Trusting ourselves may be one of the hardest things to learn.
It is hard not because we are untrustworthy.
It is hard because of how we have interpreted our experiences throughout our life.
It is very common for us to feel that bad things happened to us because it was our fault.
We must have done something wrong for that bully to beat us up.
We must be wrong for wanting the things that we need as children yet didn’t receive.
There must be something really wrong with us for us to experience all that pain we felt.
We turn all the blame inwards not knowing how else to understand the world around us.
Yet as we unravel the traumas we experienced when we were young, we can begin to see that it was not our fault.
We are not to blame for other people doing bad things to us.
We are not to blame for losing people close to us.
We are not to blame for desiring to have our emotional and physical needs met.
Indeed, all it means is that we are human.
And if we are not to blame for how the world is around us, then we can trust ourselves more.
We can change the story around those experiences and learn that we are basically okay.
Our presence is a gift to others.
Our contributions are valuable.
Our point of view does matter.
And ultimately, there is no blame to go around, there is only the experience of life.
The magic is that once we start to truly trust ourselves, life will give us more reasons to do so.
The more we trust ourselves, the more we can trust ourselves.
And as we practice trusting ourselves, we can inspire others to trust themselves as well.
~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant