To Heal Our Deepest Wounds We Must Speak The Truth About Our Pain

In order to begin our healing process, there is something we must be willing to do.

It is not just about taking better care of ourselves or changing our lifestyle.

It is about something far deeper and more difficult.

To start the journey to healing and wholeness we must be willing to speak our truth.

The truth about how we feel deep inside.

The truth about our pain and suffering.

The truth about our desires and secret wishes.

Without admitting to ourselves what we are experiencing, without admitting what we are feeling, without admitting to ourselves what we truly want, we cannot move forward.

What we hide inside ourselves will continue to control us.

What we shun and fear will continue to affect our lives.

The truth we deny within ourselves will fester and grow until it must come out.

It is not easy to admit the truth to ourselves.

It takes courage to be brutally honest about how we feel and what we want.

Yet we do it not for others, but for ourselves.

To be whole again

To be at peace.

To heal the deepest wounds that stay with us our whole lives.

These are the wounds that kill us, if we do not address them.

These are the wounds that drive us, if we do not speak them out loud.

It is only by shining the light of our own truth upon the blackest corners of our soul that we free ourselves from their shackles.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Wanting Pain To End Is Not Bad – It Is Human

It is hard to admit when we are in pain that we just want it to stop.

We don’t care about the consequences, all we care about is stopping the pain.

Perhaps the pain is seeing a loved one dying, and we just want it to be over.

Perhaps the pain is seeing our own deterioration, and we just want to end.

Perhaps the pain is seeing someone else destroy themselves, and we can’t take it anymore.

It’s normal and human to want it to end.

The hard part is accepting how we feel about it without judging ourselves.

It is easy to fall into guilt, shame, and self-loathing over how we feel.

Yet those emotions do not serve us, and indeed, harm us.

What must we do to accept that we are human and we it is all right to want the pain to stop?

It doesn’t mean we have to act on it.

It doesn’t mean we have to do something about it.

It just means that we are in pain and we want it to stop.

Can we learn to forgive ourselves for that desire?

Can we learn to let go of the guilt and shame and be gentler to  ourselves?

Can we learn to love ourselves enough that we forgive ourselves in spite of how we feel?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

When We Show Up Better The World Shows Up Better For Us

Showing up better in our lives is not about comparing ourselves to others.

Showing up better is not necessarily about being smarter, stronger, or faster.

Showing up better in our lives is about just being better than we were the day before.

Even small improvements, tiny changes, can have a big impact over time.

When we take better care of ourselves, we show up better.

When we are more kind and gentle to ourselves, we show up better.

When we nurture and encourage ourselves, we show up better.

The thing is, we don’t have to show up better for anyone else.

It’s not a condition or responsibility that we owe to anyone other than ourselves.

We show up better so we can feel better, more alive, more empowered.

We show up better so we can have a greater sense of contribution or service.

We show up better so we can have a more profound impact on the world around us.

It doesn’t take huge leaps and bounds to get there.

We just need to recognize the ways in which we know and feel we can be better, and then just work on those aspects a little at a time.

When we show up better, the world shows up better for us.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

We Don’t Need Another Strategy We Need To Just Look Deep Inside

It is not so uncommon to feel that we need another strategy to move forward.

We feel that when we find that the one missing key we will be able to change our lives.

Yet what we really need is not another system or blueprint.

The fallacy in this thinking is that we need something external to us to change our lives.

The only way to change how life feels to us and move forward in an authentic way is to look deep inside.

We do not need another book or another seminar to teach us something that is already in our heart.

We do not need another workshop or another experience to show us how to be different.

When we look inside ourselves at the real work we need to do, we know the answer before we ask the question.

What we need more than anything else is the opportunity to work on ourselves without distraction.

What we want more than anything else is to connect with our soul and heal the deep wounds.

What serves us more than anything else is to be present to our feelings and our unexpressed emotions.

When we look internally instead of externally, we find all the answers we require to move forward in our lives.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

We All Have Dog Days Every Now And Then

We all have dog days every now and then.

We all sometimes feel like the world is against us.

We all wake up on the wrong side of the bed once in a while.

The key is not to marinate in the misery.

Feeling awful? Great! Feel it!

Let’s not stuff down the uncomfortable feelings.

Let’s not ignore the signs that tell us it’s time to take a break.

Let’s not forget that will always be ups and downs.

If we can stop judging the downs as bad, we can get through them with greater ease.

When we truly accept all that life brings to us, regardless of how good or bad it feels, somehow things just go smoother.

It’s okay to have a dog day, just don’t drag it around with you for the rest of your life.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Making Time To Be With Yourself Is The Greatest Gift We Give The World

Taking time for ourselves does not mean we are taking time from something else.

Giving ourselves the gift of just being with ourselves can be huge.

When we make it a priority in our lives we are better able to be present for others.

It may not seem like that at the time. It may feel a bit selfish.

Yet no matter how we take time to be with ourselves, we can then show up for others in a more clear and open manner.

Yes, we all have responsibilities and roles to play.

Yes, we all have so many things pulling at our attention.

Yes, it takes some effort to make the time to meditate or take a walk by ourselves.

That effort though will be greatly rewarded with the peace and serenity we are cultivating.

It is not about forcing ourselves to do what we feel we should be doing.

It is not about living up to some promise.

It is about being generous with ourselves because we all deserve it.

The funny thing is, the more generous we are with ourselves, the more generous can be with others.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

When We Validate And Love Ourselves Others Will Surely Follow

It is not uncommon for us to look for acceptance and validation from the outside world.

When we were young, perhaps we didn’t receive the love and attention that we craved.

Perhaps we were compared to others and felt that we didn’t measure up.

Or maybe we didn’t receive the comfort we needed at a moment of despair or pain.

There are many reasons why we might look to others for approval and support.

That can be a trap. Looking for something as elusive as acceptance from others is a tricky game.

We may get it, or we may not. Yet there is a better way to go about it.

Ultimately, all acceptance comes first from self-acceptance.

We may look for love and validation from others, yet when we love and validate ourselves first, the desire for it from others dramatically decreases.

Not that the desire for the love and approval from others ever goes away.

Yet if we are aware and conscious of that desire, and learn to direct it more inwards than outwards, we can find what we are truly looking for.

The side benefit is that when we truly accept ourselves, others are much more likely to as well.

Once again, doing the inner work of self-reflection and self-realization brings on more rewards in the outside world than we imagined.

For there is no inner world or outer world, there is only one world, the world of now.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

In a world where we are constantly surrounded by people, finding time to be with oneself can be difficult.

So many demands are put on us by other people, and with our constantly on devices, we are always reachable.

Yet taking time away from it all to be with ourselves is exactly what we need.

To find balance, to find peace, to find direction in our lives, we need the time to process all the stimulus we get on a daily basis.

To know ourselves on a deep level, we need time in quiet and solitude to actually feel what is going on inside of us.

How can we really connect with ourselves if our attention is constantly pulled to the outside world?

How can we find our inspiration if we are continuously exposed to the bombardment of information?

How do we learn what we truly have to give to the world if we cannot experience the stillness to feel our heart’s beat?

We think we have to always be there for other people. So many people rely on us, so many people want us.

Yet, we cannot truly be there for anyone else if we have not given ourselves the opportunity to be there for ourselves first.

It’s not about taking time off from work or from your business, it’s about taking the time to just be with yourself without any distractions or activity.

Learning to enjoy our own company is important, and the gifts we receive from it are enormous.

So let’s all look for  more ways for us to be peaceful and present with ourselves, and see what magic arises.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Although we do not like to think about it, death is our constant companion.

Most people fear death, for it is the great unknown.

That is because we don’t understand how to use it properly in our lives.

Death is a part of our lives, and we can use it to help be more present on a daily basis.

Death helps to give us perspective and to see what is truly important to us.

Death helps us to let go of the inconsequential and sharpen our focus.

Death is the reminder that all things are impermanent.

The conversation around death in our culture is one that only sees it as a loss in life.

It is so much more.

The most important aspect of death is our own death.

From seeing our own death more clearly we empower ourselves to be more decisive.

Death is not a trap or a fiend. Death is a tool.

Not one to use against another person. It is a tool to use against our own bad habits.

Death is the purest characteristic of life as it treats everyone the same.

Death comes to everyone – the old, the young, the sick and the healthy.

When we keep death as our constant companion we are free of the attachments that limit us.

Death is the ultimate transformation, yet we do not have to wait until we meet it to transform.

Death can transform our lives for the better if we allow it to.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Some say faith is believing in what we cannot see.

Often, faith is relegated to the religious or spiritual.

Yet, do we not all have to have faith in our vision and our goals in order to move forward?

Do we not have to have faith in ourselves and our abilities in order to create something new?

Believing in what we cannot see externally does not mean we cannot see it internally.

Indeed, it all starts with an internal vision for what we desire to bring into this world.

Is our vision of a new business, a new building, or a new organization to feed the poor?

Do we not have a vision for what our lives will look like in a few days, a few weeks, or a few years?

Vision and Faith go hand in hand and are essential for us to move forward regardless how we apply them.

Perhaps our belief in ourselves is a little tenuous, and not as strong as we would like it to be.

Yet we still carry on and move forward, acting as if it will still manifest.

We cannot be any other way. If we do not have faith then we would never start our next project or our next venture.

It is time to reclaim Faith from the religious connotation it has been carrying for years and turn it back into one that empowers and supports us.

Our faith can bring us together, not divide us, if we allow it.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant