To Truly Help Others Is To Empower Them To Find Their Own Answers

We often think that when we give someone the answer we are helping them.

By being the shining knight we feel good about rescuing the person from their situation.

In the long run that only makes them depend upon someone else.

To truly help others is to empower them.

Empower them to find their own answers.

Empower them to trust their feelings.

Empower them to see that everything they need is already inside of them.

We do not need more gurus or more masters.

What we need is to be shown how to be our own guru.

When we become truly self-reliant we can achieve amazing things.

Ultimately, our job is to help the other person to see that they don’t need us.

Now that’s empowerment!

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

When We Validate And Love Ourselves Others Will Surely Follow

It is not uncommon for us to look for acceptance and validation from the outside world.

When we were young, perhaps we didn’t receive the love and attention that we craved.

Perhaps we were compared to others and felt that we didn’t measure up.

Or maybe we didn’t receive the comfort we needed at a moment of despair or pain.

There are many reasons why we might look to others for approval and support.

That can be a trap. Looking for something as elusive as acceptance from others is a tricky game.

We may get it, or we may not. Yet there is a better way to go about it.

Ultimately, all acceptance comes first from self-acceptance.

We may look for love and validation from others, yet when we love and validate ourselves first, the desire for it from others dramatically decreases.

Not that the desire for the love and approval from others ever goes away.

Yet if we are aware and conscious of that desire, and learn to direct it more inwards than outwards, we can find what we are truly looking for.

The side benefit is that when we truly accept ourselves, others are much more likely to as well.

Once again, doing the inner work of self-reflection and self-realization brings on more rewards in the outside world than we imagined.

For there is no inner world or outer world, there is only one world, the world of now.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

It is not that unusual to hear someone mention that something is not working right or missing.

We see a problem or a lack and we feel that someone should do something about it.

The mistake we make is that we think it is someone else’s responsibility to do something about it.

It is not.

If we see something in our life that is missing, that is not as we would like it, there’s a reason why we see it and someone else doesn’t.

Just because it is in our world, in our experience, does not mean that someone else will have the same experience.

Our experience is a call.

It is a call to action.

See something that can be done better? Great! Build a better mouse trap.

See something missing from the world that would contribute to it? Great! Make that contribution.

The reason we see it and others don’t is because it is a call for us to step up and do something about it.

See an easier way for something to be accomplished? Great! Imagine how many other people could benefit from your insight.

Does this mean we have to do everything ourselves? No.

Just because we see a need, we see how something can be done better, does not mean we have to do something about it alone.

We can share our insight, our vision with others, and for those whom it resonates with, ask them to join you.

We are the ones we have been waiting for.  Let’s not waiting any longer.

Time to do what life is calling us to do.

If you see something to change in the world, it is a call to start the change.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

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The connection between our emotions and our bodies is much deeper than we think.

As humans, we have a tendency to disconnect the physical from the emotional in our minds.

We think that being upset or being happy has no effect on how our bodies function.

Yet the opposite is true. Our feelings and our emotions are intricately intertwined with our physical bodies.

When we are stressed, when we are depressed, when we are frightened, our bodies internal mechanisms all shift.

Our immune systems don’t work as well, the blood flows more slowly or at a heightened rate. Our digestion starts to shut down. Our breathing becomes more shallow and less oxygen makes it into the blood.

When we are joyful, happy and content, our bodies respond by functioning quite well. Our immune system works better, the blood flow to all of our organs is more steady, we breath more deeply and our whole body is nourished.

When we suppress our emotions, the body reacts as well. When we do that over a long period of time, wherever we store those emotions in our bodies, suffers from long term stress, and dis-ease begins to form.

Science is showing us that there is a direct correlation between our emotional health and our physical health.

So if we truly want to be healthy through our entire lives, emotional health is essential.

How do we become emotionally healthy? By expressing and working through our emotional ups and downs instead of hiding them. We all need a safe space in which to express ourselves. Find the one or two people you feel safe with, and express yourself.

A little talking and openness can go a long way…

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

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Pain is a great communicator.

You cannot ignore it, nor can you avoid it.

We spend a great deal of time attempting to make it go away instead of listening to it.

Pain always has a message to it. It is here to inform us that something needs to change.

It does not matter whether it is physical pain or emotional pain, the message is the same.

Something is not working properly and we need to look at it. Something is stuck and we need to release it, Something is not aligned and we need to balance it.

So often we judge pain as bad and that makes it all the more painful. When we can release our judgement over pain and pay attention to it, we have taken the first step to releasing it.

Listening to it, really delving into it and being open to it’s message, is the surest way to get past it.

As long as we stuff it down, ignore it, and avoid it at all costs, it will persist. It will continue and we’ll miss a great opportunity to learn.

Where is your pain? What is it telling you? How can you be more open to it?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

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We all need to call for help sometime.

Not because we aren’t capable or strong. Not because we are unable to deal with a situation.

We call for help because other people have a different experience from ours.

And with different experience comes different insight, different skills, different strengths and weaknesses.

That difference is what makes us human. That difference is what makes us unique.

Sometimes we don’t like the difference. Sometimes that difference is scary.

Yet, when we are in need of someone with that exactly difference, we crave it.

No one has what they need all the time throughout their entire life.

We need teachers, mentors, and guides to help us as we walk along our own path.

That doesn’t make our path any less unique or difficult.

Calling for help is a very human thing to do. When we call for help, we find that together, we can achieve more.

We always have a choice. We can choose to suffer in silence, or we can choose to ask for help and find the support we need.

That does not make us any less of a person. Indeed, it makes us all the more human.

Where do you need help?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

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Asking for help is never an easy thing for us.

Especially from those closest to us, our friends, our family, and our community.

Yet those are the very people who would want to help us the most.

Our ego, our sense of self-sufficiency, our sense of independence, stops us from asking.

And that is a mistake. It is a mistake for many reasons.

First, we are not independent. We are inter-dependent. We cannot survive without each other, and we are not designed to.

Second, when we do not ask for help we are denying others the chance to give. If those closest to us knew how much we needed their help, they would open their arms and their hearts without a second thought. We would do the same.

Third, when we do not ask for help we are denying ourselves the opportunity for true self-care. Being supported by others around us is how we are born, and often, how we die. We all need to feel that support throughout our lives, just as we feel the need to support others.

It is not selfish and it is not a sign of weakness to need other’s support. It is a sign of being human, in a world of humans.

The more we allow ourselves to rely on others, and for others to rely on us, the more we foster community and appreciation.

It brings us all closer together, instead of separating us and tearing us apart.

Do you need help? Can you ask for help?

We are all here to help!

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant