We often think that we have to be right in order to stand up for ourselves.
Actually, the two have nothing to do with each other.
Being right can be about making someone else wrong. We’re right and they’re wrong!
Standing up for ourselves is about expressing our needs, our feelings, and our desires. We can state how we feel without making the other person wrong.
Yes, someone’s actions may cause us to respond by feeling bad about something. We may feel like they cheated us, they lied to us, or they manipulated us.
Saying No to someone is not making them wrong, it is merely stating that you do not want what they want.
It is also helpful to remember that a person is not their actions. Someone’s actions may be bad, but that does not mean they are intrinsically a bad person. It also means you do not have to put up with those actions.