Standing up for yourself does not mean you have to be nasty to people, to be rude, or to argue your point. It merely means following your own inner guidance, your own feelings.
Does this choice make me feel good? Lighter? More expansive? Or does it make me feel down? Heavier? More contractive? It really is not as hard as it seems to tune into our feelings around a decision.
The body has an amazing intelligence. It retains and processes information at amazing speeds, and when we trust it, when we tune into it, we can find all the answers we need.
Muscle testing is one way to tell how you truly feel about something if you are concerned that you can’t tune into your body so easily. But as you cultivate your own interaction with your body, you will learn to see the signs more clearly. Just put your hand over the center of your chest, close your eyes, and ask your question. Should I or shouldn’t I? See how it feels…
Just remember, standing up for yourself, for your needs, for your own self-care, does not inherently mean you are denying someone else what they truly want (although it may), it just means you are following your own guidance for the best outcome for all concerned.