To Heal Our Deepest Wounds We Must Speak The Truth About Our Pain

In order to begin our healing process, there is something we must be willing to do.

It is not just about taking better care of ourselves or changing our lifestyle.

It is about something far deeper and more difficult.

To start the journey to healing and wholeness we must be willing to speak our truth.

The truth about how we feel deep inside.

The truth about our pain and suffering.

The truth about our desires and secret wishes.

Without admitting to ourselves what we are experiencing, without admitting what we are feeling, without admitting to ourselves what we truly want, we cannot move forward.

What we hide inside ourselves will continue to control us.

What we shun and fear will continue to affect our lives.

The truth we deny within ourselves will fester and grow until it must come out.

It is not easy to admit the truth to ourselves.

It takes courage to be brutally honest about how we feel and what we want.

Yet we do it not for others, but for ourselves.

To be whole again

To be at peace.

To heal the deepest wounds that stay with us our whole lives.

These are the wounds that kill us, if we do not address them.

These are the wounds that drive us, if we do not speak them out loud.

It is only by shining the light of our own truth upon the blackest corners of our soul that we free ourselves from their shackles.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

We Are Not Broken And Don’t Need to Be Fixed We Are Perfectly Imperfect

It is easy to fall into the trap of thinking that there is something wrong with us.

It is not unusual to feel that we are broken, and need to be fixed.

That is not the truth.

Actually, we are perfect exactly the way we are.

This does not mean that we do not desire to do better.

What it is really is about is accepting ourselves exactly the way we are without judgment or criticism.

We all feel not good enough. We all feel unworthy.

The thing is, that’s usually our greatest gift!

It may seem counter-intuitive, yet the very things we are trying so hard to change, are our greatest assets.

We just have to learn how to reframe and reinterpret that part of our lives.

Our faults and our flaws are what make us human.

Sure, we can learn to do better and there is nothing wrong with wanted to improve.

In fact, doing that deep internal work is the great work of a lifetime.

It just means that we don’t have to judge ourselves in the process. Or others for that matter.

We are not here to beat ourselves up or pick at every little mistake we make.

It is primarily through our mistakes that we learn and grow. There is nothing wrong with making a mistake.

So let’s find a way to stop marinating in our misery and see ourselves as perfectly imperfect.

Let’s be not just a little kinder to ourselves, but a lot kinder to ourselves!

Live is meant to be joyful, not painful and demeaning.

Let’s let our light shine even though the dark spots are visible.

Being human is a lot easier than living up to some false ideal.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Hate Is Not About Hatred

Hate is not about Hatred.

Anger is not about Rage.

Fear is not about Fright.

When we go deep enough, what underlies them all is pain and sadness.

When we are in pain we lash out. We lash out without thought and without understanding.

We may pick a specific target for our hate and anger, yet it is not about that specific target.

It is about our pain. And underneath that pain is a profound sadness.

In the moment, all we can feel is that if we cause someone or something else pain, it will take away ours.

Nothing is further from the truth.

Pain only causes more pain. To stop the pain, we must be present to it, we must allow it to run its course without stuffing it down.

We all have pain and we all feel pain, the difference is how we deal with it.

The most important thing is not to pass it on.

So let’s give ourselves some space to feel our pain, to feel our sadness, and to allow our bodies to process it with time.

Perhaps when we learn not to pass on our pain we will see less pain in the world.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Being truthful is not about telling the truth to others.

Being truthful is not about not telling lies.

Being truthful is about being honest with yourself.

Before we can begin to be authentic in public, we first have to be in alignment within ourselves.

How can we speak truth to our tribe if we do not even know it ourselves?

Too often we find people who will say one thing in private, and another in public.

Regardless of the validity of the statements, if we are not sharing the same message, whether in private or public, we are not being truthful.

Does this mean we have to tell everyone everything? No, of course not. What it means is that we are clear in our intent and with our presence. It means we are being the same person with our families, our friends, our business associates, or our tribe.

Our essence is what matters. Our presence conveys our essence. Our words reflect our essence.

The more true to ourselves about ourselves we are, the more true we can be to other people.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

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Being truthful is not about telling the truth to others.

Being truthful is not about not telling lies.

Being truthful is about being honest with yourself.

Before we can begin to be authentic in public, we first have to be in alignment within ourselves.

How can we speak truth to our tribe if we do not even know it ourselves?

Too often we find people who will say one thing in private, and another in public.

Regardless of the validity of the statements, if we are not sharing the same message, whether in private or public, we are not being truthful.

Does this mean we have to tell everyone everything? No, of course not. What it means is that we are clear in our intent and with our presence. It means we are being the same person with our families, our friends, our business associates, or our tribe.

Our essence is what matters. Our presence conveys our essence. Our words reflect our essence.

The more true to ourselves about ourselves we are, the more true we can be to other people.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant