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Knowing what to do, knowing how to do it, and actually executing on what you want to do are three entirely different things.

Is it important to know what to do? Absolutely!

Do we need to know how to do it? Of course!

Is executing on what it is you really want to do the same thing? Definitely not!

Sometimes we get too caught up in the figuring it out stages and forget that we can have all the best intentions, all the best ideas, and all the best know-how, but without taking action and actually working on the goal, it is all just a mental game.

Even if you are not quite 100% clear on the what, even if you’re not quite how to go about doing it, if you start working on it, if you start by just doing the very first step that’s right in front of you, the what and how will be clearer over time.

Just taking that first step, writing the first paragraph, creating the first outline, making the first phone call, hammering the first nail, planting the first seed, seeing that first client, just doing the very basic first step is the most important action you can take.

Because then the next step becomes obvious. We’ve broken the barrier to begin and overcome inertia. Movement created momentum, and momentum creates our destiny!

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Making the first steps onto a new path are always the scariest.

The path is unknown, the consequences are unknown, and the outcomes are unknown.

That must not stop us from taking those first few steps. With each new step, the path becomes less treacherous, more familiar, and soon we gain confidence.

All great work starts with with one step onto an unknown path. The road traveled by many yields no new insights, no new secrets.

It is only when we have the courage to step outside the well-trodden path that we find treasures no one else found. When we explore new territory, we become rich in experience and knowledge.

Don’t deny the world your courage, for it is in that courage that you spark the hearts and minds of those around you, and that is where real change lies.

Do the great work, the hard work, the important work, for it is in the unknown that we truly get to know ourselves.

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Seeing new possibilities is an art that is developed over time.

We like to think that we are open to new ideas, new places, new people, new ventures, when in fact we are normally creatures of restriction and limitation.

It takes time to focus on expanding our vision and seeing opportunity where before we saw obstacles. It is not natural in our society, so we must cultivate this skill until it does become second nature.

Seeing the new possibilities is like being a child again and having the imagination to see a whole world in just a pile of plastic blocks, or a dinosaur in a lump of play dough.

It takes playing and letting our minds wander though the endless labyrinths of fantasy and fiction, to create new connections and new appreciation for the empty spaces.

How much time do you allow yourself to play?

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To feel our true power takes courage.

Not the kind of courage you’d think you would need.

You need the courage to feel your heart.

Power, like truth, without compassion can be cruel. Yet the real power that is beyond force lies in our ability to come face-to-face with our own soul.

Most people think of the soul as something only light and loving. Yet something as deep and complex as our soul holds so much more. It holds our darkness, as much as our light.

To face that darkness takes real power, real inner strength, a real commitment to know oneself. That is the truest form of courage there is.

And from that comes true strength.

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Changing our habits takes effort. It also takes something more.

To truly change, it is not about the external movements we make. It is about something more, something deeper.

All change happens in our hearts first. It’s something we feel on the inside, that then radiates out. If not, then the change does not last.

It is common for us to focus on the external behaviors, not the internal dialogue, not the why we feel about ourselves. Yet, our shifting our feelings first, is the start of a process that carries us all the way.

Making change can be discouraging when we work on the external first.

Let’s choose to work on the internal first. Let’s decide the come into alignment first with the change we want to see in ourselves, then we take action.

When we do that, the action flows. It feels like less effort. It becomes more natural. And then the change we make is long lasting…

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When we hold things inside, especially for a long period of time, and suppress our true feelings, we get wound up like a tight spring.

After a while, we get so used to being tense, on edge, and guarded.

Our bodies hold the tension, and to us it just feels normal. Until we start to do our work and we begin to unwind.

The unwinding process gets messy, awkward, and even painful, yet it is a necessary step to health and healing. We can’t skip that step, as much as we would like to.

Often times, the unwinding looks and feels like a falling apart. Physically, emotionally, and spiritually, as the repressed energy surfaces, it can be a bit scary for us and the people around us.

If we trust the process and stay with it, the other side of that disastrous-looking time emerges, and with it, peace and a new sense of self.

We can’t stop because we feel worse than before. We can’t shortchange ourselves. Life is calling us forth to heal, and if there wasn’t something better on the other side, we wouldn’t be going through the messy times.

Revel in the mess, for the other side is not just relief, but joy.

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Being different from others is not always easy.

Thinking differently, acting differently, even speaking differently causes those who are not comfortable with themselves to experience something they are not used to.

We get picked on, made fun of, and even ostracized for just being who we are. It is easy to internalize those experiences and feel like there is something wrong with us.

To be strong means to be steadfast in our commitment to be true to ourselves, to being honest and open, even if those around us don’t understand.

It is important, very important.

For if we do not stand strong in our determination to be who we really are, regardless of whether is makes others uncomfortable or not, then we loose the chance to inspire others to be themselves.

We may not realize it, but their eyes are on us as well. If we allow ourselves to be true, then they know it is okay for them to be true as well.

Each person standing up and not allowing others to bully them is the strongest statement of support for all of us to be authentic!

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We are often told that our past defines our future.

That our experiences and our history shape what we will create.

Yet the flaw in this idea is that we have a choice to create new memories, new experiences, and new histories.

Every day we rise with a clean slate and it is up to us what to do with it. Yes, it is easy to fall back into all habits. Yes, it is easy to repeat past mistakes. Yes, it is hard to do something new, something different, something unknown.

What we imagine, what we envision and what we focus on can take us into new directions and new territory.

Life is about growth, and stepping onto a new field of possibilities is both daunting and exciting. So let’s find really good reasons to be excited and get past the daunting part.

Our vision creates our new history!

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We often think that we have to be right in order to stand up for ourselves.

Actually, the two have nothing to do with each other.

Being right can be about making someone else wrong. We’re right and they’re wrong!

Standing up for ourselves is about expressing our needs, our feelings, and our desires. We can state how we feel without making the other person wrong.

Yes, someone’s actions may cause us to respond by feeling bad about something. We may feel like they cheated us, they lied to us, or they manipulated us.

Saying No to someone is not making them wrong, it is merely stating that you do not want what they want.

It is also helpful to remember that a person is not their actions. Someone’s actions may be bad, but that does not mean they are intrinsically a bad person. It also means you do not have to put up with those actions.

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We often feel that the lower sides of our nature are something to get rid of, suppress, or excise.

Yet, we were born with these natures, these karmas for a reason.

They are a part of us and they serve us in a very fundamental way. They are our greatest teachers and the very aspects we came here to learn about and evolve.

They are not something to run away from or disavow ourselves of. They are something to love, and that may be our greatest challenge.

When we can love these sides of ourselves, bathe them in light, talk to them, listen to them, and truly own them, then our lives transform.

Are there aspects of yourself that you are running away from? What would happen if you started to love those aspects and cherish them instead?

Who would you be if you truly loved every aspect that lives inside you?