We often get triggered when things don’t go our way.
When that person doesn’t do what they were supposed to do.
Or someone did not live up to their word.
Our frustration leads to our desire to control the situation.
And the more we try to control, the more frustrated we become.
And soon we have a real mess on our hands.
So what is the alternative?
How do we cope when things just don’t work out?
Or someone doesn’t come through for us?
The solution is often the exact opposite of what we normally do.
It is to trust.
Not necessarily to trust others, but to trust that it will all work out.
For in the long run, when we have the perspective of years, not hours or days, we see things quite differently.
When we look back we can see how were it not for that incident, this other thing would not have happened.
Which led us to a different place.
Which led us to a new path.
Which brought us to an amazing place in life that we never could have imagined.
And it all worked out perfectly.
Even if it didn’t seem that way at the time.
Indeed, if we had tried to push and pull and manipulate things into the perfect order, we could not have done as good a job.
For we could not see all the implications that lay before us.
How it would all turn out.
How our life would be changed in the years to come.
So the answer to our desire to control is always to trust more.
To trust with a certainty that it is all perfect.
And life will bring us to where we need to go.
Even if we can’t see it.
Even if we can’t imagine it.
Life can, and it does.
So where can we trust more in our lives today?
~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant