By Honoring Another’s Path We Come To Understand Our Own

The desire to help others comes naturally.

When we are connected to our tribe in a loving way, we want to see everyone do well.

Where we get in trouble is when we try to protect people from their own path.

We cannot stop someone else from making their own choices.

We cannot keep people from the consequences of their own actions.

And we certainly cannot prevent people from feeling their own emotions.

Indeed, the more we judge someone else’s path, the more trouble we cause for ourselves.

The more we resist what is, and how others are, the more we suffer.

Our judgments cause ourselves pain.

Our opinions on how someone else’s life is unfolding only keeps us from being present with them.

We may not agree with their choices.

We do not have to accept their actions as ones we would take in their shoes.

Yet the more we honor their own decisions, the more we honor ourselves.

The more we accept life as it is, the more we can be at peace.

We cannot control the entire universe.

We cannot control even one other person’s path.

We can only live our own life and accept how others have chosen to live theirs.

We don’t have to agree with it.

Yet, if we live as an example of how others can live, perhaps one day they will notice.

Perhaps one day they will ask for our help and be open to receive it.

Before that time comes, there is no opening for us.

It is only by honoring a person’s path that we come to understand our own path more clearly.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

The Solution To Misunderstanding Is Greater Communication

How good are we at communicating?

Do we listen more than we talk?

Are we present in our conversations?

Do we make assumptions that get us in trouble?

Inevitably, bad communication leads to misunderstandings.

Learning to avoid assumptions, or at least verify our assumptions is a great place to start.

Communicating more, not less, is the key.

We think we talk enough with people, but do we really?

And speaking with people is not all about us expressing ourselves.

It’s about listening to the other person.

It’s about truly hearing what they are saying without judgment and not being defensive.

When we project our own interpretation of the conversation we often get in trouble.

If we take the time to verify what the other person is trying to convey, we gain more understanding.

And when we make up conversations in our head, that often has nothing to do with reality.

The only sure solution to avoiding misunderstandings is to communicate often.

Communicate frequently.

Communicate more than you think is necessary.

The greater the communication between people, the greater the connection, the greater the understanding.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

The Quality Of Our Lives Is Determined By The Quality Of The Questions We Ask

How often do we listen to the questions we ask ourselves in our heads?

How often do we ask ourselves questions that cannot be answered?

How does it affect how we feel about ourselves and our lives?

When we start to become more conscious and mindful we start to observe ourselves more.

We start to notice little things, such as how we ask such things as “Why does this always happen to me?”

We can look at this and see that questions like this are not helpful to ask ourselves.

For when we ask ourselves any question, it feeds the unconscious mind which then goes to work finding the answers to our questions.

This is a very powerful form of programming that we do to ourselves.

Yet when we ask questions that will inevitably lead to negative answers, it disempowers us.

The solution is to ask more empowering questions that actually serves us.

Questions such as “How can this serve me?” or “How can I have fun with this?” point our minds in a direction that creates a better life for ourselves.

In general, Why questions do not serve us.

How and What questions are usually much more constructive.

So as we notice ourselves asking questions that do not serve us, we can learn to re-frame them into questions that move us forward.

“How does this help me?”

“What can I do to improve this situation?”

“Where can I find more resources to help me with this challenge?”

These are all good questions that move us closer to an answer that actually helps us to find real solutions to the things we face in life.

As we become more adept at asking high-quality questions, the quality of our life improves.

What high-quality questions can you start asking yourself today?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Our Monsters Are Here To Protect Our Innocence

We all have monsters within us.

We are taught to shun our monsters and keep them hidden.

This is because most people don’t really understand why the monsters are here.

By suppressing our monsters we allow them to fester in the unconscious.

And they will not stay there.

In time, all of our monsters come out.

Sometimes in positive ways, many times in damaging ways.

What we don’t understand is that our monsters are here to protect our innocence.

They are here because our inner child cannot deal with some harsh reality.

Perhaps it is some form of physical pain or emotional trauma that is too difficult to accept.

Perhaps it comes from the loss of a parent or person close to us.

Whatever the reason for the appearance of our monster, it is not here to destroy us.

It is here to help us. To protect us. To serve us.

Yet we have to mature and learn when we are ready to release our monsters.

Yes, they served us well and kept us from the pain.

Yet as we grow and face our pain, our monsters are no longer necessary.

We are no longer dependent on our monsters.

We can see them for what they are, be grateful to them for their service, and allow them to be integrated into our lives.

Our monsters are a part of us, yet they do not have rule over us.

When we are open to our monster’s messages, we can learn quite a lot about ourselves.

Our monsters are not that bad after all…

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

To Truly Help Others Is To Empower Them To Find Their Own Answers

We often think that when we give someone the answer we are helping them.

By being the shining knight we feel good about rescuing the person from their situation.

In the long run that only makes them depend upon someone else.

To truly help others is to empower them.

Empower them to find their own answers.

Empower them to trust their feelings.

Empower them to see that everything they need is already inside of them.

We do not need more gurus or more masters.

What we need is to be shown how to be our own guru.

When we become truly self-reliant we can achieve amazing things.

Ultimately, our job is to help the other person to see that they don’t need us.

Now that’s empowerment!

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

When We Validate And Love Ourselves Others Will Surely Follow

It is not uncommon for us to look for acceptance and validation from the outside world.

When we were young, perhaps we didn’t receive the love and attention that we craved.

Perhaps we were compared to others and felt that we didn’t measure up.

Or maybe we didn’t receive the comfort we needed at a moment of despair or pain.

There are many reasons why we might look to others for approval and support.

That can be a trap. Looking for something as elusive as acceptance from others is a tricky game.

We may get it, or we may not. Yet there is a better way to go about it.

Ultimately, all acceptance comes first from self-acceptance.

We may look for love and validation from others, yet when we love and validate ourselves first, the desire for it from others dramatically decreases.

Not that the desire for the love and approval from others ever goes away.

Yet if we are aware and conscious of that desire, and learn to direct it more inwards than outwards, we can find what we are truly looking for.

The side benefit is that when we truly accept ourselves, others are much more likely to as well.

Once again, doing the inner work of self-reflection and self-realization brings on more rewards in the outside world than we imagined.

For there is no inner world or outer world, there is only one world, the world of now.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

It is not that unusual to hear someone mention that something is not working right or missing.

We see a problem or a lack and we feel that someone should do something about it.

The mistake we make is that we think it is someone else’s responsibility to do something about it.

It is not.

If we see something in our life that is missing, that is not as we would like it, there’s a reason why we see it and someone else doesn’t.

Just because it is in our world, in our experience, does not mean that someone else will have the same experience.

Our experience is a call.

It is a call to action.

See something that can be done better? Great! Build a better mouse trap.

See something missing from the world that would contribute to it? Great! Make that contribution.

The reason we see it and others don’t is because it is a call for us to step up and do something about it.

See an easier way for something to be accomplished? Great! Imagine how many other people could benefit from your insight.

Does this mean we have to do everything ourselves? No.

Just because we see a need, we see how something can be done better, does not mean we have to do something about it alone.

We can share our insight, our vision with others, and for those whom it resonates with, ask them to join you.

We are the ones we have been waiting for.  Let’s not waiting any longer.

Time to do what life is calling us to do.

If you see something to change in the world, it is a call to start the change.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

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The connection between our emotions and our bodies is much deeper than we think.

As humans, we have a tendency to disconnect the physical from the emotional in our minds.

We think that being upset or being happy has no effect on how our bodies function.

Yet the opposite is true. Our feelings and our emotions are intricately intertwined with our physical bodies.

When we are stressed, when we are depressed, when we are frightened, our bodies internal mechanisms all shift.

Our immune systems don’t work as well, the blood flows more slowly or at a heightened rate. Our digestion starts to shut down. Our breathing becomes more shallow and less oxygen makes it into the blood.

When we are joyful, happy and content, our bodies respond by functioning quite well. Our immune system works better, the blood flow to all of our organs is more steady, we breath more deeply and our whole body is nourished.

When we suppress our emotions, the body reacts as well. When we do that over a long period of time, wherever we store those emotions in our bodies, suffers from long term stress, and dis-ease begins to form.

Science is showing us that there is a direct correlation between our emotional health and our physical health.

So if we truly want to be healthy through our entire lives, emotional health is essential.

How do we become emotionally healthy? By expressing and working through our emotional ups and downs instead of hiding them. We all need a safe space in which to express ourselves. Find the one or two people you feel safe with, and express yourself.

A little talking and openness can go a long way…

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

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Pain is a great communicator.

You cannot ignore it, nor can you avoid it.

We spend a great deal of time attempting to make it go away instead of listening to it.

Pain always has a message to it. It is here to inform us that something needs to change.

It does not matter whether it is physical pain or emotional pain, the message is the same.

Something is not working properly and we need to look at it. Something is stuck and we need to release it, Something is not aligned and we need to balance it.

So often we judge pain as bad and that makes it all the more painful. When we can release our judgement over pain and pay attention to it, we have taken the first step to releasing it.

Listening to it, really delving into it and being open to it’s message, is the surest way to get past it.

As long as we stuff it down, ignore it, and avoid it at all costs, it will persist. It will continue and we’ll miss a great opportunity to learn.

Where is your pain? What is it telling you? How can you be more open to it?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

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We all need to call for help sometime.

Not because we aren’t capable or strong. Not because we are unable to deal with a situation.

We call for help because other people have a different experience from ours.

And with different experience comes different insight, different skills, different strengths and weaknesses.

That difference is what makes us human. That difference is what makes us unique.

Sometimes we don’t like the difference. Sometimes that difference is scary.

Yet, when we are in need of someone with that exactly difference, we crave it.

No one has what they need all the time throughout their entire life.

We need teachers, mentors, and guides to help us as we walk along our own path.

That doesn’t make our path any less unique or difficult.

Calling for help is a very human thing to do. When we call for help, we find that together, we can achieve more.

We always have a choice. We can choose to suffer in silence, or we can choose to ask for help and find the support we need.

That does not make us any less of a person. Indeed, it makes us all the more human.

Where do you need help?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant