Wanting Pain To End Is Not Bad – It Is Human

It is hard to admit when we are in pain that we just want it to stop.

We don’t care about the consequences, all we care about is stopping the pain.

Perhaps the pain is seeing a loved one dying, and we just want it to be over.

Perhaps the pain is seeing our own deterioration, and we just want to end.

Perhaps the pain is seeing someone else destroy themselves, and we can’t take it anymore.

It’s normal and human to want it to end.

The hard part is accepting how we feel about it without judging ourselves.

It is easy to fall into guilt, shame, and self-loathing over how we feel.

Yet those emotions do not serve us, and indeed, harm us.

What must we do to accept that we are human and we it is all right to want the pain to stop?

It doesn’t mean we have to act on it.

It doesn’t mean we have to do something about it.

It just means that we are in pain and we want it to stop.

Can we learn to forgive ourselves for that desire?

Can we learn to let go of the guilt and shame and be gentler to  ourselves?

Can we learn to love ourselves enough that we forgive ourselves in spite of how we feel?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

You Can Be Right Or You Can Be Happy – You Can Rarely Be Both

We never really win an argument.

No matter how hard we try to convince the other person that they are wrong, they will only dig in their heels.

If anything, they will only be more convinced they are right.

And if by some miracle we do get them to concede that we are right and they are wrong, they will remain angry at us.

If we lose, we lose, and if we win, we lose.

Perhaps because we are playing the wrong game?

Maybe what we should be concerned with is not winning, but being happy.

The old adage is ” You can be right, or you can be happy, but you can rarely be both.”

If we change our focus from one of winning to one of happiness, we can play a totally different game.

And then we play in a totally different way.

Because now it is not about the end result, it is about how we play.

When we give up our need to be right and focus on our desire to be happy, we can joyful skip down the road.

We can let others have whatever opinions they want to have.

As long as we’re happy, who cares?

Yet being in that joyful place will attract others to wonder why are you so happy?

Maybe then they also will give up the need to be right and focus on being happy instead.

That is how we all win.

So let’s stop playing the win-lose type of game, and learn to play more win-win games.

After all, aren’t they much more fun?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Play Can Be Deep Work

Sometimes, play can be deep inner work.

Yes, it can be superficial.

Yes, it can be just a distraction.

Yes, it can be nothing but play.

And it can be just what we needed.

Play is how the mind makes new connections.

Play is how we learn and grow.

When we get too serious, too stressed, we need play more than ever.

When we want to be more creative, play is necessary.

When we want to find a new solution, play allows us to be free.

Making time to play is never a waste.

The results may not show up right away, yet they will follow.

Are we taking enough time to play in our lives?

Perhaps we can all play a little more, and learn to be playful in our most serious work.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

We Are Flow Not Something That Experiences Flow

Being In The Flow is something we all strive for.

That feeling that everything is just going right, and it all seems so easy.

Yet there seems to be a lot of confusion of how to get there or how to maintain that feeling.

Perhaps part of the issue is that we don’t really understand what it means to be In The Flow?

Of course, it can mean different things to different people. For many people, it is just a feeling that they know when they feel it, yet have a hard time describing it.

For many people, it is just a feeling that they know when they feel it, yet have a hard time describing it.

And maybe the biggest confusion is that we think Flow is something separate or apart from us.

The image of a river flowing, and how we have to jump in it to be carried by the water often comes up.

Could there be a better way of understanding Flow?

From an energetic perspective, Flow is not something distinct or separate from us.

Flow is what surrounds and engulfs us every moment of every day.

We are Flow, we are not something that experiences Flow.

We Flow, and as we Flow we experience being present in a unique way.

We Flow in our lives, in our jobs, in our relationships, and in all the moments in between.

Even when we are in resistance we are experiencing Flow, just a Flow of a different nature.

So instead of thinking How Do I Get Into Flow, try thinking What Flow Am I Experiencing Now?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

In a world where we are constantly surrounded by people, finding time to be with oneself can be difficult.

So many demands are put on us by other people, and with our constantly on devices, we are always reachable.

Yet taking time away from it all to be with ourselves is exactly what we need.

To find balance, to find peace, to find direction in our lives, we need the time to process all the stimulus we get on a daily basis.

To know ourselves on a deep level, we need time in quiet and solitude to actually feel what is going on inside of us.

How can we really connect with ourselves if our attention is constantly pulled to the outside world?

How can we find our inspiration if we are continuously exposed to the bombardment of information?

How do we learn what we truly have to give to the world if we cannot experience the stillness to feel our heart’s beat?

We think we have to always be there for other people. So many people rely on us, so many people want us.

Yet, we cannot truly be there for anyone else if we have not given ourselves the opportunity to be there for ourselves first.

It’s not about taking time off from work or from your business, it’s about taking the time to just be with yourself without any distractions or activity.

Learning to enjoy our own company is important, and the gifts we receive from it are enormous.

So let’s all look for  more ways for us to be peaceful and present with ourselves, and see what magic arises.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Some say faith is believing in what we cannot see.

Often, faith is relegated to the religious or spiritual.

Yet, do we not all have to have faith in our vision and our goals in order to move forward?

Do we not have to have faith in ourselves and our abilities in order to create something new?

Believing in what we cannot see externally does not mean we cannot see it internally.

Indeed, it all starts with an internal vision for what we desire to bring into this world.

Is our vision of a new business, a new building, or a new organization to feed the poor?

Do we not have a vision for what our lives will look like in a few days, a few weeks, or a few years?

Vision and Faith go hand in hand and are essential for us to move forward regardless how we apply them.

Perhaps our belief in ourselves is a little tenuous, and not as strong as we would like it to be.

Yet we still carry on and move forward, acting as if it will still manifest.

We cannot be any other way. If we do not have faith then we would never start our next project or our next venture.

It is time to reclaim Faith from the religious connotation it has been carrying for years and turn it back into one that empowers and supports us.

Our faith can bring us together, not divide us, if we allow it.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

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We often hear people talk about finding their voice, but what exactly does that mean?

Our voice is not about how we pronounce our words.

Nor is it about about the content we share.

Finding our voice is about showing up, and through our actions and our language, convey that we are here and we have something to share.

It’s not about talking a lot, and it’s not about telling someone what to do.

It’s about courage. It’s about standing out from the crowd and allowing the light to shine on us for a few moments.

It’s definitely not about ego, or about how great we are.

It actually comes down to being humble, and brave, and sharing what we have learned for ourselves.

It is about showing up when we commit to showing up, and sharing our spirit and energy with those who chose to listen to us.

What we say may touch people, or it may not.

What we say may inspire people, or it may not.

What we say may mean something very deep to another person, or it may mean nothing at all to anyone except ourselves.

Finding our voice means we speak our truth regardless of whether it is anyone else’s truth or not.

We can speak our truth in many different ways. We speak our truth with our actions and our presence as much as we speak it with our voice.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

What is it that pulls us forward into a better life?

It is not a better job or a better partner.

It is not more money or more contacts.

It is the vision we hold of our future selves.

How we envision ourselves in our future is what pulls us forward.

It calls us to do more, be more, and serve more.

When we see ourselves not only achieving more in our lives, but contributing more to the lives around us, that’s what inspires us to become more of who we really are.

We can only grow to the extent that we envision ourselves changing.

We only strive to the level that we see in our mind’s eye that’s achievable for us.

Our life is a creation of the vision we hold for ourselves and the belief that that vision is real and possible.

Can you see yourself a week, a month, or a year into the future?

Can you see the beauty you will create, the good you will do, the inspiration you will spread?

Time to envision more, feel it more, and allow it to pull you forward.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Yet sometimes being stuck is exactly where we need to be.

There is great information in being in that place of stuckness.

Perhaps it is an indication that you can take a break. Perhaps it is a way for the Universe to slow you down and give you some perspective.

Maybe we need to be stuck every once in  awhile to remind us of what’s like, and why we like moving forward so much more.

There is so much to be learned from being in a stuck place, we just have to learn to be okay with not being comfortable in that place, give it some space, and look at it with new eyes.

Is there another way to go?

Are you sure you want to continue on the path you’re on?

Is there a new direction or new journey you can take that feels better for you?

Are there things you have not yet considered about where you are that you can look at more deeply?

Being stuck is one of the great pauses we can take to look around, re-evaluate, and reconsider what we’re doing or where we’re going.

Let’s not waste the moment complaining about it. Let’s use being stuck as the great opportunity it is to ponder and meditate on our situation more deeply…

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Strategy is only 10% of the equation of success yet we spend the most amount of time focused on strategy.

The other 90%, the 90% that is the foundation everything we do, is made up of the energy around our endeavors.

The energy around what we do primarily comes from two things.

First, it comes from the experiences we have had in our lives and the meaning we have made from those experiences.

Second, it comes from our choices and responses to all of our experiences.

We experience life from our own particular point of view. From that point of view, we have decided if we live in a compassionate, loving universe, or a cold, dispassionate, mechanical universe.

From the point of view we have adopted, we then respond to life in an optimistic, hopeful, abundant manner, or we respond in a pessimistic, doubtful, lackful manner.

Our results show us our foundation. Our feelings belie our beliefs.

If we come from a place of joy, we will have a joyful journey and joyful results regardless of our strategy.

If we come from a place of lack, we will have a journey of struggle and hard work, and our results never quiet seem to measure up, regardless of our strategy.

Perhaps it is time to spend more emphasis on our energy than on our strategy?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant