To Heal Our Deepest Wounds We Must Speak The Truth About Our Pain

In order to begin our healing process, there is something we must be willing to do.

It is not just about taking better care of ourselves or changing our lifestyle.

It is about something far deeper and more difficult.

To start the journey to healing and wholeness we must be willing to speak our truth.

The truth about how we feel deep inside.

The truth about our pain and suffering.

The truth about our desires and secret wishes.

Without admitting to ourselves what we are experiencing, without admitting what we are feeling, without admitting to ourselves what we truly want, we cannot move forward.

What we hide inside ourselves will continue to control us.

What we shun and fear will continue to affect our lives.

The truth we deny within ourselves will fester and grow until it must come out.

It is not easy to admit the truth to ourselves.

It takes courage to be brutally honest about how we feel and what we want.

Yet we do it not for others, but for ourselves.

To be whole again

To be at peace.

To heal the deepest wounds that stay with us our whole lives.

These are the wounds that kill us, if we do not address them.

These are the wounds that drive us, if we do not speak them out loud.

It is only by shining the light of our own truth upon the blackest corners of our soul that we free ourselves from their shackles.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

To Truly Help Others Is To Empower Them To Find Their Own Answers

We often think that when we give someone the answer we are helping them.

By being the shining knight we feel good about rescuing the person from their situation.

In the long run that only makes them depend upon someone else.

To truly help others is to empower them.

Empower them to find their own answers.

Empower them to trust their feelings.

Empower them to see that everything they need is already inside of them.

We do not need more gurus or more masters.

What we need is to be shown how to be our own guru.

When we become truly self-reliant we can achieve amazing things.

Ultimately, our job is to help the other person to see that they don’t need us.

Now that’s empowerment!

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

When We Show Up Better The World Shows Up Better For Us

Showing up better in our lives is not about comparing ourselves to others.

Showing up better is not necessarily about being smarter, stronger, or faster.

Showing up better in our lives is about just being better than we were the day before.

Even small improvements, tiny changes, can have a big impact over time.

When we take better care of ourselves, we show up better.

When we are more kind and gentle to ourselves, we show up better.

When we nurture and encourage ourselves, we show up better.

The thing is, we don’t have to show up better for anyone else.

It’s not a condition or responsibility that we owe to anyone other than ourselves.

We show up better so we can feel better, more alive, more empowered.

We show up better so we can have a greater sense of contribution or service.

We show up better so we can have a more profound impact on the world around us.

It doesn’t take huge leaps and bounds to get there.

We just need to recognize the ways in which we know and feel we can be better, and then just work on those aspects a little at a time.

When we show up better, the world shows up better for us.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

We Are Not Broken And Don’t Need to Be Fixed We Are Perfectly Imperfect

It is easy to fall into the trap of thinking that there is something wrong with us.

It is not unusual to feel that we are broken, and need to be fixed.

That is not the truth.

Actually, we are perfect exactly the way we are.

This does not mean that we do not desire to do better.

What it is really is about is accepting ourselves exactly the way we are without judgment or criticism.

We all feel not good enough. We all feel unworthy.

The thing is, that’s usually our greatest gift!

It may seem counter-intuitive, yet the very things we are trying so hard to change, are our greatest assets.

We just have to learn how to reframe and reinterpret that part of our lives.

Our faults and our flaws are what make us human.

Sure, we can learn to do better and there is nothing wrong with wanted to improve.

In fact, doing that deep internal work is the great work of a lifetime.

It just means that we don’t have to judge ourselves in the process. Or others for that matter.

We are not here to beat ourselves up or pick at every little mistake we make.

It is primarily through our mistakes that we learn and grow. There is nothing wrong with making a mistake.

So let’s find a way to stop marinating in our misery and see ourselves as perfectly imperfect.

Let’s be not just a little kinder to ourselves, but a lot kinder to ourselves!

Live is meant to be joyful, not painful and demeaning.

Let’s let our light shine even though the dark spots are visible.

Being human is a lot easier than living up to some false ideal.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

We All Have Dog Days Every Now And Then

We all have dog days every now and then.

We all sometimes feel like the world is against us.

We all wake up on the wrong side of the bed once in a while.

The key is not to marinate in the misery.

Feeling awful? Great! Feel it!

Let’s not stuff down the uncomfortable feelings.

Let’s not ignore the signs that tell us it’s time to take a break.

Let’s not forget that will always be ups and downs.

If we can stop judging the downs as bad, we can get through them with greater ease.

When we truly accept all that life brings to us, regardless of how good or bad it feels, somehow things just go smoother.

It’s okay to have a dog day, just don’t drag it around with you for the rest of your life.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Making Time To Be With Yourself Is The Greatest Gift We Give The World

Taking time for ourselves does not mean we are taking time from something else.

Giving ourselves the gift of just being with ourselves can be huge.

When we make it a priority in our lives we are better able to be present for others.

It may not seem like that at the time. It may feel a bit selfish.

Yet no matter how we take time to be with ourselves, we can then show up for others in a more clear and open manner.

Yes, we all have responsibilities and roles to play.

Yes, we all have so many things pulling at our attention.

Yes, it takes some effort to make the time to meditate or take a walk by ourselves.

That effort though will be greatly rewarded with the peace and serenity we are cultivating.

It is not about forcing ourselves to do what we feel we should be doing.

It is not about living up to some promise.

It is about being generous with ourselves because we all deserve it.

The funny thing is, the more generous we are with ourselves, the more generous can be with others.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Although we do not like to think about it, death is our constant companion.

Most people fear death, for it is the great unknown.

That is because we don’t understand how to use it properly in our lives.

Death is a part of our lives, and we can use it to help be more present on a daily basis.

Death helps to give us perspective and to see what is truly important to us.

Death helps us to let go of the inconsequential and sharpen our focus.

Death is the reminder that all things are impermanent.

The conversation around death in our culture is one that only sees it as a loss in life.

It is so much more.

The most important aspect of death is our own death.

From seeing our own death more clearly we empower ourselves to be more decisive.

Death is not a trap or a fiend. Death is a tool.

Not one to use against another person. It is a tool to use against our own bad habits.

Death is the purest characteristic of life as it treats everyone the same.

Death comes to everyone – the old, the young, the sick and the healthy.

When we keep death as our constant companion we are free of the attachments that limit us.

Death is the ultimate transformation, yet we do not have to wait until we meet it to transform.

Death can transform our lives for the better if we allow it to.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Some say faith is believing in what we cannot see.

Often, faith is relegated to the religious or spiritual.

Yet, do we not all have to have faith in our vision and our goals in order to move forward?

Do we not have to have faith in ourselves and our abilities in order to create something new?

Believing in what we cannot see externally does not mean we cannot see it internally.

Indeed, it all starts with an internal vision for what we desire to bring into this world.

Is our vision of a new business, a new building, or a new organization to feed the poor?

Do we not have a vision for what our lives will look like in a few days, a few weeks, or a few years?

Vision and Faith go hand in hand and are essential for us to move forward regardless how we apply them.

Perhaps our belief in ourselves is a little tenuous, and not as strong as we would like it to be.

Yet we still carry on and move forward, acting as if it will still manifest.

We cannot be any other way. If we do not have faith then we would never start our next project or our next venture.

It is time to reclaim Faith from the religious connotation it has been carrying for years and turn it back into one that empowers and supports us.

Our faith can bring us together, not divide us, if we allow it.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

The intention with which we do anything is very powerful.

It creates the energy that is the foundation of all our actions.

It is like the inflection we use when we speak. The same word can have two totally different meanings depending on our tone.

Are we doing something out of a feeling of guilt or shame? Or out of joy and contribution?

Are we looking to serve and help others, or are we out for our benefit?

Are we giving from a place of abundance and flow, or is it a transaction that we are waiting for the return on?

Of course, more often than not, our intentions are mixed and not purely one thing or another.

That’s okay, as long as we are aware of it.

Knowing what is our main intention, and what are our secondary intentions is very valuable.

Often, we can see how they play out in our interactions with others and most obviously in our results.

Awareness is the first step to understanding and making a change with how we do anything.

Instead of running by default, we can be more intentional with our actions by taking the time to be quiet and think and feel about what we are about to engage in.

Does this action we are about to take make us feel good deep inside?

Does it make us feel that we are a creator and not a victim?

Does is reflect our power and our beauty or our fear and our pain?

It is not difficult to do, we just have to take the time to make it a priority in our life.

So what is your intention?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Contribution is not really about other people.

It is not about our community, our friends, or our world.

Contribution is about finding meaning in something more than ourselves.

Contribution is about how we feel when we contribute back to society.

Contribution can be a small effort, giving a charity or organization that is doing good work a few bucks.

Or contribution can be truly giving of ourselves, like donating our time to a shelter or soup kitchen.

There are many ways to contribute, not just time or money.

We can contribute our influence, or our resources.

We can contribute our ideas, or our expertise.

Yet the act of giving is more about how it makes us feel, than about being altruistic.

Of course, the two are not incompatible, nor are they exclusive.

There is nothing wrong with doing the right thing because it makes us feel good.

Indeed, isn’t it the sign of an enlightened soul the fact that they take great pleasure in helping others?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant