We all face disappointment sometime in our lives.
We have some expectation that does not get fulfilled.
We so want something to happen that the thought of it not happening is beyond us.
And then it doesn’t happen.
Then we have to deal with the reality that we had been denying to ourselves.
Our dream, our fantasy, our hopes and desires, vanish.
Our lover has left.
Our boss has fired us.
Our business has collapsed.
Now what do we do?
How do we move forward?
How do we keep going in the face of such an apparent tragedy?
When good surprises comes to us we welcome them.
When the surprises that we don’t want come to us, we go into a tail spin.
Mostly because of our perspective.
We think we know what this new event means for us.
In reality, we don’t.
We have no clue what it will mean for our lives 5, 10, or 20 years into the future.
Perhaps loosing that job is the push we needed to start that new business.
Maybe, our lover or spouse leaving us, is just what we needed to finally do some deep introspection.
It could be that having our expectations dashed is just what was necessary to teach us a fundamental spiritual lesson.
Things rarely go exactly as we expect.
Sometimes we feel nothing ever goes as we want.
Yet maybe Life has a better idea of what is best for us than we do.
If we can learn how to detach from our expectations, and truly trust Life that whatever happens is for our highest and best good, then we can enjoy even the disappointments in our lives.
If Life is perfect, who are we to micro-manage it?
Maybe the biggest lesson of all to learn is that we don’t have the best perspective today to decide if what is happening is for our best good or not.
So let’s learn to not judge the events in our life as good or bad for now.
Just put it off until tomorrow.
And do the same tomorrow.
As the weeks, months, and years pass, maybe, just maybe, we will gain enough perspective to truly see things clearly.
~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant