Wanting Pain To End Is Not Bad – It Is Human

It is hard to admit when we are in pain that we just want it to stop.

We don’t care about the consequences, all we care about is stopping the pain.

Perhaps the pain is seeing a loved one dying, and we just want it to be over.

Perhaps the pain is seeing our own deterioration, and we just want to end.

Perhaps the pain is seeing someone else destroy themselves, and we can’t take it anymore.

It’s normal and human to want it to end.

The hard part is accepting how we feel about it without judging ourselves.

It is easy to fall into guilt, shame, and self-loathing over how we feel.

Yet those emotions do not serve us, and indeed, harm us.

What must we do to accept that we are human and we it is all right to want the pain to stop?

It doesn’t mean we have to act on it.

It doesn’t mean we have to do something about it.

It just means that we are in pain and we want it to stop.

Can we learn to forgive ourselves for that desire?

Can we learn to let go of the guilt and shame and be gentler to  ourselves?

Can we learn to love ourselves enough that we forgive ourselves in spite of how we feel?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

You Can Be Right Or You Can Be Happy – You Can Rarely Be Both

We never really win an argument.

No matter how hard we try to convince the other person that they are wrong, they will only dig in their heels.

If anything, they will only be more convinced they are right.

And if by some miracle we do get them to concede that we are right and they are wrong, they will remain angry at us.

If we lose, we lose, and if we win, we lose.

Perhaps because we are playing the wrong game?

Maybe what we should be concerned with is not winning, but being happy.

The old adage is ” You can be right, or you can be happy, but you can rarely be both.”

If we change our focus from one of winning to one of happiness, we can play a totally different game.

And then we play in a totally different way.

Because now it is not about the end result, it is about how we play.

When we give up our need to be right and focus on our desire to be happy, we can joyful skip down the road.

We can let others have whatever opinions they want to have.

As long as we’re happy, who cares?

Yet being in that joyful place will attract others to wonder why are you so happy?

Maybe then they also will give up the need to be right and focus on being happy instead.

That is how we all win.

So let’s stop playing the win-lose type of game, and learn to play more win-win games.

After all, aren’t they much more fun?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

When We Show Up Better The World Shows Up Better For Us

Showing up better in our lives is not about comparing ourselves to others.

Showing up better is not necessarily about being smarter, stronger, or faster.

Showing up better in our lives is about just being better than we were the day before.

Even small improvements, tiny changes, can have a big impact over time.

When we take better care of ourselves, we show up better.

When we are more kind and gentle to ourselves, we show up better.

When we nurture and encourage ourselves, we show up better.

The thing is, we don’t have to show up better for anyone else.

It’s not a condition or responsibility that we owe to anyone other than ourselves.

We show up better so we can feel better, more alive, more empowered.

We show up better so we can have a greater sense of contribution or service.

We show up better so we can have a more profound impact on the world around us.

It doesn’t take huge leaps and bounds to get there.

We just need to recognize the ways in which we know and feel we can be better, and then just work on those aspects a little at a time.

When we show up better, the world shows up better for us.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

We Are Not Broken And Don’t Need to Be Fixed We Are Perfectly Imperfect

It is easy to fall into the trap of thinking that there is something wrong with us.

It is not unusual to feel that we are broken, and need to be fixed.

That is not the truth.

Actually, we are perfect exactly the way we are.

This does not mean that we do not desire to do better.

What it is really is about is accepting ourselves exactly the way we are without judgment or criticism.

We all feel not good enough. We all feel unworthy.

The thing is, that’s usually our greatest gift!

It may seem counter-intuitive, yet the very things we are trying so hard to change, are our greatest assets.

We just have to learn how to reframe and reinterpret that part of our lives.

Our faults and our flaws are what make us human.

Sure, we can learn to do better and there is nothing wrong with wanted to improve.

In fact, doing that deep internal work is the great work of a lifetime.

It just means that we don’t have to judge ourselves in the process. Or others for that matter.

We are not here to beat ourselves up or pick at every little mistake we make.

It is primarily through our mistakes that we learn and grow. There is nothing wrong with making a mistake.

So let’s find a way to stop marinating in our misery and see ourselves as perfectly imperfect.

Let’s be not just a little kinder to ourselves, but a lot kinder to ourselves!

Live is meant to be joyful, not painful and demeaning.

Let’s let our light shine even though the dark spots are visible.

Being human is a lot easier than living up to some false ideal.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

We Don’t Need Another Strategy We Need To Just Look Deep Inside

It is not so uncommon to feel that we need another strategy to move forward.

We feel that when we find that the one missing key we will be able to change our lives.

Yet what we really need is not another system or blueprint.

The fallacy in this thinking is that we need something external to us to change our lives.

The only way to change how life feels to us and move forward in an authentic way is to look deep inside.

We do not need another book or another seminar to teach us something that is already in our heart.

We do not need another workshop or another experience to show us how to be different.

When we look inside ourselves at the real work we need to do, we know the answer before we ask the question.

What we need more than anything else is the opportunity to work on ourselves without distraction.

What we want more than anything else is to connect with our soul and heal the deep wounds.

What serves us more than anything else is to be present to our feelings and our unexpressed emotions.

