May 15, 2018 Susumu Araki

You Can Be Right Or You Can Be Happy – You Can Rarely Be Both

We never really win an argument.

No matter how hard we try to convince the other person that they are wrong, they will only dig in their heels.

If anything, they will only be more convinced they are right.

And if by some miracle we do get them to concede that we are right and they are wrong, they will remain angry at us.

If we lose, we lose, and if we win, we lose.

Perhaps because we are playing the wrong game?

Maybe what we should be concerned with is not winning, but being happy.

The old adage is ” You can be right, or you can be happy, but you can rarely be both.”

If we change our focus from one of winning to one of happiness, we can play a totally different game.

And then we play in a totally different way.

Because now it is not about the end result, it is about how we play.

When we give up our need to be right and focus on our desire to be happy, we can joyful skip down the road.

We can let others have whatever opinions they want to have.

As long as we’re happy, who cares?

Yet being in that joyful place will attract others to wonder why are you so happy?

Maybe then they also will give up the need to be right and focus on being happy instead.

That is how we all win.

So let’s stop playing the win-lose type of game, and learn to play more win-win games.

After all, aren’t they much more fun?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

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