October 18, 2018 Susumu Araki

Standing Up For Ourselves Is Not Selfish It Is How We Meet Our Needs

For some of us, the lesson of standing up for ourselves is a big one.

We have been taught to be nice and not cause trouble.

We give in too easy to others or we do not ask for what we want or need.

There is a better way to show up.

We can stand up for ourselves without being belligerent.

We can stand up for ourselves and ask for what we need without getting emotional.

We can stand up for ourselves by simply saying no.

Standing up for ourselves does not mean we are being selfish.

It does not mean we are self-centered.

It only means that we value ourselves and our needs.

If we all learned to stand up for ourselves in a firm yet gentle manner, life would be clearer.

Boundaries would be more evident.

Desires would be more out in the open.

And when our desires do not match what the other is willing or able to give,  we can walk away without any hard feelings.

Expectations would be clear from the start.

Our positions at work and at home would be apparent.

And because all of these things would be more recognizable, we would actually receive more of what we need.

What kind of world would we be living in if that were the case?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant