Seeing what we don’t want to see about ourselves is some of the hardest work we can do.

Self-examination, self-reflection, and self-analysis is key to truly knowing ourselves. It’s not easy. and it’s not for the timid. It is easy to fool ourselves and believe that we are better than we really are.

It takes true courage and true strength to be raw and vulnerable, especially to ourselves.

None of us want to admit to ourselves that our motives are not so pure, that our desires are more base than we thought. Yet without that inner inspection, without that courageous vision to see ourselves as we truly are and not as we want to be, we cannot change.

We get blindsided by our own faults, our own flaws when we refuse to see them. Others can trick us and get to us through those little hidden dark places we refuse to examine.

It’s not so much about fixing ourselves, although that will happen as well. It’s about shining the light so we can see ourselves more clearly, bring a higher awareness of ourselves, so we can then watch for those little traps that keep us from being true to our ideals and our real spiritual identity.


Stillness is something we achieve internally. Peace is not about our surroundings, it is about our heart.

Many times we feel that tranquility can only be achieved in monasteries and mountaintops. Yet when we achieve the peace inside, it doesn’t matter if we are in the middle of Times Square or the Alps.

Our projection onto the environment around us causes us to lose balance. Our attachments to things being one way or another causes grief around those very same objects.

It is not about detachment, as it is about non-judgment. Can we learn to accept the honking car as no better or worse than a tree?

Can we learn to see a skyscraper as equal to a waterfall?

Making one thing better than another causes us to loose sight ofthe fact that there is good and bad in everything. There is positive and negative in all that surrounds us.

Where is our focus? Where is our appreciation of the light and the dark?

Just as the Yin-Yang symbol has both within each other, it is incomplete without both aspects.

When we truly accept in our heart that all of this is necessary for the universe to unfold perfectly, then we achieve true peace and harmony.


Chaos is all around us. It takes on many forms and many manifestations. Chaos is not the problem. Our response to chaos is.

Do we roll with it? Do we try to change it? Do we allow it to move us in new directions? Or do we just try to ignore it?

Many think that power comes from forcing chaos to conform to their will. This usually leads to some very unpleasant results.

Real power comes from knowing how to surf with chaos, riding the waves that take us to some unknown destination. Yes, it can be difficult to surrender to the power of chaos.

Yet when we do, we can allow life to propel us forward at amazing speeds, past untold challenges, to someplace unimagined.

Chaos brings change, and with it, exposure to the depths of our imagination. That is not something to force, but to revel in.


Changing our habits takes effort. It also takes something more.

To truly change, it is not about the external movements we make. It is about something more, something deeper.

All change happens in our hearts first. It’s something we feel on the inside, that then radiates out. If not, then the change does not last.

It is common for us to focus on the external behaviors, not the internal dialogue, not the why we feel about ourselves. Yet, our shifting our feelings first, is the start of a process that carries us all the way.

Making change can be discouraging when we work on the external first.

Let’s choose to work on the internal first. Let’s decide the come into alignment first with the change we want to see in ourselves, then we take action.

When we do that, the action flows. It feels like less effort. It becomes more natural. And then the change we make is long lasting…


You matter in the world.

It may not seem like it some of the time, yet you do.

You matter to your family, your friends, your acquaintances.

You matter to your business, your job, your industry.

You matter to your neighborhood, your town, your city, your state, your country.

You matter because it takes every drop to fill a bucket of water. You matter because your unique expression, your voice, your ideas, your presence enriches life itself.

There is no one quite like you. There is no one who can fully take your place.

There is no one who can be another you!

Share yourself. Speak up for yourself. Let us know you exist and you have something to say. Most of all, let us see your heart, your soul, and your spirit in your message.

Let it inspire us, move us and inform us in a way that no one else can.

You matter.


Self-care has become a greater part of daily conversations.

In the past, no one really talked about it, or even used the term “Self-care.” Now, you can hear it in many daily conversations either directly or indirectly.

Yet for each of us, what we mean by Self-care can be vastly different.

For some of us, it might be just about pampering ourselves. For others, it is about how we manage our energy. And yet for others, it can just be about how much space we give ourselves in our schedule.

Ultimately, it is not about a specific action or practice, but about what makes us feel better. It’s about how we show love to ourselves, how we show how we care about ourselves.

It is not about being self-centered or egotistical, it is about recognizing how important it is for us to take care of ourselves first, so we can show up as our best selves in the world.

If more of us did that, what kind of world would we be living in?


Is there a difference between focus, intention and expectation?

When we focus on one thing to help bring it into our awareness, does that not carry intention with it?

When we set an intention, do we not have an expectation that the intention will be fulfilled?

What then distinguishes these three words?

Our focus goes from one thing to another. It creates the feelings around what we experience and is the essential part of our choices.

Intention takes our focus and then puts even more energy behind it to create something new. Our intention is more about what is to come than what currently is.

Expectation arrives on the scene when we start to attach to a specific outcome. Expectation causes us to making meaning from the fulfillment or lack of fulfillment of our vision.

To avoid getting caught in the cycle of disappointment that often accompanies expectation, learning to be open to the unimagined ways something can work out is most valuable.

We focus and then intend. The universe responds, and it usually does so in ways far beyond our imagination…


We often feel that the lower sides of our nature are something to get rid of, suppress, or excise.

Yet, we were born with these natures, these karmas for a reason.

They are a part of us and they serve us in a very fundamental way. They are our greatest teachers and the very aspects we came here to learn about and evolve.

They are not something to run away from or disavow ourselves of. They are something to love, and that may be our greatest challenge.

When we can love these sides of ourselves, bathe them in light, talk to them, listen to them, and truly own them, then our lives transform.

Are there aspects of yourself that you are running away from? What would happen if you started to love those aspects and cherish them instead?

Who would you be if you truly loved every aspect that lives inside you?


Many say that our past creates our future.

While this may be true in some cases, it is actually our unrecognized past that creates our future.

When we live without regard to the experiences that shape our lives, then we are not aware of the patterns that are formed and then played out in our daily life.

When we use our life as a means to identify what patterns drive us, then we can bring true consciousness to our past, present, and future.

We become present to the things that make us feel unsafe, angry, sad, depressed. We can also be more in tune with what supports us, builds us up, and makes us feel safe.

Awareness is the first step to living a more conscious life. Recognition of the source of our patterns is key to changing those patterns.

How do you recognize your patterns? How do you shift and change those ancient, instinctual devices that run our lives?


Standing up for ourselves can be one of the most powerful lessons we can learn.

Yet, it is not really about how we respond to other people or what we say yes or no to.

It is not about facing down a bully or leaving an abuser.

It is about standing up for ourselves to ourselves, deep inside of us.

It is about being aware of where we are making our choices unconsciously, based on our programming, and not what we truly desire.

It is about saying yes or no from a place of inner-authority and inner-knowing, not from a place of reaction and defense.

When we stand up for ourselves internally, then we show up externally from a place of true sovereignty.