To Create A Kinder World We Only Have To Be Kinder Ourselves

We all crave to live in a more friendly and compassionate world.

We want to feel safe to live and be who we are.

We long for the feeling of community and camaraderie.

So it is important to look at what we are doing to create that kind of world.

Are we being friendlier to others?

Are we expressing our compassion for others, even complete strangers?

Do we engage in rituals and activities that engender the feeling of community?

It is time to stop waiting for others to change, and to make the change ourselves.

If we desire to see a world that is more gentle and kind, then it is time for us to be more gentle and kind.

Be the change you want to see in the world” is not just a pretty slogan, it is the way to live.

The power is in our hands, we can and do make a difference every day.

We make a difference by being nice when someone else is in a rush and not being mindful.

We make a difference by being soft when others are being hard.

We make a difference by showing our kindness to those in need.

We make a difference with our presence, our words, and our actions.

Even one small step goes a long way to creating a friendlier world.

What can you contribute to a kinder, gentler planet?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

In a world where we are constantly surrounded by people, finding time to be with oneself can be difficult.

So many demands are put on us by other people, and with our constantly on devices, we are always reachable.

Yet taking time away from it all to be with ourselves is exactly what we need.

To find balance, to find peace, to find direction in our lives, we need the time to process all the stimulus we get on a daily basis.

To know ourselves on a deep level, we need time in quiet and solitude to actually feel what is going on inside of us.

How can we really connect with ourselves if our attention is constantly pulled to the outside world?

How can we find our inspiration if we are continuously exposed to the bombardment of information?

How do we learn what we truly have to give to the world if we cannot experience the stillness to feel our heart’s beat?

We think we have to always be there for other people. So many people rely on us, so many people want us.

Yet, we cannot truly be there for anyone else if we have not given ourselves the opportunity to be there for ourselves first.

It’s not about taking time off from work or from your business, it’s about taking the time to just be with yourself without any distractions or activity.

Learning to enjoy our own company is important, and the gifts we receive from it are enormous.

So let’s all look for  more ways for us to be peaceful and present with ourselves, and see what magic arises.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Contribution is not really about other people.

It is not about our community, our friends, or our world.

Contribution is about finding meaning in something more than ourselves.

Contribution is about how we feel when we contribute back to society.

Contribution can be a small effort, giving a charity or organization that is doing good work a few bucks.

Or contribution can be truly giving of ourselves, like donating our time to a shelter or soup kitchen.

There are many ways to contribute, not just time or money.

We can contribute our influence, or our resources.

We can contribute our ideas, or our expertise.

Yet the act of giving is more about how it makes us feel, than about being altruistic.

Of course, the two are not incompatible, nor are they exclusive.

There is nothing wrong with doing the right thing because it makes us feel good.

Indeed, isn’t it the sign of an enlightened soul the fact that they take great pleasure in helping others?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Community Is About The People Who Accept Us For Who We Are

Community is not about what we are born into.

Community is not about our neighborhood, our town, or our country.

Community is about the people we choose to be with.

Sometimes our community is in our neighborhood, sometimes it is spread across the globe.

People align with others for many reasons. Sometimes it is about a set of common values.

Sometimes it is about a common belief system.

And sometimes it is because of a group of shared experiences that form strong emotional ties.

We often shy away from community because when a small group of people know us so well it is hard to hide.

Yet we keep coming back to community because it is where we find the most support.

It is also where we find the greatest comfort.

When we are with the people who accept us for who we are without judgement, we find a sense of peace and calm that is very hard to find.

We are all part of one community or another. If you are not feeling the support from the community you are with, it’s time to find another one.

There are thousands upon thousands of communities out there. If you don’t find the one that’s right for you, create your own.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Strategy is only 10% of the equation of success yet we spend the most amount of time focused on strategy.

The other 90%, the 90% that is the foundation everything we do, is made up of the energy around our endeavors.

The energy around what we do primarily comes from two things.

First, it comes from the experiences we have had in our lives and the meaning we have made from those experiences.

Second, it comes from our choices and responses to all of our experiences.

We experience life from our own particular point of view. From that point of view, we have decided if we live in a compassionate, loving universe, or a cold, dispassionate, mechanical universe.

From the point of view we have adopted, we then respond to life in an optimistic, hopeful, abundant manner, or we respond in a pessimistic, doubtful, lackful manner.

Our results show us our foundation. Our feelings belie our beliefs.

If we come from a place of joy, we will have a joyful journey and joyful results regardless of our strategy.

If we come from a place of lack, we will have a journey of struggle and hard work, and our results never quiet seem to measure up, regardless of our strategy.

Perhaps it is time to spend more emphasis on our energy than on our strategy?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

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Shame is something we don’t often speak about in polite company.

It’s a topic to avoid because it is at the heart and core of many of our challenges.

Yet speaking about shame and bringing it to light is exactly what we need to do to heal the wounds.

We get shamed as children for the littlest things.

For writing on the wall. For Coloring outside the lines. For playing with fire. For not being as good at school or sports as our siblings or the other kids.

All those little incidents add up over time to an unconscious feeling of unworthiness and being broken.

We then spend the rest of our lives running to seminars and gurus looking for the magic that will fix us and make us whole.

What we don’t see is that no one else can fix us. It’s purely an inside job.

It’s also not something that we can do overnight. These unconscious patterns were built up and reinforced over years and will take time to rewire.

The step in the rewiring process is to recognize that the shame is there. To recognize that it is running our lives in many different ways. To shine some light on those dark corners of our psyche.

Doing that in community, with a trusted group of people that we know will support us through the process, is essential.

Exploring this core issue in community also not only helps us, it also helps the rest of the community because shame is so universal in our society.

Are you ready to shine the light on your shame?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

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Being truthful is not about telling the truth to others.

Being truthful is not about not telling lies.

Being truthful is about being honest with yourself.

Before we can begin to be authentic in public, we first have to be in alignment within ourselves.

How can we speak truth to our tribe if we do not even know it ourselves?

Too often we find people who will say one thing in private, and another in public.

Regardless of the validity of the statements, if we are not sharing the same message, whether in private or public, we are not being truthful.

Does this mean we have to tell everyone everything? No, of course not. What it means is that we are clear in our intent and with our presence. It means we are being the same person with our families, our friends, our business associates, or our tribe.

Our essence is what matters. Our presence conveys our essence. Our words reflect our essence.

The more true to ourselves about ourselves we are, the more true we can be to other people.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

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When we face challenges in our lives, most people have a tendency to push through a problem.

We effort and grit our teeth as we work incredibly hard to get where we want to go.

Yet how often do we stop and think about whether there is a better way?

In today’s world, it’s all about strength of will and sheer determination. It’s about crushing it, pounding on the desk, and sheer force.

We rarely stop to think about the consequences of such an attitude, especially the cost on our health. It also reveals an underlying belief that life doesn’t really support us.

What if, instead of having to “kill ourselves” to get something accomplished, we were able to allow something to blossom?

What if life really does support us when we are in alignment, and we learned to accept how things worked out?

Imagine if you can, what your life would be like if instead of every place where you found you had to exert extreme force, you merely took a step back and tried a different way? How much more could we achieve if we listened to life and paid attention to where there wasn’t resistence?

It all comes down to our beliefs. Do we believe life is constantly guiding us or that we have to go it alone?

Do we believe life wants us to succeed and spread more good things in the world, or is it totally indifferent?

When we choose to believe that life is supporting us, constantly and always, the life we lead becomes one of less struggle, not more. Accomplishment becomes something we receive, instead of something we must work hard at.

Which world would you rather live in?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

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Integrity is not just about showing up.

Integrity is much more encompassing. It includes our words, our deeds, our actions, and our intentions.

First, we can build trust by showing up consistently.

Then, we can build trust by living up to our words. That’s when people look at our deeds and actions to see if they are in alignment with the things we say.

Sure, it is easy to find people who say one thing and do something else. Many of them get away with it for quite a long time.

Eventually though, the inconsistent nature of their actions is revealed and people stop believing them.

They may never say a word or give any feedback. The lack of integrity turns them away and they feel no compunction to let the person know.

Yet a beautiful thing happens when our words and actions are aligned on a consistent basis.

People start to trust us on a very deep level. That level of trust gives us real influence, and that influence must be treated as the most precious gift.

For it is. It is more precious than gold for that influence allows us to share our work and ourselves to an enthusiastic community.

That community is what will support us for the rest of our days.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant