20170905

There is really only one way to understand the world around us.

Many people have come up with all kinds of theories about why things are the way they are, how things got this way, and what to make of it all.

These ideas can be helpful, yet all we really have to do to understand the world around us is to truly understand ourselves.

Not in a superficial, ego-centered fashion that makes everything all about us.

To understand ourselves in a primal, emotive way, that reveals our deepest fears and our highest aspirations. When we can be truly honest with ourselves about what we desire and what motivates us, them we can begin to see the same desires and motivations being played out before our eyes.

When we admit to ourselves our trauma, our most ferocious fears, and our most terrifying nightmares, then we can begin to tame the violence we see around us within our own heart.

As we come to terms with all of these aspects of ourselves, and more, we begin to come to terms with all the outward manifestations of these energies.

When we find the peace within us, we move through life in peace.

20170831

Commitment is about much more than just making a decision.

Yes, it starts with a decision, a decision that has been weighed carefully, outcomes considered, and the responsibilities that go with the commitment.

All too often we commit to something without truly considering the implications. Once the full consequences of the commitment are revealed, we then retreat and often end up breaking our commitment.

When we start taking our commitments more seriously, as something sacred, we may not get into them so easily, and when we do, our word is our bond and we fully live up to it.

If we find we are having a hard time living up to all of our commitments, that is the time to examine how we enter into our commitments, and whether we are truly reflecting on what it mean to make a commitment in the first place.

We can all do better around our commitments if we just take our time before entering them, really reflect upon them, and only commit when it is in alignment with our heart and our spirit.

20170829

When we allow others to be who they are, without having to change them or get them to believe what we believe, we actually give ourselves more freedom to be who we are.

What calls to us to change in others is merely a reflection of what we desire to change within ourselves.

It might not seem directly applicable, yet in some way the very things that annoy us about someone else, that irk us about someone else, that cause us to cringe when we think about this other person, are the very same hidden dark corners of our psyche that we feel are untenable.

We usually think it’s all about the other person. It’s not. It’s always about us. If we didn’t have that irritating thorn in our own side that causes us pain when someone else reflects it back to us, then those traits would not annoy us at all.

It is only because those characteristics hit home and ring true within us, that we have a reaction at all.

No, it’s not about them. Yes, it is always about us.

Maybe not directly, maybe not in the same way or about the thing, yet it is there, somewhere, lurking in the recesses of our mind.

Now that we know that, can we be a bit more compassionate for others?

20170824

It is easy to fall into the trap that there are “others” in this world.

Those who do not think the way we do, those who do not talk the way we do, those who do not believe the way we do.

We separate ourselves from other people where we see differences.

The truth is that we are more alike than we are different, we have more in common than divides us.

For we are all people, on one planet. We are one human race, one species, and are members of one global society.

When we learn to take that larger perspective, we will realize that we are all connected, if not in daily life, then by the very molecules that make up bodies, that come from stars that exploded long before we were born.

20170815

Learning the rules is important, for many reasons.

When you learn the rules of the game, any game including life, you understand how to interact with people, what’s acceptable, and what’s not.

If you pay attention, you also learn about how the game is structured, what the game is all about, and whether this is a game you want to play or not.

You then learn when to break the rules, bend the rules, or simply ignore the rules. Of course, there are consequences to all three actions, and sometimes that’s just fine.

Ultimately, it’s all about how we show up and learn about ourselves in relation to the rules. Are you a rule follower? A rule Bender? A rule Breaker? Or are you someone who would just rather play another game entirely.

The choice is always yours, if the rules allow it…

20170727

Starting new, destroying the old, recreating our lives is both liberating and painful.

It is painful because we are often attached to how our life is, to the status quo, to the comfort of knowing what we can expect.

It is liberating because we now have a clean slate, a blank canvas on which to create something completely different from what we had before. There are no restrictions, and no guidelines as well.

It is thrilling to begin anew and be limited only by our own imagination. It can also be scary as it is the most uncertain, unknown place to be.

Once the first line is drawn, once we take the first step, we can feel relief. The blankness of the empty canvas can feel daunting and overwhelming. The surest way to get past those stifling feeling is to just take action, do something, create the first little piece.

When we begin, taking that first step, the second step comes easier. As does the third, the fourth, and then we are in the flow. What we once feared dissolves and transforms into the excitement of creation in process.

Every day is an opportunity to see your life as a blank slate. An opportunity to destroy your life and re-create it in any form you desire.

So what do you desire now? What possibilities are you looking to bring into your life?

20170720

Forgiveness is more than just a virtue.

Forgiveness is more than just an act of kindness.

Forgiveness is more than just a way to feel better.

Forgiveness is the most powerful path to enlightenment, to healing, to wholeness, and to love.

When we forgive we do not just do an act of kindness for another, we are doing an act of kindness for ourselves.

When we forgive we are releasing the hate, the anger, the sadness inside of us that keeps us from our true potential.

We are also releasing the other person from those energetic bonds that cause further pain and suffering. When we wipe the slate clean, we can all start anew, with a fresh perspective and a new outlook on life.

Ultimately, forgiveness is the greatest act of self-care, self-kindness, and self-love we can do. It is also the single greatest act we can do to heal the world.

Who can you forgive today?

20170718

Blaming others is easy.

Pointing fingers, being a victim, putting all our problems on someone else, is what we are taught from a young age as acceptable.

You can do that. No one will stop you, and indeed, other will be happy to join in and add fuel to the fire.

What takes real courage is owning up to our own faults, our own lessons, to our own part of any situation, and take responsibility for it.

Society does not encourage that. After all, if everyone starts to take responsibility for everything in their lives, that empowers them and then they can make changes and society no longer has its hold on them.

For society at large, that’s a dangerous thing to happen.

For the individual, it is the path of most growth and self-actualization.

It may not be a popular point of view, yet the energy of it rings true. When we take responsibility for everything in our lives, when we own it, when we deeply understand that our energy attracts and creates all of life’s situations around us, we are liberated.

Pain may be unavoidable, but suffering is optional. By taking complete responsibility for our lives, we can end the suffering and heal the pain without destroying anything or anyone. We can make changes to our own lives. We can create magic.

What is it that you want? Victimhood or Magic?

20170713

When we seek retribution, we may find satisfaction, but we rarely find peace.

When we seek vengeance, we might find justice, but we rarely find healing.

When we seek to tear down another to build up ourselves, we are building on sand and our house will surely fall.

There is only one right way to heal an injury from another. That is to find the wholeness within ourselves that was never injured, and return to it.

When we seek to hurt another, we not only hurt them, we hurt ourselves. And we hurt ourselves far more than we can ever hurt another.

Has someone done wrong by you? Start by forgiving yourself for being involved, take better care of yourself, and examine what within you is holding that energy active. There is always some kind of energetic pattern that created the situation to begin with.

This is not to say that you should keep the person who wronged you in your life, of course not. Yet that is exactly what we do when we seek retribution, vengeance or harm upon another.

Making peace with ourselves is a far more effective way to find the healing and wholeness that we truly seek.

20170622

There is no such thing as a good time to make a change.

That’s because all the time is a good time to make a change!

We usually wait, find excuses to put it off, look for a sign or the stars to align, until we finally make our move.

The thing is, the best time to jump is NOW!

Now is always the right time to move forward. Now is always the right time to put into action what you’ve been waiting on.

Now is the always the right time to follow your dreams.

Waiting on your dreams does not do anyone any good. Waiting for a better day, never comes. Waiting for everything to line up, just never happens.

Do it now! Take action, ship that product, publish that post, create your book, your class, your song, your piece of art!

The world needs your dreams. The world needs your voice. The world needs your art. Whatever your art is, create it now. Now is all we have…