People often surprise us.
We think we know them.
We like them.
Then we find out that they are not quite who we thought they were.
Sometimes that happens directly.
Sometimes we find out from a third party.
Sometimes we just hear rumors and we choose not to believe them.
Until it happens to us.
Then we open our eyes.
Then we see a little more clearly than before.
So whose fault is it that we didn’t see this before?
It is ours.
We need to own the responsibility of how we choose to see the world and others.
It is only our projections and our desires that cloud reality.
What we want to believe (or not).
Whether we want to like the person (or not).
So we allow ourselves to gloss over the little bumps that are giving us signals.
We ignore the signs and little hints that are showing us what is really going on.
We see them, we hear them, yet we don’t really take them in.
Until it becomes so obvious that we recognize what is going on.
The other person is just being who they are.
It is us that changes the story or chooses not to see.
There is no need to blame ourselves, or the other person.
There is no need to criticize ourselves, we already do that way too much.
We simply can see what is in front of us and make a different choice.
We do not have to keep going the way we have been going.
It is okay to change our minds as we take in new information.
No need to stay stuck.
Seeing more clearly is always a good reason to make a change.
~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant