To Heal Our Deepest Wounds We Must Speak The Truth About Our Pain

In order to begin our healing process, there is something we must be willing to do.

It is not just about taking better care of ourselves or changing our lifestyle.

It is about something far deeper and more difficult.

To start the journey to healing and wholeness we must be willing to speak our truth.

The truth about how we feel deep inside.

The truth about our pain and suffering.

The truth about our desires and secret wishes.

Without admitting to ourselves what we are experiencing, without admitting what we are feeling, without admitting to ourselves what we truly want, we cannot move forward.

What we hide inside ourselves will continue to control us.

What we shun and fear will continue to affect our lives.

The truth we deny within ourselves will fester and grow until it must come out.

It is not easy to admit the truth to ourselves.

It takes courage to be brutally honest about how we feel and what we want.

Yet we do it not for others, but for ourselves.

To be whole again

To be at peace.

To heal the deepest wounds that stay with us our whole lives.

These are the wounds that kill us, if we do not address them.

These are the wounds that drive us, if we do not speak them out loud.

It is only by shining the light of our own truth upon the blackest corners of our soul that we free ourselves from their shackles.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Play Can Be Deep Work

Sometimes, play can be deep inner work.

Yes, it can be superficial.

Yes, it can be just a distraction.

Yes, it can be nothing but play.

And it can be just what we needed.

Play is how the mind makes new connections.

Play is how we learn and grow.

When we get too serious, too stressed, we need play more than ever.

When we want to be more creative, play is necessary.

When we want to find a new solution, play allows us to be free.

Making time to play is never a waste.

The results may not show up right away, yet they will follow.

Are we taking enough time to play in our lives?

Perhaps we can all play a little more, and learn to be playful in our most serious work.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

We Don’t Need Another Strategy We Need To Just Look Deep Inside

It is not so uncommon to feel that we need another strategy to move forward.

We feel that when we find that the one missing key we will be able to change our lives.

Yet what we really need is not another system or blueprint.

The fallacy in this thinking is that we need something external to us to change our lives.

The only way to change how life feels to us and move forward in an authentic way is to look deep inside.

We do not need another book or another seminar to teach us something that is already in our heart.

We do not need another workshop or another experience to show us how to be different.

When we look inside ourselves at the real work we need to do, we know the answer before we ask the question.

What we need more than anything else is the opportunity to work on ourselves without distraction.

What we want more than anything else is to connect with our soul and heal the deep wounds.

What serves us more than anything else is to be present to our feelings and our unexpressed emotions.

When we look internally instead of externally, we find all the answers we require to move forward in our lives.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

We All Have Dog Days Every Now And Then

We all have dog days every now and then.

We all sometimes feel like the world is against us.

We all wake up on the wrong side of the bed once in a while.

The key is not to marinate in the misery.

Feeling awful? Great! Feel it!

Let’s not stuff down the uncomfortable feelings.

Let’s not ignore the signs that tell us it’s time to take a break.

Let’s not forget that will always be ups and downs.

If we can stop judging the downs as bad, we can get through them with greater ease.

When we truly accept all that life brings to us, regardless of how good or bad it feels, somehow things just go smoother.

It’s okay to have a dog day, just don’t drag it around with you for the rest of your life.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Although we do not like to think about it, death is our constant companion.

Most people fear death, for it is the great unknown.

That is because we don’t understand how to use it properly in our lives.

Death is a part of our lives, and we can use it to help be more present on a daily basis.

Death helps to give us perspective and to see what is truly important to us.

Death helps us to let go of the inconsequential and sharpen our focus.

Death is the reminder that all things are impermanent.

The conversation around death in our culture is one that only sees it as a loss in life.

It is so much more.

The most important aspect of death is our own death.

From seeing our own death more clearly we empower ourselves to be more decisive.

Death is not a trap or a fiend. Death is a tool.

Not one to use against another person. It is a tool to use against our own bad habits.

Death is the purest characteristic of life as it treats everyone the same.

Death comes to everyone – the old, the young, the sick and the healthy.

When we keep death as our constant companion we are free of the attachments that limit us.

Death is the ultimate transformation, yet we do not have to wait until we meet it to transform.

Death can transform our lives for the better if we allow it to.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Hate Is Not About Hatred

Hate is not about Hatred.

Anger is not about Rage.

Fear is not about Fright.

When we go deep enough, what underlies them all is pain and sadness.

When we are in pain we lash out. We lash out without thought and without understanding.

We may pick a specific target for our hate and anger, yet it is not about that specific target.

It is about our pain. And underneath that pain is a profound sadness.

In the moment, all we can feel is that if we cause someone or something else pain, it will take away ours.

Nothing is further from the truth.

Pain only causes more pain. To stop the pain, we must be present to it, we must allow it to run its course without stuffing it down.

We all have pain and we all feel pain, the difference is how we deal with it.

The most important thing is not to pass it on.

So let’s give ourselves some space to feel our pain, to feel our sadness, and to allow our bodies to process it with time.

Perhaps when we learn not to pass on our pain we will see less pain in the world.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Our personal power starts to end the moment we begin to blame someone or something else.

It does not matter what they did, or what happened to us, it only matters that we allow the circumstance to dictate our reaction.

Our power come from our presence and our ability to decide how we choose to respond to any given situation.

Blaming and making either someone else or the situation wrong, merely takes away our ability to move past it.

When we decide how we want to be in the situation regardless of the truth of it, then we are exercising our most important muscle.

It is the muscle of choice. It is the muscle of our spirit. It is the muscle of our divine right to create our life anew.

Resisting what is only causes us pain and keeps us stuck where we are.

To acknowledge the truth of the reality of the situation yet not allow the truth to dictate our behaviour the surest way to build our personal power.

Being present to a situation that is unpleasant is a choice. Being present with compassion and love for ourselves is one of the greatest choices we can ever make.

So let’s stop resisting the reality, let’s stop blaming anyone or anything else, and let’s focus on what we can do instead.

When we shift from blame to choice we empower ourselves beyond measure.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

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Why is it that we try so hard to avoid our feelings?

We dampen them with substance. We drown them in drink. We stuff them down with food.

We ignore them by spending all our time on our gadgets and no time just being present.

Is it so frightful to feel that we have to come up with new ways not to feel every day?

The sad part is that there is so much beauty, so much richness in our feelings.

Our feelings tell us so much about ourselves, and how the other person is.

Our feelings let us know when we should be silent, and when we should be engaged.

Our feelings let us know when there is something to deal with, and when we are in the flow.

Our feelings are the key to so much of our lives, yet we do not value them as the treasure they are.

What can we do to pay more attention to our feelings?

Show up, be present, listen to our bodies, and feel what is going on around us and within us.

Our world becomes so much deeper when we do…

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

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In a world of distraction, being present to a given moment is a skill.

We get distracted by all kinds of devices, often engaging in conversations while working on some task.

We type, talk, and text all in one minute. While this may promote productivity, it decreases our ability to focus.

Parallel processing may be great for computers and other mechanical inventions. For consciousness, not so much.

To truly be present to the person we are with takes concentration and attention. If our thoughts and focus is scattered over six different activities, how can we concentrate?

Yet, when we show up and truly be with someone, magic can happen.

Suddenly you can feel how they are doing without asking a question. You notice things about the person you never noticed before. The connection that comes with presence is palpable.

Being present, even to just given task, is not a chore. It is a gift we give ourselves.

When we are present to the world around us, when we live life in the present moment without judgment or distraction, we experience something wondrous.

Have you taken the time to be present today?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant