Facebook friends, our desk at the office, and just about anything that accumulates items over time.

So what does it really mean when we Clean House?

It’s actually about our identity, how we see ourselves, and how we feel about ourselves and our life.

Cleaning up and straightening out our environment is symbolic for cleaning up our life, our self-image, our hopes and dreams.

If our home is a chaotic place, chances are our life is chaotic. If our home is messy, chances are our life is messy. If our home is sparkling clean with everything perfectly in it’s place, chances our are life is just as clean and rigid.

Are you feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or lost? Trying cleaning up your home, one corner at a time, and see how much better you feel by the time you finish.

After all, we all deserve a home, a life, that supports our vision and our dreams.