Self-Care Is Essential For Our Own Well-Being And The Well-Being Of Others

We often feel pressure to be of service to others.

Sometimes that works out well.

Other times it wears us down.

If we don’t learn to balance out self-care with service, we can end up with some serious challenges.

It is easy to think of other’s needs and put our own needs to the side.

We feel that if we just show up for others and help them with their challenges we don’t have to worry about ourselves.

Yet that isn’t how things usually work out.

We put ourselves second, or last, and then we have a breakdown while trying to help others.

The breakdown can come in many forms.

It can be physical, it can be emotional, or it can be in our relationships.

What we often don’t understand is that the breakdown occurs exactly because we put our own needs behind that of someone else.

Whether it is a friend, a relative, a partner, or a business, it doesn’t matter.

By not meeting our own needs, by not recognizing that we have to take care of ourselves first, we head down a track that ultimately leads to some kind of breakdown.

The fact that the breakdown occurs is not a bad thing. It is a signal.

It is a signal that we haven’t been operating from a compassionate place and that something needs to change.

Yes, we need to be compassionate to others.

Yet how can we be compassionate to other if we have not yet been compassionate for ourselves?

The breakdown is to show us we need to practice self-care.

Self-care means we have to take care of our own needs in order to have what we need to take care of others.

Practicing self-care is essential for our own well-being as well as the well-being of others.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Not Giving The Answer Allows People To Grow and Trust Themselves

How do we empower others?

How do we, as coaches, teachers, guides, parents, bosses, and managers, help those we interact with, find their way?

Do we give them all the answers?

Do we tell them all that we have learned?

Or do we guide them to find the answers within themselves?

Handing someone the answer to a challenge they are facing may feel good to use, yet if the person we are trying to help does not learn to find the answers on their own, we have only disempowered them, not empower them.

Being a real guide, a true mentor, means learning to ask the questions that allow them to realize what the correct path is for themselves.

We may think we know the answer.

We may think we have the solution to their issues.

Yet if all we do is share our opinion with them, they have not learned how to access their own inner wisdom.

We have not taught them that they do have the power to resolve their own issues.

We have not given them the gift of our presence and allowed them to use their creativity and trust themselves more.

It does not matter whether the person we are working with is our partner, our lover, our child, our employee, or our co-worker.

It does not matter how important or unimportant the situation may be.

We are only enticing the people around us to find their own path through their own efforts, or we are taking that opportunity away from them.

When we create dependency for others, we create slaves.

When we create the atmosphere for independent thinking, we allow people to grow.

What do you want to create? Follower or fellow leaders?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

To Create A Kinder World We Only Have To Be Kinder Ourselves

We all crave to live in a more friendly and compassionate world.

We want to feel safe to live and be who we are.

We long for the feeling of community and camaraderie.

So it is important to look at what we are doing to create that kind of world.

Are we being friendlier to others?

Are we expressing our compassion for others, even complete strangers?

Do we engage in rituals and activities that engender the feeling of community?

It is time to stop waiting for others to change, and to make the change ourselves.

If we desire to see a world that is more gentle and kind, then it is time for us to be more gentle and kind.

Be the change you want to see in the world” is not just a pretty slogan, it is the way to live.

The power is in our hands, we can and do make a difference every day.

We make a difference by being nice when someone else is in a rush and not being mindful.

We make a difference by being soft when others are being hard.

We make a difference by showing our kindness to those in need.

We make a difference with our presence, our words, and our actions.

Even one small step goes a long way to creating a friendlier world.

What can you contribute to a kinder, gentler planet?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

To Truly Help Others Is To Empower Them To Find Their Own Answers

We often think that when we give someone the answer we are helping them.

By being the shining knight we feel good about rescuing the person from their situation.

In the long run that only makes them depend upon someone else.

To truly help others is to empower them.

Empower them to find their own answers.

Empower them to trust their feelings.

Empower them to see that everything they need is already inside of them.

We do not need more gurus or more masters.

What we need is to be shown how to be our own guru.

When we become truly self-reliant we can achieve amazing things.

Ultimately, our job is to help the other person to see that they don’t need us.

Now that’s empowerment!

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

When We Show Up Better The World Shows Up Better For Us

Showing up better in our lives is not about comparing ourselves to others.

Showing up better is not necessarily about being smarter, stronger, or faster.

Showing up better in our lives is about just being better than we were the day before.

Even small improvements, tiny changes, can have a big impact over time.

When we take better care of ourselves, we show up better.

When we are more kind and gentle to ourselves, we show up better.

When we nurture and encourage ourselves, we show up better.

The thing is, we don’t have to show up better for anyone else.

It’s not a condition or responsibility that we owe to anyone other than ourselves.

We show up better so we can feel better, more alive, more empowered.

We show up better so we can have a greater sense of contribution or service.

We show up better so we can have a more profound impact on the world around us.

It doesn’t take huge leaps and bounds to get there.

We just need to recognize the ways in which we know and feel we can be better, and then just work on those aspects a little at a time.

When we show up better, the world shows up better for us.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Making Time To Be With Yourself Is The Greatest Gift We Give The World

Taking time for ourselves does not mean we are taking time from something else.

Giving ourselves the gift of just being with ourselves can be huge.

When we make it a priority in our lives we are better able to be present for others.

It may not seem like that at the time. It may feel a bit selfish.

Yet no matter how we take time to be with ourselves, we can then show up for others in a more clear and open manner.

Yes, we all have responsibilities and roles to play.

Yes, we all have so many things pulling at our attention.

Yes, it takes some effort to make the time to meditate or take a walk by ourselves.

That effort though will be greatly rewarded with the peace and serenity we are cultivating.

It is not about forcing ourselves to do what we feel we should be doing.

It is not about living up to some promise.

It is about being generous with ourselves because we all deserve it.

The funny thing is, the more generous we are with ourselves, the more generous can be with others.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Each day we start out new.

Each day we get to choose how we decide to go through our day.

For many people, they choose by default.

For some people, they choose intentionally.

If we are to live life to our greatest capacity, choosing intentionally is far superior to letting life choose for us.

As we continue to grow and raise our awareness, we begin to understand that the more intention we put behind our actions and our thoughts, the more life yields to our desires.

The more we envision our future, the more we envision next year, next month, or even tomorrow, the more we see that vision come true.

The beautiful part about it is that we don’t have to stick to one the same intention.

Each day we can make a new choice, set a new intention, envision a new future.

From that day forward we can begin to build that future.

Of course, the more we change our minds the longer it will take to bring that new future into manifestation.

Yet, isn’t it nice to know that our intentions aren’t written in stone and can be changed when appropriate?

So let’s start this day with an intention and a vision, and allow them to guide our actions.

Together, miracles can be created…

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

It is not that unusual to hear someone mention that something is not working right or missing.

We see a problem or a lack and we feel that someone should do something about it.

The mistake we make is that we think it is someone else’s responsibility to do something about it.

It is not.

If we see something in our life that is missing, that is not as we would like it, there’s a reason why we see it and someone else doesn’t.

Just because it is in our world, in our experience, does not mean that someone else will have the same experience.

Our experience is a call.

It is a call to action.

See something that can be done better? Great! Build a better mouse trap.

See something missing from the world that would contribute to it? Great! Make that contribution.

The reason we see it and others don’t is because it is a call for us to step up and do something about it.

See an easier way for something to be accomplished? Great! Imagine how many other people could benefit from your insight.

Does this mean we have to do everything ourselves? No.

Just because we see a need, we see how something can be done better, does not mean we have to do something about it alone.

We can share our insight, our vision with others, and for those whom it resonates with, ask them to join you.

We are the ones we have been waiting for.  Let’s not waiting any longer.

Time to do what life is calling us to do.

If you see something to change in the world, it is a call to start the change.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Our personal power starts to end the moment we begin to blame someone or something else.

It does not matter what they did, or what happened to us, it only matters that we allow the circumstance to dictate our reaction.

Our power come from our presence and our ability to decide how we choose to respond to any given situation.

Blaming and making either someone else or the situation wrong, merely takes away our ability to move past it.

When we decide how we want to be in the situation regardless of the truth of it, then we are exercising our most important muscle.

It is the muscle of choice. It is the muscle of our spirit. It is the muscle of our divine right to create our life anew.

Resisting what is only causes us pain and keeps us stuck where we are.

To acknowledge the truth of the reality of the situation yet not allow the truth to dictate our behaviour the surest way to build our personal power.

Being present to a situation that is unpleasant is a choice. Being present with compassion and love for ourselves is one of the greatest choices we can ever make.

So let’s stop resisting the reality, let’s stop blaming anyone or anything else, and let’s focus on what we can do instead.

When we shift from blame to choice we empower ourselves beyond measure.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

mixed-bag

 

Life is always a mixed bag.

It is a mix of what we want and what we don’t want.

It is a mix of what thrills us and what brings us down.

It is a mix of people we enjoy being with and people we don’t.

The contrast is always there, yet ever-changing.

We can’t get rid of the contrast, and indeed we probably shouldn’t because we learn so much from it.

The bag will always be mixed.

The key is to focus on the parts of the bag that we enjoy, that uplifts us, and that supports us.

The parts of the bag that don’t are also there for a reason. Let’s learn from them and not judge them.

Ultimately, all the parts of the bag make up life. They are all part of the whole.

So let’s have a little more compassion for the whole bag, and know that there will always be a mix.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant