The Sign Of True Evolution Is Accepting Our Family Without Judgment

As adults, our families are our biggest teachers.

Our family knows us better than anyone else.

Our family can trigger us in ways no one else can.

The way our family judges us means more to us than anyone else.

Yet how we choose to show up in the midst of all of that says more about us than any other situation.

It is a great opportunity to put our practices and our patience to work.

When those closest to us push our buttons, how we respond shows our maturity.

Who we are as individuals is revealed by our actions in these most trying situations.

We can forgive our friends and our co-workers for behavior that annoys us.

Can we do the same for our family?

Our family may still treat us as if we are 10 years old. Can we respond as if we are no longer 10 years old?

We stress over how our parents or our relatives act. We would prefer they change.

Can we learn to accept them exactly the way they are?

Can we be with our family without judgment even when they judge us?

Can we be kind to them even when they are not kind to us?

Can we be patient with them if when they are not patient with us?

The sign of our true evolution is when we can face those that we know better than anyone else on the planet, and still accept them without judgment and with love.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Ritual Is A Powerful Tool For Supporting Our Deepest Work

In this modern age of technology and science, we have a tendency to dismiss the idea of ritual.

We think it is something outdated and for the superstitious.

Ritual appears to be old-fashioned and irrelevant today.

Yet nothing can be further from the truth.

Ritual creates an energy that feeds and uplifts.

Ritual is built on decades or centuries of practice that support all who engage in it.

Ritual lets us know that we are doing something special and changes our state of mind.

Without Ritual our efforts meet more resistance and require more energy.

With Ritual we energetically know that there is something more than what we see around us supporting us.

We can always create our own rituals, that have deep, personal meaning to them.

We can incorporate aspects of other’s rituals that we resonate with without having to copy it word for word.

Yet still, the power of Ritual is inherent in its very nature.

The more we repeat it, the more we engage in it, the more energy and the more power is behind it.

The more we put into it, the more we get out of it.

That is something we can use in all of our lives.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Our Intuition May Not Be Perfect – Yet When We Use It Amazing Things Happen

Our intuition may not be perfect.

Our hunches may not work out all the time.

Sometimes, we follow them and we make obvious mistakes in hindsight.

Yet our intuition guides us more accurately than our logic.

Why?

Because following our intuition, once we’ve practiced following it, just feels better.

Yes, it sometimes means ignoring the facts.

Yes, it sometimes means not being able to explain ourselves.

Yes, it sometimes even feels foolish in the face of other people’s logical arguments.

Yet when we follow the feeling we receive from our intuition, it just feels right.

It feels right in our bodies because we are learning to trust our body’s intelligence.

We have been taught to value the mind’s intelligence above all else.

This makes trusting our bodies more difficult.

Yet when we do, amazing things happen.

That person we felt wasn’t quite trustworthy, turns out to actually not be trustworthy.

That opportunity we took a chance on because it felt right, ended up paying off big time.

That relationship we were stuck in and didn’t feel right finally ends so we can meet our life partner.

Our intuition is right far more than it is wrong.

We just have to learn to trust it and use it more, like any muscle in the body.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Discernment Is Not About Figuring It Out – Its About Feeling It Out

Most people think discernment is about figuring out the right choice.

We use our logic minds to weigh all the pros and cons to come up with what we think is the best choice.

Yet discernment is about much more than making a rational decision.

Discernment is about how we feel about a given situation.

 Often, we may find that there is not enough evidence to go in a particular direction.

Perhaps, we’ve just met someone for the first time and we think they should be a good person.

Maybe because other people have said good things about them.

Yet our impression, for no good reason, is that they are not trust-worthy.

Something just doesn’t feel right.

When we shake their hand, we get a chill.

Then, we second guess ourselves.

We start telling ourselves that we shouldn’t be judgmental and we should give the person a chance.

So we do. And what happens?

They turn out to be the creep we felt they were, yet had no evidence of it.

Discernment is listening to feeling, that intuitive understanding that something is off.

We don’t have to know what is off, just that something feels off.

Sometimes it can as subtle as an inflection in their voice.

Or a look in their eye.

Or maybe it’s just an energetic hunch.

Trusting those feelings goes a long way to having discernment.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Trust Is Not About Thinking Trust Is About Feeling Our Way Through

One of the hardest things for us to do is trust ourselves.

We believe that we are not trust-worthy based on our history.

We feel that given the chance we will make the same mistakes again.

Yet, most of the time, when we look back the mistakes we made came from not truly trusting ourselves.

Something went wrong, and we think it’s our fault.

If we really focus on the details, most of the time we will find that something didn’t feel right, yet we still went forward because the was no hard evidence.

That’s where we didn’t trust ourselves.

We didn’t trust the signals that were coming from our bodies.

We didn’t trust our intuition.

We didn’t trust that life was signaling us the best way it could at the time.

We trusted our minds over everything else, and it didn’t turn out the way we expected.

Trust is not about thinking our way through something.

Trust is about noticing our feelings and believing without any other evidence, those feelings are true.

Our brains are actually lousy decision-making devices.

They are great for recording and measuring things.

Our bodies, our gut, our intuitive sense of life, is much better at feeling the way through to the right choice.

We are very trust-worthy when we use all that life has given us.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Loneliness Is Not About Separation From Others But From Ourselves

Being alone does not mean we are lonely.

Being lonely does not mean we are alone.

Loneliness is about separation.

Not separation from others, but from ourselves.

When we are connected to our true authentic nature, we never feel lonely.

That’s because, at the very heart and core of who and what we are, we are a connected eternal spirit.

To cultivate the connection to our soul, being alone serves us.

It is much easier to connect to ourselves when there are no external distractions.

When we look deep inside we may find some scary things, yet ultimately, if we go deep enough, we connect to our true divine nature.

We can also find our divine nature by seeing it in others and connecting to them.

Yet, more often than not, we use connecting to others as an excuse not to look inside.

Why is that?

Perhaps it is because we consciously don’t know what we’ll find there.

Perhaps it is because we fear all those things we have been suppressing will rise up.

Perhaps it is because we just don’t feel worthy.

And yet if we sit still, even for five minutes and close our eyes and feel what is inside of us, a whole new world opens up.

It is a world that is rich and full of texture and feeling.

A world full of connection and support.

Our loneliness comes from disconnecting to that rich inner world.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

You Can Be Right Or You Can Be Happy – You Can Rarely Be Both

We never really win an argument.

No matter how hard we try to convince the other person that they are wrong, they will only dig in their heels.

If anything, they will only be more convinced they are right.

And if by some miracle we do get them to concede that we are right and they are wrong, they will remain angry at us.

If we lose, we lose, and if we win, we lose.

Perhaps because we are playing the wrong game?

Maybe what we should be concerned with is not winning, but being happy.

The old adage is ” You can be right, or you can be happy, but you can rarely be both.”

If we change our focus from one of winning to one of happiness, we can play a totally different game.

And then we play in a totally different way.

Because now it is not about the end result, it is about how we play.

When we give up our need to be right and focus on our desire to be happy, we can joyful skip down the road.

We can let others have whatever opinions they want to have.

As long as we’re happy, who cares?

Yet being in that joyful place will attract others to wonder why are you so happy?

Maybe then they also will give up the need to be right and focus on being happy instead.

That is how we all win.

So let’s stop playing the win-lose type of game, and learn to play more win-win games.

After all, aren’t they much more fun?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Play Can Be Deep Work

Sometimes, play can be deep inner work.

Yes, it can be superficial.

Yes, it can be just a distraction.

Yes, it can be nothing but play.

And it can be just what we needed.

Play is how the mind makes new connections.

Play is how we learn and grow.

When we get too serious, too stressed, we need play more than ever.

When we want to be more creative, play is necessary.

When we want to find a new solution, play allows us to be free.

Making time to play is never a waste.

The results may not show up right away, yet they will follow.

Are we taking enough time to play in our lives?

Perhaps we can all play a little more, and learn to be playful in our most serious work.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

We Are Not Broken And Don’t Need to Be Fixed We Are Perfectly Imperfect

It is easy to fall into the trap of thinking that there is something wrong with us.

It is not unusual to feel that we are broken, and need to be fixed.

That is not the truth.

Actually, we are perfect exactly the way we are.

This does not mean that we do not desire to do better.

What it is really is about is accepting ourselves exactly the way we are without judgment or criticism.

We all feel not good enough. We all feel unworthy.

The thing is, that’s usually our greatest gift!

It may seem counter-intuitive, yet the very things we are trying so hard to change, are our greatest assets.

We just have to learn how to reframe and reinterpret that part of our lives.

Our faults and our flaws are what make us human.

Sure, we can learn to do better and there is nothing wrong with wanted to improve.

In fact, doing that deep internal work is the great work of a lifetime.

It just means that we don’t have to judge ourselves in the process. Or others for that matter.

We are not here to beat ourselves up or pick at every little mistake we make.

It is primarily through our mistakes that we learn and grow. There is nothing wrong with making a mistake.

So let’s find a way to stop marinating in our misery and see ourselves as perfectly imperfect.

Let’s be not just a little kinder to ourselves, but a lot kinder to ourselves!

Live is meant to be joyful, not painful and demeaning.

Let’s let our light shine even though the dark spots are visible.

Being human is a lot easier than living up to some false ideal.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

We Don’t Need Another Strategy We Need To Just Look Deep Inside

It is not so uncommon to feel that we need another strategy to move forward.

We feel that when we find that the one missing key we will be able to change our lives.

Yet what we really need is not another system or blueprint.

The fallacy in this thinking is that we need something external to us to change our lives.

The only way to change how life feels to us and move forward in an authentic way is to look deep inside.

We do not need another book or another seminar to teach us something that is already in our heart.

We do not need another workshop or another experience to show us how to be different.

When we look inside ourselves at the real work we need to do, we know the answer before we ask the question.

What we need more than anything else is the opportunity to work on ourselves without distraction.

What we want more than anything else is to connect with our soul and heal the deep wounds.

What serves us more than anything else is to be present to our feelings and our unexpressed emotions.

When we look internally instead of externally, we find all the answers we require to move forward in our lives.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant