It is easy to get confused as to why other people don’t respect us.
We are nice to them.
We bend over backwards for them.
Yet they still treat us with disrespect and callousness.
It just doesn’t add up.
Why would they do such a thing?
It is a paradox.
Sometimes it just seems that the nicer we are to others, the less they appreciate it.
This paradox is a message from the universe.
It is not about being nice.
It is about respect.
We must first learn to respect ourselves before others will start respecting us.
How do we do that?
By respecting our time, our effort, and our energy.
By creating and communicating clear boundaries for ourselves.
And by sticking to them.
When we allow others to cross our boundaries it often does not work out well.
For when people see there are no consequences for not considering our boundaries, they will continue to push.
And they will push and push and push, until we finally say No More!
When we start to truly respect ourselves, we hold fast to our boundaries.
When we respect our time and energy, we make sure people know there are consequences.
When we truly respect ourselves we are signaling the universe that we only wish to deal with people who respect us as well.
The key to receiving respect from others?
Respecting ourselves, pure and simple.
~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant