We Create Our Lives Through Our Focus, Energy, and Decisions

Taking responsibility for our lives is not easy.

It means accepting that we create all the good stuff and all the bad stuff in our lives.

It means there is no one else to blame for our situation.

Yet it also means we are empowered to create something different.

Often, we fall into the trap of making excuses and blaming others for where we are in life.

We are where we are because of our parents, our teachers, our coaches, our bosses, or our lovers.

We are sad or angry or upset because of what someone else has done.

We cannot do what we truly want because of our responsibilities to others.

Yet, who agreed to be in those situations to begin with?

How we came to our choices and decisions may go far back.

Perhaps a decision we made in school had far reaching effects on our lives.

At the time, we had no clue how that one little choice would send us in a totally different trajectory.

And step by step, we move towards one thing or away from another.

The energy we put into each situation has consequences and moves us further towards or away from what we want.

As days and weeks and months pass, we may even forget that original choice.

Years go by and instead of being in one place we are in a completely different place.

So who is say that it’s better or worse than someplace else?

Ultimately it is a place of our own making.

It is a place formulated by our own choices.

It is a situation that  arises from the energy we put out.

Yes, that means we are responsible for where we are.

Yes, that mean we have to take credit for all the bad as well as all the good around us.

Yes, that means we have created our lives to be exactly how they are at this moment.

The good news is that we can always learn to make different choices.

As long as we are still breathing, we have an opportunity to do something different.

The real question is, what are we going to do with this power?

What are we going to create next in our lives?

Who are we going to show up as and be next?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

If We Are Not Selfish We Cannot Take Care Of The Larger Whole

Why do we find it so difficult to ask for what we want?

Why do we fear the reactions we will receive when we do?

Is that label of being called Selfish so derogatory that we cannot even go near it?

Society often uses the term “Selfish” when an individual voices their need or desire.

Being Selfish is about being concerned for the Self.

Self-care is not only important, it is essential for our health and growth.

We cannot contribute to society without taking care of our selves first.

Being called “Selfish” is a form of control society uses to get individuals to do what Society wants.

It is all about placing Society’s needs above the individual’s needs.

The fallacy of that point of view is that if the individuals are not taken care of, they cannot take care of society.

So why should we fear being called Selfish?

Actually, it is a compliment.

It means we are strong enough and wise enough to consider our own needs first before we can consider others.

When we come from a place of strength, we are able to contribute more.

When we come from a place of strength, we are able to give from a deeper place.

When we come from a place of strength, we are able to truly give what someone needs most.

We can all learn something from being a little more Selfish.

It means opening our hearts to ourselves first, then we can open to others.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

We Are All So Much More Than The Sum Of Our Parts

We have a Heart. Yet we are more than our Heart.

We have a Mind. Yet we are more than our Mind.

We have a Body. Yet we are more than our Body.

We have a Spirit. Yet we are more than our Spirit.

When challenges show up, we normally respond using one of these primary aspects.

We can go to mind and think it through.

We can go to our heart and seek connection and community.

We can go to our body and take the physical actions necessary.

Or we can go to our spirit and meditate and pray on it until a sudden inspiration comes.

We are not limited to how we respond.

And it does not have to be one way over another.

In fact, it does not have to be one way to the exclusion of the others.

We are much more than the sum of our parts.

Indeed, when we call upon all of ourselves, our heart, our mind, our body and our spirit, we can show up more fully to the challenge.

When we are bringing the fullness of our being to any part of our life, our life gets better.

Our relationships get better.

Our business gets better.

Our health gets better.

Our growth blossoms.

So why limit ourselves to be less than we are?

We are Heart, Mind, Body, and Spirit, and so much more.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Self-Care Is Essential For Our Own Well-Being And The Well-Being Of Others

We often feel pressure to be of service to others.

Sometimes that works out well.

Other times it wears us down.

If we don’t learn to balance out self-care with service, we can end up with some serious challenges.

It is easy to think of other’s needs and put our own needs to the side.

We feel that if we just show up for others and help them with their challenges we don’t have to worry about ourselves.

Yet that isn’t how things usually work out.

We put ourselves second, or last, and then we have a breakdown while trying to help others.

The breakdown can come in many forms.

It can be physical, it can be emotional, or it can be in our relationships.

What we often don’t understand is that the breakdown occurs exactly because we put our own needs behind that of someone else.

Whether it is a friend, a relative, a partner, or a business, it doesn’t matter.

By not meeting our own needs, by not recognizing that we have to take care of ourselves first, we head down a track that ultimately leads to some kind of breakdown.

The fact that the breakdown occurs is not a bad thing. It is a signal.

It is a signal that we haven’t been operating from a compassionate place and that something needs to change.

Yes, we need to be compassionate to others.

Yet how can we be compassionate to other if we have not yet been compassionate for ourselves?

The breakdown is to show us we need to practice self-care.

Self-care means we have to take care of our own needs in order to have what we need to take care of others.

Practicing self-care is essential for our own well-being as well as the well-being of others.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

We All Contribute Our Talents And Skills In Our Own Unique Way

We often do not recognize our true gifts.

The things we are good at just come naturally to us.

We don’t think they are a big deal.

Yet when we ask someone else what they think our gifts are, we are quite often surprised by their answer.

We are surprised not because we didn’t know it.

We are surprised because we didn’t value it the way they did.

To us, that talent or gift is just part of who we are.

We’ve always had it.

We use it effortlessly.

It is just not something special to us.

Yet to someone on the outside, it is an amazing talent.

To our friends and our clients, it seems like we have some incredible skill that they feel they could never develop.

And to us, what they can do is beyond us.

We always value what someone else can do much higher than we value our own skills.

Precisely because they can do it and we can’t.

And if we bring in a third person, they will be shocked at what both of us can do.

So if not so much about what we can or can not do.

It is about valuing our own innate talents and skills on par with other people’s innate talents and skills.

We all contribute in our own unique way.

We all can something that makes the world a better place to be.

Let’s learn to value all our contributions for what they are, and stop placing others, or ourselves, above anyone else.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Every Day Is A New Day To Gift The World A New You

Every day is a new day.

Every time we wake up we have an opportunity to create something new.

Every time we open our eyes we have a chance to see the world from a new perspective.

Life is not stagnant.

We do not stay the same.

Every moment we breathe we can make new choices and move in new directions.

We can build something that has never been built before.

We can touch someone’s life with kindness and care.

We can show up with more presence and courage.

We are not limited to our past experience.

We are not limited to our past actions.

We are not limited to our past thoughts.

It does not matter what happened yesterday.

Today is a new day and with it comes new possibilities and new options.

We can create a new world if we choose to.

We can create a new life for ourselves if we choose to.

We can create new experiences for ourselves and others.

It is our choice. It is our life to decide what to do with.

Let today be the new day you have been waiting for to launch your new venture.

Launch your new ideas.

Launch the new version of you as a gift to the world.

The world is waiting for you. What will you do with this day?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

It Is Gratitude That Makes The Holiday Season A Joyful Time

The Holiday Season is not about giving gifts.

It’s not about getting together with family.

It’s not about reviewing the past year.

In fact, the holidays are not about any of the things we usually associate with them.

The holidays are about remembering to be grateful.

To be grateful for Life.

To be grateful for our community.

To be grateful for our experiences.

To be grateful for it all, the struggles and the joys.

For when we learn to be grateful for all of life, life becomes much easier to live.

Gratitude lights our hearts and spirits.

Gratitude is the grease that oils the wheels of our relationships.

Gratitude is the energy that gives us the strength to be generous.

So it is gratitude that makes the family gatherings more pleasant.

It is gratitude that makes the gift giving more fun.

It is gratitude that makes reviewing our past year a joyful endeavor.

It is gratitude that makes looking forward to next year so palatable.

We are grateful for all of you who make this time of year special for us.

With all our hearts, we say “Thank You!”

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

To Create A Kinder World We Only Have To Be Kinder Ourselves

We all crave to live in a more friendly and compassionate world.

We want to feel safe to live and be who we are.

We long for the feeling of community and camaraderie.

So it is important to look at what we are doing to create that kind of world.

Are we being friendlier to others?

Are we expressing our compassion for others, even complete strangers?

Do we engage in rituals and activities that engender the feeling of community?

It is time to stop waiting for others to change, and to make the change ourselves.

If we desire to see a world that is more gentle and kind, then it is time for us to be more gentle and kind.

Be the change you want to see in the world” is not just a pretty slogan, it is the way to live.

The power is in our hands, we can and do make a difference every day.

We make a difference by being nice when someone else is in a rush and not being mindful.

We make a difference by being soft when others are being hard.

We make a difference by showing our kindness to those in need.

We make a difference with our presence, our words, and our actions.

Even one small step goes a long way to creating a friendlier world.

What can you contribute to a kinder, gentler planet?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

In a world where we are constantly surrounded by people, finding time to be with oneself can be difficult.

So many demands are put on us by other people, and with our constantly on devices, we are always reachable.

Yet taking time away from it all to be with ourselves is exactly what we need.

To find balance, to find peace, to find direction in our lives, we need the time to process all the stimulus we get on a daily basis.

To know ourselves on a deep level, we need time in quiet and solitude to actually feel what is going on inside of us.

How can we really connect with ourselves if our attention is constantly pulled to the outside world?

How can we find our inspiration if we are continuously exposed to the bombardment of information?

How do we learn what we truly have to give to the world if we cannot experience the stillness to feel our heart’s beat?

We think we have to always be there for other people. So many people rely on us, so many people want us.

Yet, we cannot truly be there for anyone else if we have not given ourselves the opportunity to be there for ourselves first.

It’s not about taking time off from work or from your business, it’s about taking the time to just be with yourself without any distractions or activity.

Learning to enjoy our own company is important, and the gifts we receive from it are enormous.

So let’s all look for  more ways for us to be peaceful and present with ourselves, and see what magic arises.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Contribution is not really about other people.

It is not about our community, our friends, or our world.

Contribution is about finding meaning in something more than ourselves.

Contribution is about how we feel when we contribute back to society.

Contribution can be a small effort, giving a charity or organization that is doing good work a few bucks.

Or contribution can be truly giving of ourselves, like donating our time to a shelter or soup kitchen.

There are many ways to contribute, not just time or money.

We can contribute our influence, or our resources.

We can contribute our ideas, or our expertise.

Yet the act of giving is more about how it makes us feel, than about being altruistic.

Of course, the two are not incompatible, nor are they exclusive.

There is nothing wrong with doing the right thing because it makes us feel good.

Indeed, isn’t it the sign of an enlightened soul the fact that they take great pleasure in helping others?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant