Hate Is Not About Hatred

Hate is not about Hatred.

Anger is not about Rage.

Fear is not about Fright.

When we go deep enough, what underlies them all is pain and sadness.

When we are in pain we lash out. We lash out without thought and without understanding.

We may pick a specific target for our hate and anger, yet it is not about that specific target.

It is about our pain. And underneath that pain is a profound sadness.

In the moment, all we can feel is that if we cause someone or something else pain, it will take away ours.

Nothing is further from the truth.

Pain only causes more pain. To stop the pain, we must be present to it, we must allow it to run its course without stuffing it down.

We all have pain and we all feel pain, the difference is how we deal with it.

The most important thing is not to pass it on.

So let’s give ourselves some space to feel our pain, to feel our sadness, and to allow our bodies to process it with time.

Perhaps when we learn not to pass on our pain we will see less pain in the world.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Our personal power starts to end the moment we begin to blame someone or something else.

It does not matter what they did, or what happened to us, it only matters that we allow the circumstance to dictate our reaction.

Our power come from our presence and our ability to decide how we choose to respond to any given situation.

Blaming and making either someone else or the situation wrong, merely takes away our ability to move past it.

When we decide how we want to be in the situation regardless of the truth of it, then we are exercising our most important muscle.

It is the muscle of choice. It is the muscle of our spirit. It is the muscle of our divine right to create our life anew.

Resisting what is only causes us pain and keeps us stuck where we are.

To acknowledge the truth of the reality of the situation yet not allow the truth to dictate our behaviour the surest way to build our personal power.

Being present to a situation that is unpleasant is a choice. Being present with compassion and love for ourselves is one of the greatest choices we can ever make.

So let’s stop resisting the reality, let’s stop blaming anyone or anything else, and let’s focus on what we can do instead.

When we shift from blame to choice we empower ourselves beyond measure.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

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Why is it that we try so hard to avoid our feelings?

We dampen them with substance. We drown them in drink. We stuff them down with food.

We ignore them by spending all our time on our gadgets and no time just being present.

Is it so frightful to feel that we have to come up with new ways not to feel every day?

The sad part is that there is so much beauty, so much richness in our feelings.

Our feelings tell us so much about ourselves, and how the other person is.

Our feelings let us know when we should be silent, and when we should be engaged.

Our feelings let us know when there is something to deal with, and when we are in the flow.

Our feelings are the key to so much of our lives, yet we do not value them as the treasure they are.

What can we do to pay more attention to our feelings?

Show up, be present, listen to our bodies, and feel what is going on around us and within us.

Our world becomes so much deeper when we do…

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

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In a world of distraction, being present to a given moment is a skill.

We get distracted by all kinds of devices, often engaging in conversations while working on some task.

We type, talk, and text all in one minute. While this may promote productivity, it decreases our ability to focus.

Parallel processing may be great for computers and other mechanical inventions. For consciousness, not so much.

To truly be present to the person we are with takes concentration and attention. If our thoughts and focus is scattered over six different activities, how can we concentrate?

Yet, when we show up and truly be with someone, magic can happen.

Suddenly you can feel how they are doing without asking a question. You notice things about the person you never noticed before. The connection that comes with presence is palpable.

Being present, even to just given task, is not a chore. It is a gift we give ourselves.

When we are present to the world around us, when we live life in the present moment without judgment or distraction, we experience something wondrous.

Have you taken the time to be present today?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant