Rejection is never easy.
We have all felt rejected at one time in our lives.
Over time, the pain of rejection lessens.
Until the next one comes.
The rejection we experience may be from friends, lovers, family, or even institutions.
Some people learn how to have a “thick skin” and deal with rejection that way.
Others feel crushed every time they are met with rejection.
MOST OF US ARE SOMEWHERE IN BETWEEN.
We learn to be okay with some forms of rejection over the years.
Yet still the sting of rejection from someone close to us may affect us greatly.
That searing pain when we bare our hearts until to be met with a rejection is always the most painful.
IT MAY NOT BE FROM THE LOVE OF OUR LIVES, YET IT STILL HURTS ALL THE SAME.
We might fall into a funk because of it.
Or feel the need to seek the help of a professional.
Sometimes we drown our sorrows by diving deep into our livelihood.
Distracting ourselves from the pain we feel in our hearts.
There are many ways we can distract ourselves.
We cam do it through our phones, our work, extra projects, or even going to the gym.
Filling up every waking hour with something so we don’t have to think about it.
Yet we do.
WE THINK ABOUT EVERY SECOND WHEN WE ARE NOT FOCUSED ON OUR DISTRACTION.
And it is okay to want to be distracted for a while.
To allow some distance from the painful event until we are strong enough to truly face it.
The real challenge is that whenever we do work up the courage to face it, it is still going to be as painful as it was before.
IT IS STILL GOING TO BREAK OUR HEARTS.
Maybe even take us out of commission for a while.
It is not a matter of if, but when.
So in the end no matter what we do to delay the inevitable, we eventually have to deal with the pain.
All of it.
Or it will fester inside our bodies until it kills us.
And that does not serve us at all.
THE ONLY WAY PAST THE PAIN IS THROUGH THE PAIN.
Numbing ourselves only pushes it down into the unconscious.
Where it will surface in other ways.
So for better or worse we have to deal with the pain of rejection.
Somehow finding a way to feel that even through this person rejected us, it does not mean we are bad, unworthy, or defective.
It just means they were not in a place to accept whatever it was that we were offering at that point in time.
PERHAPS THE FUTURE WILL BE DIFFERENT?
And maybe, just maybe, the next time we take a chance we won’t be rejected.
Have you ever faced a devastating rejection?
Where you able to deal with the pain, process it, and move on?
~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant
Host of The Conscious Consultant Hour
