Being Triggered Is An Opportunity To Go Deeper Into Self Reflection

We all get a reactionary to what other people do or say.

We get triggered when they act a certain way or do something that we think is wrong, inappropriate, or just plain crazy.

All too often we take these things personally.

By doing so we miss the real lesson.

What others do or say actually has very little to do with us.

Our mind thinks it does.

To our mind, we are the center of the universe and everything is about us.

Rarely is that the case.

What is important to realize is that the feeling that comes up from that situation is about us.

The sore spot, the pain point, or the trigger that got activated is something for us to work on.

It is the unresolved issue we are still carrying around with us.

It is the key to doing the deeper work.

It shows us where we can learn to be more gentle with ourselves.

Where we can be more patient with our own shortcomings.

Where we can be kinder to our part in this play.

The harsher reaction we have, the deeper the pain goes.

Perhaps it is something we have been carrying around with us since we were children?

Maybe it has something to do with our parents or siblings?

And if we are really sharp, maybe we can see how it relates to our sense of self?

When we learn to be more kind and loving to ourselves, it is easy to be kind and loving to others.

When we can really see for ourselves that the trigger is about us and not the other person, we can be more patient, more calm and more rational with them.

It is not something we learn overnight.

It takes practice.

It takes determination.

Yet the payoff for looking deeper at ourselves is priceless.

Have you been triggered lately?

Start there and see what you can find.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Freedom Lies Not In The External World It Is In Our Internal Limitlessness

Being free with ourselves feels good.

It may not be natural in our society, yet it is still an inherent desire.

To be free with ourselves is to be free from fear.

To be free from concerns.

To be free from the worry of what others will think.

Being free is not about living in a free country or an open society.

Being free is about being free from our own internal bonds.

It’s about being free from our preconceptions and our biases.

It’s about being free from our assumptions and our nightmares.

To be a truly free spirit is to allow our heart and soul to shine.

Regardless of what anyone else thinks.

Regardless of what anyone else does.

Regardless of what anyone else says.

To be truly free means to be so free on the inside that the outside is of little consequence.

It means we have a free mind, heart, body, and soul.

It does not have to mean that we are free to do what we want.

Yet it does mean that we are free to think and feel what we want.

We are free to choose what meaning we make from any given circumstance.

We are free to feel what we choose to feel about ourselves and the world.

No one can take that freedom away from us.

No one can take the desire for freedom away from us.

No one can take our free will away from us.

External choices may be limited.

Yet internal choices are always limitless.

In that limitlessness lies our freedom.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Being Honest With Ourselves About Reality Is How We Empower Ourselves

We all see life as we want it to be.

Sometimes, that how it is.

Many times, it is not.

Our vision of what is going on is often clouded by our desires.

This is what causes us to not see the reality of life.

Perhaps we want things to work out so badly that we ignore the warning signs in a relationship.

Maybe we are so invested in our business we don’t see the change in the market.

Sometimes we ignore the warning signs in our health not wanting to believe that we could be sick.

This difference between our perception and our reality is an important one to recognize.

How do we become more in alignment with reality?

It is about understanding ourselves and our desires.

It is about knowing ourselves well enough to see our own biases.

It is about being honest enough with ourselves that we want something so badly we could not be seeing clearly.

This is not easy to do.

It takes real courage to see life as it really is.

The level of honesty about our own hopes, dreams, and desires must be high.

It is easy to kid ourselves.

It is easy to believe we really are seeing things accurately.

It takes work to question ourselves and be willing to be open to receiving the answer we don’t want.

No one wants to hear that things are not as we desire.

No one intentionally wants to know that things are worse than we think.

Yet when we allow ourselves to be so brutally honest with ourselves, then we are empowered to do something about it.

Then we can take the appropriate action.

Then we can be prepared for what is to come, even if it is unpleasant.

It is better to see life as it really is than to be surprised by what was in front of us the entire time.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Life Speaks To Us All The Time We Just Have to Pay Attention

Messages come to us from the Universe every single day.

They come to us in many forms.

They show up in different aspects of our lives.

The important thing is to pay attention to them.

These messages may be ones of encouragement.

By the right people showing up at the right time.

By the unexpected phone call.

By the new opportunity showing up.

We sometimes things these are just the results of the work we’ve done.

And they are.

And they are more than that.

Why did things go so smoothly this time compared to the last?

Why did business suddenly pick up even though we haven’t done anything differently?

Pay attention.

Do the circumstances of your life move you in a particular direction?

Do they cause you to lean towards or away from a certain situation?

Perhaps the Universe is trying to tell you something.

Perhaps Life is speaking to you in the only way it can.

Are you open to listening?

Are your eyes opening to seeing?

If we are not open, we usually don’t see.

If we are closed off to a possibility by calling it “impossible” we usually don’t get it.

Nothing is impossible for Life.

Yes, there are many paths before us.

When we pay attention to the signs around us, we know which one to take.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Both Beginnings And Endings Are Equally A Gift In Life

Beginnings and endings are not that different.

They both involve a certain amount of stress.

They both mean something is changing.

In many ways they are the opposite side of the same coin.

Usually, to start something new we have to end something else to give us room.

Usually, to end something means we are about to begin something different.

This is true in all aspects of life.

In a relationship.

In our careers.

In our businesses.

In our residences.

Indeed, in just about any aspect of our lives.

When we approach them with the same enthusiasm, we do better.

When we approach them with a judgment that one is better than another, we create more stress for ourselves.

It is easy to think that beginnings are better than endings.

Or that ending a difficult situation is better than beginning one.

Yet, that is not always true.

In fact, the mere attitude that one is better than another causes us to not fare as well in one situation compared to the other.

Both serve a great purpose.

Both are necessary in any cycle.

Both are an inherent part of life.

The less we judge them, the more we can be present to the gift that each of them are.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

The Growth Of Walking A New Path Can Be Its Own Reward

The pain of birth is something only a woman knows.

Yet the gestation and birth of our ideas can be equally uncomfortable.

We work hard to create something new.

Often from very little or nothing at all.

We stare into blank space awaiting the vision to come to us.

Before us are many paths to take.

How do we choose?

What muse will inspire us?

And when we have our stoke of insight, the task is just begun.

Then come the long hours.

The sleepless nights.

The self doubts and the criticism.

Is what we are building really worth it?

Are the sacrifices and the pain leading somewhere, or will it all be in vain?

Then, we come to the moment of truth.

We launch.

We publish.

We present our ideas.

We unveil our work of art.

We open our business.

We start our career.

We complete and we begin.

Will people come?

Will the critics praise?

Will the buyers buy?

Now that we have birthed our child, will anyone care?

Perhaps it is not important if anyone cares, as long as we do.

Maybe it is not about launching as much as it is about building.

We built our muscles in the process.

Either physical or emotional or spiritual.

We traveled on a new path that brought us to an unknown destination.

The mere act of putting all the effort into it may be its own reward.

Perhaps we can learn to see our own growth as the greatest reward of all.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

The More We Surrender To Life, The More It Supports Us

We all feel it sometimes.

The pressure we’re under when there is a lot to get done.

That pressure usually does not come from others.

It comes from a place deep inside ourselves.

The need to do more.

The need to show others we can handle it.

The need to prove ourselves to others.

What would it be like if we let go of that need?

If we could just do what needed to get down without a single thought about what others would say?

What if we just allowed the universe to support us and surrender to the path in front of us?

All too often we feel that Life is not supporting us.

Do we give Life a chance to show up for us?

Do we allow the space for events to conspire to help us?

The lack of trust often stifles the channels that could bring us help.

We do not even think of asking for help or letting people know what we are going through.

The fact that we do not even think of it shows how deeply programmed we are not to trust.

It is not necessarily about trusting other people.

It is not about trusting ourselves.

It is about believing in our heart that we deserve the help and that we will be helped.

It’s about knowing that Life is actually conspiring to serve us and support us more than we know.

To believe, in our heart of hearts, that we will be helped regardless of anything we have or have not done, is huge.

That change in beliefs does not usually happen overnight, yet it can.

At the very least we can move in that direction.

We can lean into the thought that Life supports us no matter what.

Gently, over time, we can walk that path more and more.

Until one day we see the evidence all around us that it is true.

Life does support us as we surrender into it.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Allowing Others To Help Us Is Giving Them The Gift Of Giving

Accepting help is not always easy for us.

We’re trained to be independent.

Sometimes relying on others can be disappointing.

Mostly, it is about learning to receive.

To get past the shame and feelings of unworthiness.

To know that we do deserve the help we want and need.

That others are willing and looking to help us.

And that by not asking for help, we are denying someone else a chance to give.

We all feel good about giving to others when it comes from our heart.

When we are in harmony with our spirit, we naturally like to help people.

Yet we often forget that other people feel the exact same way.

We feel that we don’t want to bother them.

That we don’t want to be a burden.

That they have better things to do with their time than help us.

Nothing is further from the truth.

This is not to say that there are not some people who don’t want to help others.

Of course there are.

However, the people who know you, like you, and trust you, do not feel that way about you.

You have been there for them in the past.

They also want to be there for you.

Not out of obligation.

Not out of guilt.

Out of a feeling of joy.

A feeling of flow.

To experience life from all sides.

For every giver there has to be a receiver.

For every person that wants to help, there has to be someone to help.

Why would we deny someone the chance to be that giver?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Growth Causes Disruption Which Is Exactly How We Grow

We usually don’t like change.

It causes a disruption in our lives.

Disruption often brings with it some uncomfortable situations.

Yet that is exactly how growth takes place.

When we stretch ourselves beyond what we’ve done before.

When we push ourselves to move into new areas we have never visited before.

It all means we are growing.

And growth means disruption.

Disruption can be a force for good.

And it can mean that your job will no longer exist in a few years.

Disruption means we have to learn new things.

Which left to ourselves, perhaps we would never learn.

Growth pulls us forward into new ways of being.

It changes our world.

And it causes the world to change around us.

The real question is whether we will embrace growth or not?

Do we meet disruption head on and allow it to take us someplace new?

Or do we build walls around us, hoping they will keep all change from entering our lives?

Yet nothing we can do will stop the growth that is a natural part of life.

Our life today is far different than it was five, ten or twenty years ago.

Who knows what it will be five years from now?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

By Changing Ourselves We Change Our World

Changing our environment and our surroundings is easy.

We can pick up and move to a different building or a different town.

We can change our job or our business.

Yet unless we change ourselves we will still end up in similar circumstances.

Like that friend of yours who always end up dating the same type of person.

Or the relative who always complains about their co-workers no matter where they are working.

Yes, sometimes a shift in our location is what we need to grow and expand.

Then again, if we are expecting the change in environment to completely change our world, then we will be disappointed.

That is because it is our energy and our internal state that dictates what kind of people and situations unfold before us.

Our energy attracts a certain kind of partner.

Our beliefs attract various opportunities and experiences to us.

Our attitudes will determine how we respond to what is presented to us, which will lead to specific results.

If we find that we constantly end up in the same type of situation, then it is about something within us, not the outside world.

When we change, truly change on a deep level, our world changes.

Our friends change.

Our family changes.

Our boss changes.

Our job/business/career changes.

Do not look at this as a burden.

It is a great opportunity and a source of empowerment.

We can change ourselves, and by changing ourselves, we change our world.

Nothing can take that away from us.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant