The Moments Lived Being Truly Present Are The Most Precious Of All

What do we measure a life by?

Do we measure it by the number of dollars earned?

Do we measure it by the number of lives touches?

Or can we stop measuring everything and just acknowledge that each life is precious?

We all contribute in our own way.

We all add to the fullness that is life in this world.

We all add to the richness that makes up the tapestry of creation.

Regardless of how much money we have earned.

Regardless of how many accomplishments we are credited with.

Regardless of the races won.

The moments we live being truly present with another being are the most precious of all.

In the end, a life lived with joy an compassion is the richest life of all.

It is not about who is the most productive.

It is not about who makes the most deals.

It is not about who has the largest, or smallest, family.

Our energy, our presence, creates a unique impact on this planet.

We all add something to the mix.

If we were not here, things would be different.

If we never existed, life would be unimaginably altered.

We all have a place in this world, from the poorest of the poor to the richest and most famous.

Our roles are different, our purposes diverse.

As we learn to revel in our differences and stop comparing ourselves to others, we start to live life more fully.

When we focus on each moment as the precious gift it is, we become rich in experience.

How are you measuring your life?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

If We Are Not Selfish We Cannot Take Care Of The Larger Whole

Why do we find it so difficult to ask for what we want?

Why do we fear the reactions we will receive when we do?

Is that label of being called Selfish so derogatory that we cannot even go near it?

Society often uses the term “Selfish” when an individual voices their need or desire.

Being Selfish is about being concerned for the Self.

Self-care is not only important, it is essential for our health and growth.

We cannot contribute to society without taking care of our selves first.

Being called “Selfish” is a form of control society uses to get individuals to do what Society wants.

It is all about placing Society’s needs above the individual’s needs.

The fallacy of that point of view is that if the individuals are not taken care of, they cannot take care of society.

So why should we fear being called Selfish?

Actually, it is a compliment.

It means we are strong enough and wise enough to consider our own needs first before we can consider others.

When we come from a place of strength, we are able to contribute more.

When we come from a place of strength, we are able to give from a deeper place.

When we come from a place of strength, we are able to truly give what someone needs most.

We can all learn something from being a little more Selfish.

It means opening our hearts to ourselves first, then we can open to others.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

By Honoring Another’s Path We Come To Understand Our Own

The desire to help others comes naturally.

When we are connected to our tribe in a loving way, we want to see everyone do well.

Where we get in trouble is when we try to protect people from their own path.

We cannot stop someone else from making their own choices.

We cannot keep people from the consequences of their own actions.

And we certainly cannot prevent people from feeling their own emotions.

Indeed, the more we judge someone else’s path, the more trouble we cause for ourselves.

The more we resist what is, and how others are, the more we suffer.

Our judgments cause ourselves pain.

Our opinions on how someone else’s life is unfolding only keeps us from being present with them.

We may not agree with their choices.

We do not have to accept their actions as ones we would take in their shoes.

Yet the more we honor their own decisions, the more we honor ourselves.

The more we accept life as it is, the more we can be at peace.

We cannot control the entire universe.

We cannot control even one other person’s path.

We can only live our own life and accept how others have chosen to live theirs.

We don’t have to agree with it.

Yet, if we live as an example of how others can live, perhaps one day they will notice.

Perhaps one day they will ask for our help and be open to receive it.

Before that time comes, there is no opening for us.

It is only by honoring a person’s path that we come to understand our own path more clearly.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

The Solution To Misunderstanding Is Greater Communication

How good are we at communicating?

Do we listen more than we talk?

Are we present in our conversations?

Do we make assumptions that get us in trouble?

Inevitably, bad communication leads to misunderstandings.

Learning to avoid assumptions, or at least verify our assumptions is a great place to start.

Communicating more, not less, is the key.

We think we talk enough with people, but do we really?

And speaking with people is not all about us expressing ourselves.

It’s about listening to the other person.

It’s about truly hearing what they are saying without judgment and not being defensive.

When we project our own interpretation of the conversation we often get in trouble.

If we take the time to verify what the other person is trying to convey, we gain more understanding.

And when we make up conversations in our head, that often has nothing to do with reality.

The only sure solution to avoiding misunderstandings is to communicate often.

Communicate frequently.

Communicate more than you think is necessary.

The greater the communication between people, the greater the connection, the greater the understanding.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

We Are All So Much More Than The Sum Of Our Parts

We have a Heart. Yet we are more than our Heart.

We have a Mind. Yet we are more than our Mind.

We have a Body. Yet we are more than our Body.

We have a Spirit. Yet we are more than our Spirit.

When challenges show up, we normally respond using one of these primary aspects.

We can go to mind and think it through.

We can go to our heart and seek connection and community.

We can go to our body and take the physical actions necessary.

Or we can go to our spirit and meditate and pray on it until a sudden inspiration comes.

We are not limited to how we respond.

And it does not have to be one way over another.

In fact, it does not have to be one way to the exclusion of the others.

We are much more than the sum of our parts.

Indeed, when we call upon all of ourselves, our heart, our mind, our body and our spirit, we can show up more fully to the challenge.

When we are bringing the fullness of our being to any part of our life, our life gets better.

Our relationships get better.

Our business gets better.

Our health gets better.

Our growth blossoms.

So why limit ourselves to be less than we are?

We are Heart, Mind, Body, and Spirit, and so much more.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

When We Accept That Life Is Perfectly Imperfect We Find Freedom

Life is not about everything going right or the way we expect.

Life is not about getting things perfect and avoiding all mistakes.

Life is not about steering clear of pain and frustration.

Indeed, all of these can help us to grow and be stronger.

Yet so often we would do anything just to avoid being wrong.

It is only in the acceptance that life is perfectly imperfect that we find true freedom.

We find the freedom to be ourselves.

To take chances.

To be joyful even when our choices lead us to a disaster or two.

By releasing our attachment that we are meant to “get it right” all the time that we can learn to just enjoy the ride.

Mistakes are our friends.

Failure is our teacher.

Pain is our messenger.

When we begin to accept that they are all a part of life and there is nothing “wrong” with any of them that we truly start to live.

When we learn to accept whatever life brings us with grace and curiosity that we live with less stress and less anxiety.

It is possible for us to get there.

Not next year or in a decade.

We can be there now.

We can be there by just putting off our judgment of the moment we are in until tomorrow.

And tomorrow we can just put off judging the moment until the next day.

And so on.

Let’s just let go of our desire to label and control things for one day.

That’s all we have to do.

Can we start doing that today?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Safety Is About How We Feel Inside Not What Is Going On Around Us

How do we come to a peaceful place inside?

How do we find the tranquility we seek when there is so much chaos in the world?

How do we feel safe when there seems to be so much that is not safe around us?

Feeling safe may be a challenge at times, yet it is possible to achieve when we find our tribe.

The first time we meet a group of people we are all a little bit uneasy.

We’re not sure where or how we fit in.

We don’t know what is expected of us or what to expect of the others.

Yet as we form connections to people individually, we begin to feel more at ease.

It takes time to feel safe in a new situation.

Whether it is a new workplace, a new family, or a new social group.

As we allow ourselves to go through our own process of discovery and exploration of the group, we realize that we do find our equilibrium.

It may not happen as quickly as we would like.

It may not happen in the manner we expect.

Yet when we release ourselves from the expectations and from any timeline, it all goes much smoother.

We connect with one person first. Then another.

Soon we find that we have much more in common with the group then we first thought.

Safety, it turns out, is more about how we feel inside than what is going on around us.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Self-Care Is Essential For Our Own Well-Being And The Well-Being Of Others

We often feel pressure to be of service to others.

Sometimes that works out well.

Other times it wears us down.

If we don’t learn to balance out self-care with service, we can end up with some serious challenges.

It is easy to think of other’s needs and put our own needs to the side.

We feel that if we just show up for others and help them with their challenges we don’t have to worry about ourselves.

Yet that isn’t how things usually work out.

We put ourselves second, or last, and then we have a breakdown while trying to help others.

The breakdown can come in many forms.

It can be physical, it can be emotional, or it can be in our relationships.

What we often don’t understand is that the breakdown occurs exactly because we put our own needs behind that of someone else.

Whether it is a friend, a relative, a partner, or a business, it doesn’t matter.

By not meeting our own needs, by not recognizing that we have to take care of ourselves first, we head down a track that ultimately leads to some kind of breakdown.

The fact that the breakdown occurs is not a bad thing. It is a signal.

It is a signal that we haven’t been operating from a compassionate place and that something needs to change.

Yes, we need to be compassionate to others.

Yet how can we be compassionate to other if we have not yet been compassionate for ourselves?

The breakdown is to show us we need to practice self-care.

Self-care means we have to take care of our own needs in order to have what we need to take care of others.

Practicing self-care is essential for our own well-being as well as the well-being of others.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

The Kinder We Are With Ourselves The Easier It Is To Take Responsibility

How do we take responsibility for our actions?

How do we show up when we’ve made a mistake or done something we thought better of afterward?

Do we justify and throw blame on to others?

Or do we go beyond the idea of blame and merely make right what we have done?

All too often in this society, we find that people fear to take responsibility for their actions and words.

We see how people deny or change what happened out of fear.

Fear drives us to hide from the consequences of our deeds.

We fear how others will respond and react to what we have said or done.

We fear it not because of what others may do.

We fear it because of our own judgments about ourselves.

We fear it because we are being too hard on ourselves, and secretly we are condemning ourselves long before anyone else knows what happened.

This is because we are always our own worst critic, our own worst detractor.

We are far harsher on ourselves than anyone else can ever be.

Our fears are not about what others may do.

Our fears are about merely being exposed and being seen for what we have done.

We fear being human.

We fear making mistakes.

Yet when we allow ourselves to be human and make mistakes, we allow others to do the same.

When we become more compassionate for ourselves, we can be more compassionate for others.

And when we all soften into compassion for being human, there is no reason to be afraid to take responsibility.

We are all guilty, so let’s be more kind to ourselves and to everyone else.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

The Quality Of Our Lives Is Determined By The Quality Of The Questions We Ask

How often do we listen to the questions we ask ourselves in our heads?

How often do we ask ourselves questions that cannot be answered?

How does it affect how we feel about ourselves and our lives?

When we start to become more conscious and mindful we start to observe ourselves more.

We start to notice little things, such as how we ask such things as “Why does this always happen to me?”

We can look at this and see that questions like this are not helpful to ask ourselves.

For when we ask ourselves any question, it feeds the unconscious mind which then goes to work finding the answers to our questions.

This is a very powerful form of programming that we do to ourselves.

Yet when we ask questions that will inevitably lead to negative answers, it disempowers us.

The solution is to ask more empowering questions that actually serves us.

Questions such as “How can this serve me?” or “How can I have fun with this?” point our minds in a direction that creates a better life for ourselves.

In general, Why questions do not serve us.

How and What questions are usually much more constructive.

So as we notice ourselves asking questions that do not serve us, we can learn to re-frame them into questions that move us forward.

“How does this help me?”

“What can I do to improve this situation?”

“Where can I find more resources to help me with this challenge?”

These are all good questions that move us closer to an answer that actually helps us to find real solutions to the things we face in life.

As we become more adept at asking high-quality questions, the quality of our life improves.

What high-quality questions can you start asking yourself today?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant