20170921

The inter-connection of the the tribe is much deeper deeper than we normally perceive.

We usually just consider that the leader leads the tribe, and the tribe follows. If the leader does well, the tribe does well.

Yet there is something much deeper happening that we don’t often see.

It is not just about how the leader is, nor is it about the state of the tribe, the reflection of the leader in each member of the tribe, and the reflection of each member in the leader, is far more intertwined.

In fact, if we look closely enough, over a long enough period of time, everything happening within each member of the tribe, every dream, every accomplishment, every fault, every fear and every trauma, plays out in the relationship of the leader to the tribe.

So does every aspect of the leader’s psyche get played out in the tribe’s relationships not just with the leader, but with each other as well.

Indeed, as we all have massive collections of neurons in our brains that collectively add up to make one whole mind, the collection of tribe members add up to be one whole unit that reflects the leader’s soul.

The real question then becomes, did the leader’s presence call the tribe into being, or did the tribe’s being call in the leader’s presence?

And who evolves first? Does the leader grow as the tribe evolves, or does the tribe grow as the leader evolves?

This tight relationship between leader and tribe is always there, regardless of the type of tribe or the type of leader.

Whether we are part of the tribe or whether we are the leader (and we are all both in some aspect), it is our responsibility to evolve and grow and support each other, so the other may evolve and grow and support us as well.

So who is your tribe? Who are you leading? And are you evolving?

20170912

Taking time to remember our ancestors is not something we do for them, it is for ourselves.

Our parents, grandparents, and even great-grandparents all had lives that were lived in very different times, yet their experience, their stories, their lineage all add to the fabric of our own existence.

Did they come from overseas? Did they lose their families in the war? Were they successful or did they work long and hard for not much recognition?

Their DNA is in our bodies. Their names live on in our hearts. Their trauma, their joy and their accomplishments all contributed to who we have become.

By remembering them, reflecting on what they endured and what they celebrated it gives us a stronger foundation upon which to build. We stand on their shoulders and we see greater heights because of what they did. Even the things that they thought were insignificant may have played a big role in shaping who we eventually grew into.

So let’s take some time to remember them, to honor them, and recognize how even if we never met them in person, they have influenced our lives in ways beyond our imagination. Let’s all learn to be a little more grateful for those who came before us.

20170907

When we give ourselves space, space to rest, space to grow, space to explore, or space to know ourselves, we can allow our magic to come out.

When we keep ourselves so busy, rushing from place to place, constantly engaged in activity, filling up every moment of our day with something to achieve or accomplish, there is no room to find our magic.

While it may be important to focus on certain tasks while working on projects and our careers, it is equally important to rest in between and give ourselves a break so our minds and our souls have a chance to play and explore.

We are not at our best when we are stressed out, harried, and distracted. We are not creative when our minds are so full of all the daily tasks to accomplish that we cannot daydream and toy with fanciful ideas.

Breakthroughs happen at the most unexpected times. Giving ourselves the space and time to allow those breakthroughs to show up naturally, on their own, is essential to allowing our true genius to shine through…

20170831

Commitment is about much more than just making a decision.

Yes, it starts with a decision, a decision that has been weighed carefully, outcomes considered, and the responsibilities that go with the commitment.

All too often we commit to something without truly considering the implications. Once the full consequences of the commitment are revealed, we then retreat and often end up breaking our commitment.

When we start taking our commitments more seriously, as something sacred, we may not get into them so easily, and when we do, our word is our bond and we fully live up to it.

If we find we are having a hard time living up to all of our commitments, that is the time to examine how we enter into our commitments, and whether we are truly reflecting on what it mean to make a commitment in the first place.

We can all do better around our commitments if we just take our time before entering them, really reflect upon them, and only commit when it is in alignment with our heart and our spirit.

20170824

It is easy to fall into the trap that there are “others” in this world.

Those who do not think the way we do, those who do not talk the way we do, those who do not believe the way we do.

We separate ourselves from other people where we see differences.

The truth is that we are more alike than we are different, we have more in common than divides us.

For we are all people, on one planet. We are one human race, one species, and are members of one global society.

When we learn to take that larger perspective, we will realize that we are all connected, if not in daily life, then by the very molecules that make up bodies, that come from stars that exploded long before we were born.

20170822

Control in our lives is something we often strive for, yet in fact it is not attainable.

We think we can control our circumstances, in reality we cannot.

We think we can control other people, in reality we never can.

We think we can control the environment, in reality the environment is much greater and grander than we can imagine.

When it all comes down to it, the only thing we can control is our responses to what life brings and the choices we make.

And in the end, that is the most important control we can have.

20170817

Cleaning House is about much more than just straightening up our living environment.

How we take care of our home, the place we sleep at night and the location of our possessions, is a reflection of something much deeper.

Of course, we “clean house” with much more than our home. We can clean house with our mailing list, our Facebook friends, our desk at the office, and just about anything that accumulates items over time.

So what does it really mean when we Clean House?

It’s actually about our identity, how we see ourselves, and how we feel about ourselves and our life.

Cleaning up and straightening out our environment is symbolic for cleaning up our life, our self-image, our hopes and dreams.

If our home is a chaotic place, chances are our life is chaotic. If our home is messy, chances are our life is messy. If our home is sparkling clean with everything perfectly in it’s place, chances our are life is just as clean and rigid.

Are you feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or lost? Trying cleaning up your home, one corner at a time, and see how much better you feel by the time you finish.

After all, we all deserve a home, a life, that supports our vision and our dreams.

20170810

Blessings often come in the most unusual ways, at the most unusual times.

Sometimes they don’t even look like blessings.

It might look like an accident, that causes us to think more about our health and take better care of our bodies.

It might look like a devastating breakup that causes us to look inward and begin some deep inner work instead of look for happiness in someone else.

It might look like the loss of a job or career that causes us to re-examine our choices, and causes us to start a whole new path, a new business, create a non-profit that becomes a movement, or a whole host of other possibilities.

Of course, at the time, they don’t appear to be blessings at all. They seem to be daunting challenges that could break us.

It takes time to gain the perspective to see how these events will truly unfold in our lives. We so often focus on the immediate, that we don’t have a clue how the long term effect will manifest.

So how do we get through the challenges to see if they are truly blessings? Drop the judgment. Wait 24 hours. And then another day. Always save the judgment for tomorrow.

As we know, tomorrow never comes, yet with time we do gain perspective.

20170808

Grief is a part of life.

We grieve when we lose someone. We grieve when when we lose something that is dear to us. It is normal to grieve.

Grief and death are not normally spoken about until we do lose someone. That is something we can change.

We have a tendency to ignore one of the most important aspects of life, the fact that it will one day end. It is as if by ignoring it we feel that we won’t have to deal with it when it does come.

That strategy never really works so well. The time to talk about death and loss is before it happens. To prepare ourselves for that eventuality only serves us to help to deal with it when that day comes.

Death does not have to be feared. Indeed, according to the laws of thermodynamics, energy cannot be created nor destroyed, it merely changes state.

That is what death is, a change of state. The person may be with us physically anymore, yet they can still live on in our hearts, in our memories, and in our spirit.

How we choose to honor them after they pass is up to us. The fact that one day we will all leave this physical existence, no matter how long we extend it, is not.

So let’s learn to celebrate and honor it before it comes knocking on our door.

20170803

Loss is something we all deal with.

Whether it is the loss of a friend, a parent, a loved one, or even a home, we all deal with loss some time in our lives.

The loss itself is not usually the hard part, it tends to happen in an instant, what is the challenge is dealing with the aftermath of the loss.

How do we process the fact that this person is no longer with us? What do we do with all the emotions and pain we feel at the loss of our job, our career, or our marriage?

There is not right or wrong way to deal with loss. There are, however, some perspectives that can help us to move forward and continue in the wake of loss.

First, let us remember that energy is neither created nor destroyed, it merely transforms state.

Second, let us remember that nothing, absolutely nothing, is permanent in the world.

Third, although our external world may continue to constantly change beyond our control, who we are on the inside and how we choose to deal with it, is completely up to us.

Feel like crying, go ahead. Feel like celebrating someone’s life, go ahead. Feel like being alone, go ahead. Feel like being with people, go ahead.

However you choose to deal with loss in your life is up to you. If we choose to celebrate it instead of morn it, perhaps we can gain some insight from the loss.

It is okay to grieve. It is also okay not to feel the need to grieve as well.