Bringing Joy To Our Challenges Is How We Glide Through Them

Challenges are not something we need to avoid.

While challenges are not comfortable, they do serve a purpose.

They push us beyond what we thought our limits are.

They help us to get out of our comfort zone and bring real growth.

Just like an animal that must shed it’s skin to grow, the process is uncomfortable.

Just like a seed that must exert immense pressure to break through it’s case, it’s not easy.

Yet in order for our muscles to grow, they need resistance to push against.

In order for us to build our emotional, physical and spiritual muscles, we must push against resistance.

Once we have developed our muscles, then we can dance with it.

After we have gone through our transformation, then we can use our new wings and fly.

When we are in the middle of our challenges, they don’t feel very nice.

Yes, when we are experiencing the very things we want to avoid, we don’t feel good.

And if we can face the challenge without judgment and criticism, we may find it a little easier to get through.

When we judge our experiences and make them wrong or bad we are only making it more difficult for ourselves.

When we release our expectations and let go of our opinions about the challenges we face, then we can allow them to unfold more naturally and more quickly.

In the end, is that not what we truly want? To get through our challenges as quickly as possible?

Then it is up to us to stop resisting them.

The choice and the power is with us.

We can choose to fight against them and try to push them away.

Or we can embrace them.

We can revel in them.

We can bring our joy to them.

And then see what happens…

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

We Create Our Lives Through Our Focus, Energy, and Decisions

Taking responsibility for our lives is not easy.

It means accepting that we create all the good stuff and all the bad stuff in our lives.

It means there is no one else to blame for our situation.

Yet it also means we are empowered to create something different.

Often, we fall into the trap of making excuses and blaming others for where we are in life.

We are where we are because of our parents, our teachers, our coaches, our bosses, or our lovers.

We are sad or angry or upset because of what someone else has done.

We cannot do what we truly want because of our responsibilities to others.

Yet, who agreed to be in those situations to begin with?

How we came to our choices and decisions may go far back.

Perhaps a decision we made in school had far reaching effects on our lives.

At the time, we had no clue how that one little choice would send us in a totally different trajectory.

And step by step, we move towards one thing or away from another.

The energy we put into each situation has consequences and moves us further towards or away from what we want.

As days and weeks and months pass, we may even forget that original choice.

Years go by and instead of being in one place we are in a completely different place.

So who is say that it’s better or worse than someplace else?

Ultimately it is a place of our own making.

It is a place formulated by our own choices.

It is a situation that  arises from the energy we put out.

Yes, that means we are responsible for where we are.

Yes, that mean we have to take credit for all the bad as well as all the good around us.

Yes, that means we have created our lives to be exactly how they are at this moment.

The good news is that we can always learn to make different choices.

As long as we are still breathing, we have an opportunity to do something different.

The real question is, what are we going to do with this power?

What are we going to create next in our lives?

Who are we going to show up as and be next?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Strength Does Not Come From Force It Comes From Being Vulnerable

Being strong is not about strength.

Being strong does not mean we are domineering.

Being strong is not about being forceful.

Being strong is about something far more powerful.

True strength comes from deep inside ourselves.

Strength is an intimate connection to our souls.

Strength is the power that comes from seeing ourselves clearly.

Strength is the knowing that we are the creators of our world through our choices and our intentions.

We are strong when we make conscious decisions in our lives.

We are strong when we refrain from using our strength.

And we are the strongest when we allow ourselves to be the most vulnerable.

True strength is the will to exercise our power as a force for good.

Might only makes right when the might is used to uplift and support.

It is easy to use our muscles to hurt another.

It is easy to use intimidation to control another.

These are signs of weakness, not strength.

It is far harder and more difficult to be a gentle giant than to be a bully.

The world does not need more cowards hiding behind masks of power.

The world needs more people who have the courage and strength to be true, honest, and authentic.

Real strength comes from being a real person.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Standing Up For Ourselves Is Not Selfish It Is How We Meet Our Needs

For some of us, the lesson of standing up for ourselves is a big one.

We have been taught to be nice and not cause trouble.

We give in too easy to others or we do not ask for what we want or need.

There is a better way to show up.

We can stand up for ourselves without being belligerent.

We can stand up for ourselves and ask for what we need without getting emotional.

We can stand up for ourselves by simply saying no.

Standing up for ourselves does not mean we are being selfish.

It does not mean we are self-centered.

It only means that we value ourselves and our needs.

If we all learned to stand up for ourselves in a firm yet gentle manner, life would be clearer.

Boundaries would be more evident.

Desires would be more out in the open.

And when our desires do not match what the other is willing or able to give,  we can walk away without any hard feelings.

Expectations would be clear from the start.

Our positions at work and at home would be apparent.

And because all of these things would be more recognizable, we would actually receive more of what we need.

What kind of world would we be living in if that were the case?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

It Is Only By Loving Where We Come From That We Can Truly Love Ourselves

Self-love appears to be difficult to achieve.

There are so many things about ourselves that seem to get in the way.

Everything from what we have been told since we where children to what we have experienced as adults.

There always seems to be more reasons not to love ourselves than to love ourselves.

Yet, we can achieve that peaceful place.

It does take work. It does take self-reflection.

Mostly, it takes the willingness to look at all sides of ourselves and love them.

It means not just loving who we are, it means loving where we come from.

That is often the toughest part.

Can we love our family?

Can we love our parents?

Regardless of our experience or our perceptions, if we can not love our parents, how can we love ourselves?

After all, our parents are a part of ourselves.

They live inside of us.

They are in our DNA.

Their imprint on us is a large part of who we are.

It may not be easy to do, especially when there is abuse and trauma involved.

Yet when we come to that point, that point of forgiveness and acceptance, we achieve great peace.

When we learn to love the unlovable, we have truly learn to love ourselves.

Yes, it is a process.

Yes, it takes time.

Yes, it often takes guidance and support from other people.

Yet when we arrive, regardless of how much effort or struggle it took, we find it more than worth it.

Are you ready to begin your journey of self-love and self-acceptance?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Self-Care Is Essential For Our Own Well-Being And The Well-Being Of Others

We often feel pressure to be of service to others.

Sometimes that works out well.

Other times it wears us down.

If we don’t learn to balance out self-care with service, we can end up with some serious challenges.

It is easy to think of other’s needs and put our own needs to the side.

We feel that if we just show up for others and help them with their challenges we don’t have to worry about ourselves.

Yet that isn’t how things usually work out.

We put ourselves second, or last, and then we have a breakdown while trying to help others.

The breakdown can come in many forms.

It can be physical, it can be emotional, or it can be in our relationships.

What we often don’t understand is that the breakdown occurs exactly because we put our own needs behind that of someone else.

Whether it is a friend, a relative, a partner, or a business, it doesn’t matter.

By not meeting our own needs, by not recognizing that we have to take care of ourselves first, we head down a track that ultimately leads to some kind of breakdown.

The fact that the breakdown occurs is not a bad thing. It is a signal.

It is a signal that we haven’t been operating from a compassionate place and that something needs to change.

Yes, we need to be compassionate to others.

Yet how can we be compassionate to other if we have not yet been compassionate for ourselves?

The breakdown is to show us we need to practice self-care.

Self-care means we have to take care of our own needs in order to have what we need to take care of others.

Practicing self-care is essential for our own well-being as well as the well-being of others.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Not Giving The Answer Allows People To Grow and Trust Themselves

How do we empower others?

How do we, as coaches, teachers, guides, parents, bosses, and managers, help those we interact with, find their way?

Do we give them all the answers?

Do we tell them all that we have learned?

Or do we guide them to find the answers within themselves?

Handing someone the answer to a challenge they are facing may feel good to use, yet if the person we are trying to help does not learn to find the answers on their own, we have only disempowered them, not empower them.

Being a real guide, a true mentor, means learning to ask the questions that allow them to realize what the correct path is for themselves.

We may think we know the answer.

We may think we have the solution to their issues.

Yet if all we do is share our opinion with them, they have not learned how to access their own inner wisdom.

We have not taught them that they do have the power to resolve their own issues.

We have not given them the gift of our presence and allowed them to use their creativity and trust themselves more.

It does not matter whether the person we are working with is our partner, our lover, our child, our employee, or our co-worker.

It does not matter how important or unimportant the situation may be.

We are only enticing the people around us to find their own path through their own efforts, or we are taking that opportunity away from them.

When we create dependency for others, we create slaves.

When we create the atmosphere for independent thinking, we allow people to grow.

What do you want to create? Follower or fellow leaders?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

To Create A Kinder World We Only Have To Be Kinder Ourselves

We all crave to live in a more friendly and compassionate world.

We want to feel safe to live and be who we are.

We long for the feeling of community and camaraderie.

So it is important to look at what we are doing to create that kind of world.

Are we being friendlier to others?

Are we expressing our compassion for others, even complete strangers?

Do we engage in rituals and activities that engender the feeling of community?

It is time to stop waiting for others to change, and to make the change ourselves.

If we desire to see a world that is more gentle and kind, then it is time for us to be more gentle and kind.

Be the change you want to see in the world” is not just a pretty slogan, it is the way to live.

The power is in our hands, we can and do make a difference every day.

We make a difference by being nice when someone else is in a rush and not being mindful.

We make a difference by being soft when others are being hard.

We make a difference by showing our kindness to those in need.

We make a difference with our presence, our words, and our actions.

Even one small step goes a long way to creating a friendlier world.

What can you contribute to a kinder, gentler planet?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

To Truly Help Others Is To Empower Them To Find Their Own Answers

We often think that when we give someone the answer we are helping them.

By being the shining knight we feel good about rescuing the person from their situation.

In the long run that only makes them depend upon someone else.

To truly help others is to empower them.

Empower them to find their own answers.

Empower them to trust their feelings.

Empower them to see that everything they need is already inside of them.

We do not need more gurus or more masters.

What we need is to be shown how to be our own guru.

When we become truly self-reliant we can achieve amazing things.

Ultimately, our job is to help the other person to see that they don’t need us.

Now that’s empowerment!

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

When We Show Up Better The World Shows Up Better For Us

Showing up better in our lives is not about comparing ourselves to others.

Showing up better is not necessarily about being smarter, stronger, or faster.

Showing up better in our lives is about just being better than we were the day before.

Even small improvements, tiny changes, can have a big impact over time.

When we take better care of ourselves, we show up better.

When we are more kind and gentle to ourselves, we show up better.

When we nurture and encourage ourselves, we show up better.

The thing is, we don’t have to show up better for anyone else.

It’s not a condition or responsibility that we owe to anyone other than ourselves.

We show up better so we can feel better, more alive, more empowered.

We show up better so we can have a greater sense of contribution or service.

We show up better so we can have a more profound impact on the world around us.

It doesn’t take huge leaps and bounds to get there.

We just need to recognize the ways in which we know and feel we can be better, and then just work on those aspects a little at a time.

When we show up better, the world shows up better for us.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant