Hate Is Not About Hatred

Hate is not about Hatred.

Anger is not about Rage.

Fear is not about Fright.

When we go deep enough, what underlies them all is pain and sadness.

When we are in pain we lash out. We lash out without thought and without understanding.

We may pick a specific target for our hate and anger, yet it is not about that specific target.

It is about our pain. And underneath that pain is a profound sadness.

In the moment, all we can feel is that if we cause someone or something else pain, it will take away ours.

Nothing is further from the truth.

Pain only causes more pain. To stop the pain, we must be present to it, we must allow it to run its course without stuffing it down.

We all have pain and we all feel pain, the difference is how we deal with it.

The most important thing is not to pass it on.

So let’s give ourselves some space to feel our pain, to feel our sadness, and to allow our bodies to process it with time.

Perhaps when we learn not to pass on our pain we will see less pain in the world.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

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Pain is a great communicator.

You cannot ignore it, nor can you avoid it.

We spend a great deal of time attempting to make it go away instead of listening to it.

Pain always has a message to it. It is here to inform us that something needs to change.

It does not matter whether it is physical pain or emotional pain, the message is the same.

Something is not working properly and we need to look at it. Something is stuck and we need to release it, Something is not aligned and we need to balance it.

So often we judge pain as bad and that makes it all the more painful. When we can release our judgement over pain and pay attention to it, we have taken the first step to releasing it.

Listening to it, really delving into it and being open to it’s message, is the surest way to get past it.

As long as we stuff it down, ignore it, and avoid it at all costs, it will persist. It will continue and we’ll miss a great opportunity to learn.

Where is your pain? What is it telling you? How can you be more open to it?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant