During times of great change, we all learn to let go.
To let go of our expectations.
To let go of the old ways.
And to let go of that which no longer serves.
YET EVEN THOUGH WE HAVE TO LET GO OF MANY THINGS, WE HAVE NOT REALLY LEARNED HOW TO LET GO.
Or how to grieve the loss.
Especially when it comes to people.
Those are the hardest losses of all to accept.
SOMETIMES THERE ARE SUBTLE LOSSES THAT WE DON’T EVEN REALIZE WE ARE GRIEVING.
Like the loss of a career or a business.
Or the loss of an office or the loss of a home.
Whenever things change for us, we could feel a loss.
THE MERE FACT THAT THINGS ARE NOW DIFFERENT MEANS WE HAD TO LET GO OF SOMETHING.
Even if it was our own choice, it can still feel like a loss.
Such as when we decide to move out of a home we lived in for years.
WE MAY BE MOVING TO A BETTER, NEWER HOME, YET WE CAN STILL FEEL NOSTALGIC ABOUT THE OLD ONE.
Many people today have changed their business from an in-person one to a virtual one.
So now they let go of an office they no longer need.
That lack of physical space can feel like a loss.
Even Something as little as a TV show we always watch being canceled can feel like a loss.
SO WHAT DO WE DO WITH ALL OF THESE LOSSES, BIG AND SMALL?
How do we cope when things seem to be changing by the day?
The Buddhist principle of non-attachment is a great way for those who have practiced it over the years.
For those of us who have not, perhaps learning to acknowledge that we actually are feeling a loss is the first step.
INSTEAD OF IGNORING OUR FEELINGS AND STUFFING THEM DOWN, PERHAPS WE SHOULD BE PRESENT TO THEM AND GIVE THEM SPACE.
To recognize that we do feel sad that something that was in our lives before is now gone.
And then, after we’ve fully felt what we are feeling, we can look to the future for something new.
TO SEE WHAT LIFE WILL BRING US TO FILL THE SPACE THAT THE LOSS HAS LEFT FOR US.
For there is always something new on the horizon.
There is always another person or place coming into our lives.
For life is not static.
It is growing and flowering and the cycles keep turning.
SO LET’S KEEP OUR EYES ON WHAT IS COMING NEXT WHILE WE GRIEVE WHAT WE LOST TODAY.
Is there some loss in your life that you have yet to grieve?
Have you considered looking at what that space of loss can bring you anew?
~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant
Host of The Conscious Consultant Hour