When we look internally instead of externally, we find all the answers we require to move forward in our lives.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Making Time To Be With Yourself Is The Greatest Gift We Give The World

Taking time for ourselves does not mean we are taking time from something else.

Giving ourselves the gift of just being with ourselves can be huge.

When we make it a priority in our lives we are better able to be present for others.

It may not seem like that at the time. It may feel a bit selfish.

Yet no matter how we take time to be with ourselves, we can then show up for others in a more clear and open manner.

Yes, we all have responsibilities and roles to play.

Yes, we all have so many things pulling at our attention.

Yes, it takes some effort to make the time to meditate or take a walk by ourselves.

That effort though will be greatly rewarded with the peace and serenity we are cultivating.

It is not about forcing ourselves to do what we feel we should be doing.

It is not about living up to some promise.

It is about being generous with ourselves because we all deserve it.

The funny thing is, the more generous we are with ourselves, the more generous can be with others.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

We Are Flow Not Something That Experiences Flow

Being In The Flow is something we all strive for.

That feeling that everything is just going right, and it all seems so easy.

Yet there seems to be a lot of confusion of how to get there or how to maintain that feeling.

Perhaps part of the issue is that we don’t really understand what it means to be In The Flow?

Of course, it can mean different things to different people. For many people, it is just a feeling that they know when they feel it, yet have a hard time describing it.

For many people, it is just a feeling that they know when they feel it, yet have a hard time describing it.

And maybe the biggest confusion is that we think Flow is something separate or apart from us.

The image of a river flowing, and how we have to jump in it to be carried by the water often comes up.

Could there be a better way of understanding Flow?

From an energetic perspective, Flow is not something distinct or separate from us.

Flow is what surrounds and engulfs us every moment of every day.

We are Flow, we are not something that experiences Flow.

We Flow, and as we Flow we experience being present in a unique way.

We Flow in our lives, in our jobs, in our relationships, and in all the moments in between.

Even when we are in resistance we are experiencing Flow, just a Flow of a different nature.

So instead of thinking How Do I Get Into Flow, try thinking What Flow Am I Experiencing Now?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

In a world where we are constantly surrounded by people, finding time to be with oneself can be difficult.

So many demands are put on us by other people, and with our constantly on devices, we are always reachable.

Yet taking time away from it all to be with ourselves is exactly what we need.

To find balance, to find peace, to find direction in our lives, we need the time to process all the stimulus we get on a daily basis.

To know ourselves on a deep level, we need time in quiet and solitude to actually feel what is going on inside of us.

How can we really connect with ourselves if our attention is constantly pulled to the outside world?

How can we find our inspiration if we are continuously exposed to the bombardment of information?

How do we learn what we truly have to give to the world if we cannot experience the stillness to feel our heart’s beat?

We think we have to always be there for other people. So many people rely on us, so many people want us.

Yet, we cannot truly be there for anyone else if we have not given ourselves the opportunity to be there for ourselves first.

It’s not about taking time off from work or from your business, it’s about taking the time to just be with yourself without any distractions or activity.

Learning to enjoy our own company is important, and the gifts we receive from it are enormous.

So let’s all look for  more ways for us to be peaceful and present with ourselves, and see what magic arises.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Although we do not like to think about it, death is our constant companion.

Most people fear death, for it is the great unknown.

That is because we don’t understand how to use it properly in our lives.

Death is a part of our lives, and we can use it to help be more present on a daily basis.

Death helps to give us perspective and to see what is truly important to us.

Death helps us to let go of the inconsequential and sharpen our focus.

Death is the reminder that all things are impermanent.

The conversation around death in our culture is one that only sees it as a loss in life.

It is so much more.

The most important aspect of death is our own death.

From seeing our own death more clearly we empower ourselves to be more decisive.

Death is not a trap or a fiend. Death is a tool.

Not one to use against another person. It is a tool to use against our own bad habits.

Death is the purest characteristic of life as it treats everyone the same.

Death comes to everyone – the old, the young, the sick and the healthy.

When we keep death as our constant companion we are free of the attachments that limit us.

Death is the ultimate transformation, yet we do not have to wait until we meet it to transform.

Death can transform our lives for the better if we allow it to.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Some say faith is believing in what we cannot see.

Often, faith is relegated to the religious or spiritual.

Yet, do we not all have to have faith in our vision and our goals in order to move forward?

Do we not have to have faith in ourselves and our abilities in order to create something new?

Believing in what we cannot see externally does not mean we cannot see it internally.

Indeed, it all starts with an internal vision for what we desire to bring into this world.

Is our vision of a new business, a new building, or a new organization to feed the poor?

Do we not have a vision for what our lives will look like in a few days, a few weeks, or a few years?

Vision and Faith go hand in hand and are essential for us to move forward regardless how we apply them.

Perhaps our belief in ourselves is a little tenuous, and not as strong as we would like it to be.

Yet we still carry on and move forward, acting as if it will still manifest.

We cannot be any other way. If we do not have faith then we would never start our next project or our next venture.

It is time to reclaim Faith from the religious connotation it has been carrying for years and turn it back into one that empowers and supports us.

Our faith can bring us together, not divide us, if we allow it.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant