With Awareness, Allowing, And Acceptance, Comes Peace

First, we become aware of what is going on inside of us.

Then, we learn to allow it to be whatever it is.

It may be uncomfortable or uneasy at times.

Eventually we learn to accept it for what it is – how we are feeling.

That acceptance is key to ultimately finding peace.

Without awareness, there is no peace.

Without allowing, there is no peace.

Without acceptance, there is no peace.

Where there is all three, we find tranquility.

It is not about changing the world or fixing our relationships.

It is not about changing someone else or fixing ourselves.

It’s about being okay with how we are feeling in any given moment.

That doesn’t mean we have to act upon all of our feelings.

It doesn’t mean we have to express all of our emotions.

Yet when we allow the energies that reside within us to just be, we can observe without action.

We can allow them to flow.

We can allow them to go.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

The Beginning Of Wisdom Comes When We Realize We Don’t Know Anything

Most of us think we’re pretty smart.

We’ve got a lot of things figured out.

We’ve got a plan for our careers, our relationships, and our lives.

Then Life happens and suddenly all those plans go out the window.

Maybe it was a health challenge we didn’t expect.

Maybe it was something that happened to someone close to us.

Maybe our industry suddenly collapse and we don’t know what to do next.

Slowly, but surely, over time we begin to realize that we really don’t know anything.

Our predictions of the future were all wrong.

Our assumptions about relationships and family turned out to be complicated than we expected.

Our vision for our lives suddenly seems to be a fantasy.

Then we drop it all.

We drop our expectations.

We drop our projections.

We drop our certainty.

And that’s when true wisdom begins.

When we come to the realization that we know absolutely nothing, we can begin to accept what is.

When we stop our belief that we are the center and the master of the universe, then the universe can bring us magic.

When we finally give up our egoic stance that we are so great and so smart, then we can start to find peace inside.

It doesn’t happen overnight.

It doesn’t happen all at once.

Yet when it does happen, it feels like magic.

It feels like a relief.

We soften and then know that it is okay that we don’t know anything.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

How We Feel About Life Is About The Projections We Send Out

We see things in life all the time that we are sure are real.

How someone says something to us, and the meaning behind it, are clear to us.

Our memories are filled with moments that we are certain happened a specific way.

All these life experiences actually happened, yet they are filled with our own projects.

What our friend did is because they don’t like us.

What our partner said is because they’re mad at us.

The Why our parent acted is because they are not proud of us.

We constantly think we know what is going on inside someone else’s mind.

Yet what we are doing is projecting our own feelings and our own interpretations onto our experience.

Perhaps our friend was just in a rush and forgot to be polite.

Perhaps our partner got some bad news we don’t know about and they are mad about it.

Perhaps our parents just learned that a friend of theirs died and they’re upset over it.

How we interpret the world around us has less to do with the actual events and more about how we feel about ourselves.

Do we feel deep inside that we’re not good enough? Do the things we experience make us feel less than?

Do we feel that there’s something wrong with us? Do our relationships trigger those feelings?

Do we feel that we don’t deserve good things? Do we often feel the other person is taking advantage of us?

It’s not so cut and dry.

Our perspective and our self-image have a lot to do with it.

Perhaps when we get triggered we can use it as an opportunity to look inside instead of outside.

Perhaps when we feel someone is against us we can check in and see if we are battling with ourselves.

Perhaps instead of assuming it’s always about the other person, we can take a step back and look for how we might be projecting something onto them.

Maybe we will find it is…

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

To Go With The Flow Requires Our Trust and Surrender

To Go With The Flow is more difficult than we think.

It takes more than just doing nothing.

It takes more than just following the path in front of you.

It is about surrender.

It is about letting go of our expectations and allowing Life to unfold unfettered.

We all have ideas and expectations of how we want things to go.

We create plans and strategies for how to live our lives.

And then Life happens and we learn to adjust those plans.

Still we work on trying to get where we want to go, even when the signs all point towards something else.

We rush, we work harder, we work longer hours, and we do whatever it takes to get it done.

The one thing we don’t do is surrender to the moment.

To let go of our expectations.

To trust in Life and in what unfolds before us.

We think we know better.

We think we are wiser than the circumstances before us.

What will it take for us to just breath into it?

What will it take for us to drop our ideas and our preconceptions?

What will it take to release our judgments of what should and shouldn’t be?

When will we begin to see the Universe as being perfect, just the way it is?

When will we accept tat we really don’t have the perspective to judge the events before us as good or bad?

When we finally do, then we can Go With The Flow.

Then we can trust and allow.

Then we can be present to whatever is taking place and be at peace.

Is that not what we are all seeking?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Strength Does Not Come From Force It Comes From Being Vulnerable

Being strong is not about strength.

Being strong does not mean we are domineering.

Being strong is not about being forceful.

Being strong is about something far more powerful.

True strength comes from deep inside ourselves.

Strength is an intimate connection to our souls.

Strength is the power that comes from seeing ourselves clearly.

Strength is the knowing that we are the creators of our world through our choices and our intentions.

We are strong when we make conscious decisions in our lives.

We are strong when we refrain from using our strength.

And we are the strongest when we allow ourselves to be the most vulnerable.

True strength is the will to exercise our power as a force for good.

Might only makes right when the might is used to uplift and support.

It is easy to use our muscles to hurt another.

It is easy to use intimidation to control another.

These are signs of weakness, not strength.

It is far harder and more difficult to be a gentle giant than to be a bully.

The world does not need more cowards hiding behind masks of power.

The world needs more people who have the courage and strength to be true, honest, and authentic.

Real strength comes from being a real person.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Many Times Slowing Down Is The Fastest Way To Get To Where We Are Going

You see it everywhere.

People are rushing from one place to the next.

Rushing to get their project done.

Rushing to go home, go away, go get their coffee.

We rush because we think that’s the fastest way to get something done.

Yet when we rush all the time we miss things.

We miss the little details that make all the difference.

We miss the birds chirping as we walk to the train.

We miss the error in the program as we rush to finish the app.

We miss the look on our partner’s face as we rush out the door to get to work.

Sometimes, perhaps even most times, by slowing down we actually are going the fastest way.

By slowing down we can take in more.

By slowing down we can be more present.

By slowing down we can feel more of what is going on inside and outside of us.

When we take the time to really look at what is going on, either at work, at home, or anywhere in between, we can often find a better, simpler, more direct way to achieve what we are looking for.

It may be counter-intuitive, yet it still works.

Even taking the time to ask ourselves, “What am I trying to achieve?” can slow us down and help to remind us what it is we are really after.

Do we slow down enough to read the entire article?

Do we slow down enough to see the smile on our lover’s lips?

Do we slow down enough to see the potential hazard on the road?

Speed does not equal the shortest distance.

Taking our time is sometimes the fastest way to get where we are going.

Or perhaps it is just about recognizing that we are already there…

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

It Is Only By Loving Where We Come From That We Can Truly Love Ourselves

Self-love appears to be difficult to achieve.

There are so many things about ourselves that seem to get in the way.

Everything from what we have been told since we where children to what we have experienced as adults.

There always seems to be more reasons not to love ourselves than to love ourselves.

Yet, we can achieve that peaceful place.

It does take work. It does take self-reflection.

Mostly, it takes the willingness to look at all sides of ourselves and love them.

It means not just loving who we are, it means loving where we come from.

That is often the toughest part.

Can we love our family?

Can we love our parents?

Regardless of our experience or our perceptions, if we can not love our parents, how can we love ourselves?

After all, our parents are a part of ourselves.

They live inside of us.

They are in our DNA.

Their imprint on us is a large part of who we are.

It may not be easy to do, especially when there is abuse and trauma involved.

Yet when we come to that point, that point of forgiveness and acceptance, we achieve great peace.

When we learn to love the unlovable, we have truly learn to love ourselves.

Yes, it is a process.

Yes, it takes time.

Yes, it often takes guidance and support from other people.

Yet when we arrive, regardless of how much effort or struggle it took, we find it more than worth it.

Are you ready to begin your journey of self-love and self-acceptance?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Sitting Still Allows Us To Be More Present To Ourselves And Others

How are we present to ourselves?

Can we sit still and just be aware of our feelings?

Do we fidget and become restless in our seats looking for something to do?

How we are when we are by ourselves actually tells us a lot about ourselves.

When we are at peace with ourselves, it is easy to sit and be still.

When we are uncomfortable with some aspect of ourselves, it is hard to spend time alone.

When we take a moment to just breath and relax are we really relaxed?

Most of the time, we are not relaxed around ourselves.

We need to be doing something or be engaged in a conversation.

We look for some kind of distraction to take us away from how we are really feeling.

Yet, if we take a moment to explore that feeling instead of avoid, we can learn quite a bit.

We can see more clearly where our work is.

We can feel what it is that triggers us.

We can discover what unresolved issues are rolling around inside of us.

It is not always comfortable to just sit with ourselves.

In fact, it can be quite challenging.

Yet the rewards are enormous.

And the practice itself is quite helpful.

It gives us that moment of peace with which we can enter our day.

It helps us to be more centered and grounded.

It reminds us to be more gentle and more kind with ourselves.

And it calls us to be more present to everything in our lives.

Presence allows us to be more available to others, and to ourselves.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Our Life Is Created From The Meaning We Make And The Stories We Tell

From the moment we are born we begin to create stories around our experiences.

We start to label events as good or bad.

We then reflect on those judgments and make them mean something.

We’re a bad person because some we didn’t like happened to us.

Life is good because we got something we wanted.

People love me because they give me attention.

The world sucks because someone hurt me.

All of these thoughts are stories that may not have anything to do with the factual events.

These stories hold great power over us as we make significant meaning from them about our lives.

I’m worthless.

I can’t do anything right.

I’m a failure.

These stories soon become our identity, and we unconsciously find ways to live into these identities.

My life is blessed.

I always find a way.

I can do anything I set my mind to.

It doesn’t matter if these stories support us or disempower us, they still have great power over us.

These stories soon become programs we run over and over in our heads as we encounter new situations.

The truth of these beliefs become apparent in our experience.

Yet they are only true because we believe in them and we have made so much meaning from them.

The most important key to using this to our advantage is that it is all made up!

We created the meaning behind all these programs and we can change the meaning if we wish.

A black cat walking in front of us can no longer mean something bad will happen to us, but that animals love us.

The challenges we face are not because we are no good, but because we are stronger than we know.

Our life is no longer dependant on the stories we created a long time ago.

We can create new stories with new meanings every single day.

We can make new meanings of everything in our life that truly supports and empowers us.

So what stories and meaning have you made from your life that you want to make new meaning from?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

If We Are Not Selfish We Cannot Take Care Of The Larger Whole

Why do we find it so difficult to ask for what we want?

Why do we fear the reactions we will receive when we do?

Is that label of being called Selfish so derogatory that we cannot even go near it?

Society often uses the term “Selfish” when an individual voices their need or desire.

Being Selfish is about being concerned for the Self.

Self-care is not only important, it is essential for our health and growth.

We cannot contribute to society without taking care of our selves first.

Being called “Selfish” is a form of control society uses to get individuals to do what Society wants.

It is all about placing Society’s needs above the individual’s needs.

The fallacy of that point of view is that if the individuals are not taken care of, they cannot take care of society.

So why should we fear being called Selfish?

Actually, it is a compliment.

It means we are strong enough and wise enough to consider our own needs first before we can consider others.

When we come from a place of strength, we are able to contribute more.

When we come from a place of strength, we are able to give from a deeper place.

When we come from a place of strength, we are able to truly give what someone needs most.

We can all learn something from being a little more Selfish.

It means opening our hearts to ourselves first, then we can open to others.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant