The Moments Lived Being Truly Present Are The Most Precious Of All

What do we measure a life by?

Do we measure it by the number of dollars earned?

Do we measure it by the number of lives touches?

Or can we stop measuring everything and just acknowledge that each life is precious?

We all contribute in our own way.

We all add to the fullness that is life in this world.

We all add to the richness that makes up the tapestry of creation.

Regardless of how much money we have earned.

Regardless of how many accomplishments we are credited with.

Regardless of the races won.

The moments we live being truly present with another being are the most precious of all.

In the end, a life lived with joy an compassion is the richest life of all.

It is not about who is the most productive.

It is not about who makes the most deals.

It is not about who has the largest, or smallest, family.

Our energy, our presence, creates a unique impact on this planet.

We all add something to the mix.

If we were not here, things would be different.

If we never existed, life would be unimaginably altered.

We all have a place in this world, from the poorest of the poor to the richest and most famous.

Our roles are different, our purposes diverse.

As we learn to revel in our differences and stop comparing ourselves to others, we start to live life more fully.

When we focus on each moment as the precious gift it is, we become rich in experience.

How are you measuring your life?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

If We Are Not Selfish We Cannot Take Care Of The Larger Whole

Why do we find it so difficult to ask for what we want?

Why do we fear the reactions we will receive when we do?

Is that label of being called Selfish so derogatory that we cannot even go near it?

Society often uses the term “Selfish” when an individual voices their need or desire.

Being Selfish is about being concerned for the Self.

Self-care is not only important, it is essential for our health and growth.

We cannot contribute to society without taking care of our selves first.

Being called “Selfish” is a form of control society uses to get individuals to do what Society wants.

It is all about placing Society’s needs above the individual’s needs.

The fallacy of that point of view is that if the individuals are not taken care of, they cannot take care of society.

So why should we fear being called Selfish?

Actually, it is a compliment.

It means we are strong enough and wise enough to consider our own needs first before we can consider others.

When we come from a place of strength, we are able to contribute more.

When we come from a place of strength, we are able to give from a deeper place.

When we come from a place of strength, we are able to truly give what someone needs most.

We can all learn something from being a little more Selfish.

It means opening our hearts to ourselves first, then we can open to others.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Feeling Our Feelings Is Healthier Than Shutting Them Off

Sometimes, it’s not comfortable to feel our feelings.

Sometimes, it’s downright depressing, frustrating, anxiety-provoking and maddening.

Sometimes, it’s uplifting, joyful, and wonderful.

Unfortunately, we don’t always get to choose.

When we decide to feel, we feel it all.

The good, the bad, and the ugly.

Sure, when we’re stuck in the really ugly feelings, we’d rather just not be there.

We’d rather hide, or shut down.

We’d rather retreat behind concrete walls and shut off all of our feelings.

Yet, that does not serve us.

Granted, no one likes to marinate in the deep, dark depressing places that we sometimes go.

Sure, we would all like to feel happy, joyful, uplifted, and energetic all the time.

Yet, we are not built that way.

We are made to feel the full range of emotions.

Dozens of them.

From the highest to the lowest.

When we shut ourselves off from them, we often find trouble.

Perhaps not right away.

Yet over the long run, the unexpressed, unfelt feelings can cause lots of trouble.

From heart-ache to heartburn, and much worse.

It’s not easy, it’s not comfortable, but it sure beats the alternative.

What are you feeling today?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Boldness Builds A Life Free From Fear And Regret

There are many fears in life that bother us.

There’s the fear of being alone.

There’s the fear of loss of a loved one.

There’s the fear of lack of resources.

There are many little fears we live with every day.

The fear of pain.

The fear of missing out.

The fear of being last.

All these fears, when taken to the extreme, are ultimately one big fear.

The fear of death.

The fear of the unknown that lies beyond that singular point at the end of life.

We fear to be alone because in the jungle it can mean death.

We fear to be without resources for that can lead to death as well.

We fear losing others because that only reminds us of our own mortality.

Yes, a healthy fear of death can help us to stay alive.

Yet when our fears become unhealthy and run our lives instead of our passions, we become paralyzed.

To overcome our fear of death is not natural.

To override that most basic instinct takes a lot of internal work.

Yet the more we learn to overcome the small fears, the more we eat away at the big fear.

The surest way to get past our fear of death is to live life fully.

To live with the reminder that every day could be our last.

To live life in bold, outrageous fashion.

Moderation is for monks.

Meekness is for puppies.

Fate favors the bold and being bold diminishes regret.

How can we be bolder in our own lives?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

There Is A Often A Huge Difference Between Perception And Truth

Our perceptions are tricky things.

We think we know what is going on, yet we only see it from our perspective.

That conversation we had with our partner or the event that happened in another part of the world, is open to our interpretation based on our perceptions.

In order to stay grounded, it is useful to ask ourselves a simple question.

Is that really true?

Is our perception or interpretation of a given situation actually true for other people and not just us?

If a third party, someone not involved emotionally in it, saw or heard what went on, would they have the same conclusion as we do?

What we often think of as an objective fact is rarely so.

The more we question our perceptions and our assumptions, the more we realize how much of our belief is opinion and not fact.

Is that really true?

Even our own thoughts are our interpretations.

That is true for us, and it is true for everyone else.

So it is useful to always double-check when we recognize there are assumptions present.

Is that really true?

The more that question becomes part of our daily practice, the more we can catch ourselves.

The more we catch other people’s assumptions.

The more we can be humble with our opinions.

The more we can connect with people on a deeper level.

Is that really true?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

The Solution To Misunderstanding Is Greater Communication

How good are we at communicating?

Do we listen more than we talk?

Are we present in our conversations?

Do we make assumptions that get us in trouble?

Inevitably, bad communication leads to misunderstandings.

Learning to avoid assumptions, or at least verify our assumptions is a great place to start.

Communicating more, not less, is the key.

We think we talk enough with people, but do we really?

And speaking with people is not all about us expressing ourselves.

It’s about listening to the other person.

It’s about truly hearing what they are saying without judgment and not being defensive.

When we project our own interpretation of the conversation we often get in trouble.

If we take the time to verify what the other person is trying to convey, we gain more understanding.

And when we make up conversations in our head, that often has nothing to do with reality.

The only sure solution to avoiding misunderstandings is to communicate often.

Communicate frequently.

Communicate more than you think is necessary.

The greater the communication between people, the greater the connection, the greater the understanding.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

We Are All So Much More Than The Sum Of Our Parts

We have a Heart. Yet we are more than our Heart.

We have a Mind. Yet we are more than our Mind.

We have a Body. Yet we are more than our Body.

We have a Spirit. Yet we are more than our Spirit.

When challenges show up, we normally respond using one of these primary aspects.

We can go to mind and think it through.

We can go to our heart and seek connection and community.

We can go to our body and take the physical actions necessary.

Or we can go to our spirit and meditate and pray on it until a sudden inspiration comes.

We are not limited to how we respond.

And it does not have to be one way over another.

In fact, it does not have to be one way to the exclusion of the others.

We are much more than the sum of our parts.

Indeed, when we call upon all of ourselves, our heart, our mind, our body and our spirit, we can show up more fully to the challenge.

When we are bringing the fullness of our being to any part of our life, our life gets better.

Our relationships get better.

Our business gets better.

Our health gets better.

Our growth blossoms.

So why limit ourselves to be less than we are?

We are Heart, Mind, Body, and Spirit, and so much more.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Our Attitudes About Transformation Affect How We Transform

Sometimes transformation is a sudden, jarring, experience.

Sometimes the transformation is a slow, plodding along, experience.

And sometimes, transformation is so minute, so small, that we didn’t even notice it happened.

Almost more important than the event itself is our relationship to it.

Are we anticipating it with impatience and restlessness?

Are we sitting back and just waiting for it to happen to us without our involvement?

Are we so confident it is happening that we don’t even give it a thought and just keep doing what we’re doing?

Transformation takes on many forms and many appearances.

It can be like the caterpillar going inside its cocoon.

It can be like a snake shedding its skin.

Or it can be like a sudden break-up in a relationship.

We are transforming all the time.

We are growing and changing every day.

We are always in the middle of our transformation, which may be why we don’t notice it.

Our attitudes and preconceptions around transformation will color how we transform.

It is common to expect that over-night, instantaneous transformation will happen.

Yet it is more common that the transformation happens little by little, one step at a time, over a long period of time.

What do you expect about your own transformation?

Will it be sudden or slow?

Either way, you’re right.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Safety Is About How We Feel Inside Not What Is Going On Around Us

How do we come to a peaceful place inside?

How do we find the tranquility we seek when there is so much chaos in the world?

How do we feel safe when there seems to be so much that is not safe around us?

Feeling safe may be a challenge at times, yet it is possible to achieve when we find our tribe.

The first time we meet a group of people we are all a little bit uneasy.

We’re not sure where or how we fit in.

We don’t know what is expected of us or what to expect of the others.

Yet as we form connections to people individually, we begin to feel more at ease.

It takes time to feel safe in a new situation.

Whether it is a new workplace, a new family, or a new social group.

As we allow ourselves to go through our own process of discovery and exploration of the group, we realize that we do find our equilibrium.

It may not happen as quickly as we would like.

It may not happen in the manner we expect.

Yet when we release ourselves from the expectations and from any timeline, it all goes much smoother.

We connect with one person first. Then another.

Soon we find that we have much more in common with the group then we first thought.

Safety, it turns out, is more about how we feel inside than what is going on around us.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Releasing Control And Trusting More Allows Life To Surpass Our Imagination

We often get in trouble when we focus too much on control.

The desire for control comes from more than fear.

We look to control our circumstance, our environment, and our relationships because of something deeper.

It comes from a profound lack of trust.

A lack of trust in ourselves.

A lack of trust in the world.

A lack of trust in Life.

In our minds, we have good reasons for this lack of trust.

Yet if we look deep into our hearts, we want to trust more than anything else.

Making the effort to control everything in our lives is exhausting.

It also leaves little room for Life to bring us the unexpected.

While that may sound comforting to us, it is also quite limiting.

Life can surprise us with the most amazing adventures when we allow it to.

Giving up control is not about releasing our responsibilities in our lives.

It is about trusting ourselves deeply that we can handle and thrive in any situation Life brings us.

By trusting more and controlling less, we can allow amazing circumstances to develop.

We can allow others to contribute more and truly create team efforts.

We can lessen the stress in our lives and live more joyfully.

We can start to have a happier journey throughout our lives.

Yes, control can be very comforting.

Is it worth it?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant