The 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud lady, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o’clock with her hair fashionably coiffed and makeup perfectly applied even though she is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today.

Her husband of 70 years recently passed away, making the move necessary. After many hours of waiting patiently in the lobby of the nursing home, she smiled sweetly when told her room was ready.

As she maneuvered her walker to the elevator, I provided a visual description of her tiny room, including the eyelet sheets that had been hung on her window.

“I love it,” she stated with the enthusiasm of an eight-year-old having just been presented with a new puppy. “Mrs. Jones, you haven’t seen the room…just wait.”

“That doesn’t have anything to do with it,” she replied. “Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time. Whether I like my room or not doesn’t depend on how the furniture is arranged. It’s how I arrange my mind. I already decided to love it. It’s a decision I make every morning when I wake up. I have a choice: I can spend the day in bed recounting the difficulty I have with the parts of my body that no longer work, or I can get out of bed and be thankful for the ones that do. Each day is a gift, and as long as my eyes open I’ll focus on the new day and all the happy memories I’ve stored away…just for this time in my life.”

According to legend, a young man while roaming the desert came across a spring of delicious crystal-clear water.

The water was so sweet he filled his leather canteen so he could bring some back to a tribal elder who had been his teacher.

After a four-day journey he presented the water to the old man who took a deep drink, smiled warmly, and thanked his student lavishly for the sweet water.

The young man returned to his village with a happy heart. Later, the teacher let another student taste the water.

He spat it out, saying it was awful. It apparently had become stale because of the old leather container.

The student challenged his teacher: “Master, the water was foul. Why did you pretend to like it?”

The teacher replied, “You only tasted the water. I tasted the gift. The water was simply the container for an act of loving-kindness and nothing could be sweeter.”

There once was a circle that was missing a piece.

A large triangular wedge had been cut out of it.

The circle wanted to be whole with nothing missing, so it went around looking for its missing piece.

But because it was incomplete and therefore could roll only very slowly, it admired the flowers along the way.

It chatted with worms. It enjoyed the sunshine. It found lots of different pieces, but none of them fit. So it left them all by the side of the road and kept on searching. Then one day the circle found a piece that fit perfectly. It was so happy. Now it could be whole, with nothing missing.

It incorporated the missing piece into itself and began to roll. Now that it was a perfect circle, it could roll very fast, too fast to notice the flowers or talk to the worms.

When it realized how different the world seemed when it rolled so quickly, it stopped, left its found piece by the side of the road and rolled slowly away.

An eight-year-old boy approached an old man in front of a wishing well, looked up into his eyes and asked: “I understand you’re a very wise man. I’d like to know the secret of life.”

The old man looked down at the youngster and replied:

“I’ve thought about that a lot in my lifetime, and the secret can be summed up in four words: The first is to┬áThink. Think about the values you wish to live your life by.

The second is to Believe. Believe in yourself, based on the thinking you’ve done about the values you’re going to live your life by.

The third is to Dream. Dream about the things that can be, based on your belief in yourself and the values you’re going to live by.

The last is to Dare. Dare to make your dreams become reality, based on your belief in yourself and your values.” And with that, Walter E. Disney said to the little boy, “Think, Believe, Dream, and Dare.”
(- by unknown author)
“And the day came when the risk it took to remain tight inside the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” – Anais Nin

Celebration is not just something we do on occasion, it is a powerful tool for lifting one’s energy and one’s spirits.

We often think that there needs to be something special happening in order for us to celebrate, such as a holiday, an anniversary, or a birthday.

If you think about it, there really are no rules around celebration.

Anything can be a reason for a celebration. A sunny day, a phone call from an old friend, a kind word from a stranger, a penny found on the sidewalk, all these and more are wonderful opportunities to celebrate life.

What happens when we celebrate? Our mood lifts, our gratitude increases, and our joy for being alive are all stimulated and bring greater happiness into our lives.

Not only do we raise our own vibration, but we raise the frequency of everyone we include in the celebration. And we all have fun in the process!

Now think of something, anything, that you can go out and celebrate!!!

What makes our day-to-day struggles so hard?

Is it the actual challenge itself?

Is it finding the support or direction you need?

Or perhaps is it our judgment of the situation itself? Is it that we make the challenge “wrong” in some way, make it something to avoid, get past, or get around?

Often times, the actual challenge itself is not the cause of the stress we feel, but the fact that we condemn, in some way, that the challenge is happening in the first place.

Inevitably, if we can let go of the judgment, of making the challenge or situation “right” or “wrong”, we release a great deal of the stress we feel around it.

This is not to say if you are struggling to pay the rent, or put food on the table, that the struggle just disappears. However, if we shift our perspective and see the struggle as a natural part of life, then it is no longer to be feared, avoided, or ignored.

We can then show up in our lives with an ease, a grace, that allows us to walk through whatever arises and not get stuck on the fact that this particular event is happening.

Although this may not be an easy practice to cultivate, the rewards are astounding!

There was a quote that looked quite interesting “Pain is part of life, but suffering is optional.” Is pain really a part of life? Is suffering really optional? How much pain do we cause ourselves? And how much pain truly comes from others? Can we shift our perspective of the painful source to make one that is not painful? Does that change the pain or our we just ignoring it? Can you find places in your own life where the pain you feel can be transmuted into something that is not so painful through a shift in perspective? It would be nice if it really is true that suffering is optional, so let’s try to find ways to suffer less, and enjoy life so much more!

Lately, we’ve been hearing more and more about friends of relatives and friends having passed unexpectedly. isn’t it funny how we take life for granted so easily until someone is gone from our lives? None of us knows how many days we will have on this planet, yet somehow we always expect to be here, along with our friends. We hope you are learning to appreciate all of the people in your life, and that this appreciation comes with an understanding that nothing is permanent. Let us all appreciate all of the aspects of our lives!

The unexpected usually happens when we least expect it, that’s why it’s unexpected. How do you react to the unexpected? Do you get curious and playful with it, or do you dread it? Why? Are unexpected events gifts for you, or something that throws you off your course? Life can be fun for us when we revel in the unexpected, it can also be challenging, but one thing it is not – boring! So let’s celebrate the unexpected and have as much fun with it that we can…

We all say we need support, whether it be moral support, work support or relationship support. But how often do we actually think about and describe how that support looks?

We’ve all been in the situation where someone is hired for a job, there are some implied expectations that are never directly voiced, and then the person gets in trouble or is fired because they never fulfilled the implied expectations. Assuming someone understands all of the implied expectations is a waste of time and money.

Do you really want support for your project? Your new endeavor? Or your changing relationships?

First – ask for the support explicitly.
Second – describe exactly what kind of support, when and how you want it.
Third – check with the people you are asking support for if they understand all of your needs and have them repeat it back to you. If something is not correct, repeat from step 1!

Sometimes support looks like someone doing a task. Other times support looks like some who is just there to listen to you when you feel the need to talk. Other times support looks like a shoulder to cry on or someone telling you that you can do it and you are capable even when your worst fears arise. Sometimes it just means asking your tribe to spread the word about something.

What kind of support do you need? What does support exactly look like to you? How will it feel when you receive the support you are looking for?

Answer these questions next time before you ask for some support.