You Can Be Right Or You Can Be Happy – You Can Rarely Be Both

We never really win an argument.

No matter how hard we try to convince the other person that they are wrong, they will only dig in their heels.

If anything, they will only be more convinced they are right.

And if by some miracle we do get them to concede that we are right and they are wrong, they will remain angry at us.

If we lose, we lose, and if we win, we lose.

Perhaps because we are playing the wrong game?

Maybe what we should be concerned with is not winning, but being happy.

The old adage is ” You can be right, or you can be happy, but you can rarely be both.”

If we change our focus from one of winning to one of happiness, we can play a totally different game.

And then we play in a totally different way.

Because now it is not about the end result, it is about how we play.

When we give up our need to be right and focus on our desire to be happy, we can joyful skip down the road.

We can let others have whatever opinions they want to have.

As long as we’re happy, who cares?

Yet being in that joyful place will attract others to wonder why are you so happy?

Maybe then they also will give up the need to be right and focus on being happy instead.

That is how we all win.

So let’s stop playing the win-lose type of game, and learn to play more win-win games.

After all, aren’t they much more fun?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

To Truly Help Others Is To Empower Them To Find Their Own Answers

We often think that when we give someone the answer we are helping them.

By being the shining knight we feel good about rescuing the person from their situation.

In the long run that only makes them depend upon someone else.

To truly help others is to empower them.

Empower them to find their own answers.

Empower them to trust their feelings.

Empower them to see that everything they need is already inside of them.

We do not need more gurus or more masters.

What we need is to be shown how to be our own guru.

When we become truly self-reliant we can achieve amazing things.

Ultimately, our job is to help the other person to see that they don’t need us.

Now that’s empowerment!

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

When We Show Up Better The World Shows Up Better For Us

Showing up better in our lives is not about comparing ourselves to others.

Showing up better is not necessarily about being smarter, stronger, or faster.

Showing up better in our lives is about just being better than we were the day before.

Even small improvements, tiny changes, can have a big impact over time.

When we take better care of ourselves, we show up better.

When we are more kind and gentle to ourselves, we show up better.

When we nurture and encourage ourselves, we show up better.

The thing is, we don’t have to show up better for anyone else.

It’s not a condition or responsibility that we owe to anyone other than ourselves.

We show up better so we can feel better, more alive, more empowered.

We show up better so we can have a greater sense of contribution or service.

We show up better so we can have a more profound impact on the world around us.

It doesn’t take huge leaps and bounds to get there.

We just need to recognize the ways in which we know and feel we can be better, and then just work on those aspects a little at a time.

When we show up better, the world shows up better for us.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

The intention with which we do anything is very powerful.

It creates the energy that is the foundation of all our actions.

It is like the inflection we use when we speak. The same word can have two totally different meanings depending on our tone.

Are we doing something out of a feeling of guilt or shame? Or out of joy and contribution?

Are we looking to serve and help others, or are we out for our benefit?

Are we giving from a place of abundance and flow, or is it a transaction that we are waiting for the return on?

Of course, more often than not, our intentions are mixed and not purely one thing or another.

That’s okay, as long as we are aware of it.

Knowing what is our main intention, and what are our secondary intentions is very valuable.

Often, we can see how they play out in our interactions with others and most obviously in our results.

Awareness is the first step to understanding and making a change with how we do anything.

Instead of running by default, we can be more intentional with our actions by taking the time to be quiet and think and feel about what we are about to engage in.

Does this action we are about to take make us feel good deep inside?

Does it make us feel that we are a creator and not a victim?

Does is reflect our power and our beauty or our fear and our pain?

It is not difficult to do, we just have to take the time to make it a priority in our life.

So what is your intention?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Each day we start out new.

Each day we get to choose how we decide to go through our day.

For many people, they choose by default.

For some people, they choose intentionally.

If we are to live life to our greatest capacity, choosing intentionally is far superior to letting life choose for us.

As we continue to grow and raise our awareness, we begin to understand that the more intention we put behind our actions and our thoughts, the more life yields to our desires.

The more we envision our future, the more we envision next year, next month, or even tomorrow, the more we see that vision come true.

The beautiful part about it is that we don’t have to stick to one the same intention.

Each day we can make a new choice, set a new intention, envision a new future.

From that day forward we can begin to build that future.

Of course, the more we change our minds the longer it will take to bring that new future into manifestation.

Yet, isn’t it nice to know that our intentions aren’t written in stone and can be changed when appropriate?

So let’s start this day with an intention and a vision, and allow them to guide our actions.

Together, miracles can be created…

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

It is not that unusual to hear someone mention that something is not working right or missing.

We see a problem or a lack and we feel that someone should do something about it.

The mistake we make is that we think it is someone else’s responsibility to do something about it.

It is not.

If we see something in our life that is missing, that is not as we would like it, there’s a reason why we see it and someone else doesn’t.

Just because it is in our world, in our experience, does not mean that someone else will have the same experience.

Our experience is a call.

It is a call to action.

See something that can be done better? Great! Build a better mouse trap.

See something missing from the world that would contribute to it? Great! Make that contribution.

The reason we see it and others don’t is because it is a call for us to step up and do something about it.

See an easier way for something to be accomplished? Great! Imagine how many other people could benefit from your insight.

Does this mean we have to do everything ourselves? No.

Just because we see a need, we see how something can be done better, does not mean we have to do something about it alone.

We can share our insight, our vision with others, and for those whom it resonates with, ask them to join you.

We are the ones we have been waiting for.  Let’s not waiting any longer.

Time to do what life is calling us to do.

If you see something to change in the world, it is a call to start the change.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

We are programmed against change.

Our brains are hard-wired for keeping the status quo going.

Change is death. Change is Bad. Change is to be avoided.

Is it any wonder that change is so hard for us?

Yet, we no longer live in jungles where if we stray off the path we can be eaten by a tiger.

We (most of us) no longer roam the plains in search of our next meal as we fight off starvation.

We have the privilege now to reflect on our lives, work on ourselves, and change.

Yet in order to do that we must fight again generations and generations of instincts that tell us not to.

This is why so much effort is needed, especially when we are working from the outside, in.

When we work from the inside, out, we often find our results come quicker and last longer.

Getting comfortable with being uncomfortable is essential.

Practice being open to change in little ways first, then build on that.

See the change in yourself and in others, even where you don’t want to.

Recognizing change is one of the most important things we can do to reinforce the changes in ourselves.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

What is it that pulls us forward into a better life?

It is not a better job or a better partner.

It is not more money or more contacts.

It is the vision we hold of our future selves.

How we envision ourselves in our future is what pulls us forward.

It calls us to do more, be more, and serve more.

When we see ourselves not only achieving more in our lives, but contributing more to the lives around us, that’s what inspires us to become more of who we really are.

We can only grow to the extent that we envision ourselves changing.

We only strive to the level that we see in our mind’s eye that’s achievable for us.

Our life is a creation of the vision we hold for ourselves and the belief that that vision is real and possible.

Can you see yourself a week, a month, or a year into the future?

Can you see the beauty you will create, the good you will do, the inspiration you will spread?

Time to envision more, feel it more, and allow it to pull you forward.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

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Intention is not just a whimsical thought.

Intention is not a daydream or a wish.

Intention is the energy we put into an act, a word, or a feeling.

Intention is what makes the difference between creating an outcome of joy, and one of misalignment.

Intention is how we create a world and a life by design, instead of by default.

Intention is what makes our efforts so powerful and effective.

Taking the time to sit with our intentions and be clear with them is one of the best investments we can make.

Meditating on a course of action is not wasted time, it is the essential space that we need to be clear.

And clarity of intention is one of the most powerful forces of nature.

Have you taken the time to set your intentions today?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant