We often wonder why there are so many challenges in the world.
Why do people keep hurting each other?
What can be done to change things?
They are basic questions that requires an in depth answer.
The simple answer is hurt people hurt people.
Yet there is more to it than just that.
People continue to hurt others until they decide to turn their attention inward and look at their own pain.
That takes real courage.
It takes a desire to change and not continue to be in pain anymore.
To bring oneself to the point that we stop blaming others and look at our own place in the world is different for everyone.
Do we do not a person’s path.
We cannot see what the evolution of their soul looks like.
For some, the trauma they experience as a child drives them to do something about it.
For others, it can take a long time to come to grips with their past.
Some people never get there.
Facing our trauma is the most difficult thing we can do.
To admit to ourselves that we are in pain and holding our past pain is a big challenge.
Our greatest challenge is diving in and actually facing and releasing our pain.
It is not for the faint-hearted.
And without the proper support, doing this work can be treacherous.
Yet it is still the most rewarding work we can do.
An when we do, we bring ourselves a greater sense of peace.
We develop more compassion and more understanding of ourselves and others.
And then we stop hurting people.
Especially ourselves.
Yet without facing our trauma, without being willing to dive into it, we only continue the cycle of pain.
Most people don’t know how to face their trauma.
Even less know how to unwind it.
This is why it is such an important conversation.
The more we speak of our own trauma, the more we encourage others to think about their trauma.
And when the conversation becomes so commonplace that it no longer feels shameful to admit we have trauma, then we will see real change in the world.
Until that point in time all we can do is work on ourselves, share our stories, and encourage others to do the same.
Do you have a story fo your own trauma you can share with a friend?
~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant