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20170622

There is no such thing as a good time to make a change.

That’s because all the time is a good time to make a change!

We usually wait, find excuses to put it off, look for a sign or the stars to align, until we finally make our move.

The thing is, the best time to jump is NOW!

Now is always the right time to move forward. Now is always the right time to put into action what you’ve been waiting on.

Now is the always the right time to follow your dreams.

Waiting on your dreams does not do anyone any good. Waiting for a better day, never comes. Waiting for everything to line up, just never happens.

Do it now! Take action, ship that product, publish that post, create your book, your class, your song, your piece of art!

The world needs your dreams. The world needs your voice. The world needs your art. Whatever your art is, create it now. Now is all we have…

20170620

Empowerment is not about controlling our environment.

Empowerment is not about controlling other people.

Empowerment is not about controlling the events around us.

Empowerment is about control over our own choices, our own responses, and our own focus.

It can be easy for us to focus on what’s wrong with the world, how other people are crazy, and how when people think differently from us, they are wrong.

And yet it is a choice to focus on what’s right with the world, on what’s good about other people, and to be curious when someone has a different opinion from us.

It is not up to us to “fix” the world. It is up to us to “fix” how we feel about the world, and make peace with it. For it is by making peace with the world inside of us that we make peace in the world around us.

We can choose to see the events around us as reasons to despair or reasons to get motivated. As a reason to run away, or a reason to step up that much more.

Where is your focus? Are you falling into the trap of fear or choosing to step up and allow your light to shine that much brighter?

20170615

It has been said that resistance is what causes us the most trouble.

In particular, resistance to what is.

We usually get into trouble when we deny the way things actually are. When we get upset at how things are. Or when we desire things to be different than they are.

Yes, we all want to see situations improve, and sometimes desiring change is what motivates us to do something about the way things are, yet it is our belief that we know better than the universe how things should be that causes our own suffering.

We don’t like the way people are, so we complain about them and make ourselves feel worse.

We don’t like how the government is run, so we criticize it and continue to feel dis-empowered.

We don’t like what is happening in the world at large, so we tell everyone how awful the state of affairs is, and continue to spread fear and anger.

In the end, this all just comes back to haunt us and cause ourselves to be less happy, less loving, less joyful.

Yet, when we accept people for the way they are, when we understand that even if things don’t seem like it, they actually are working out for the best in the long run, our lives become easier and less stressful.

Let us all learn to trust a little more, to have a little more faith in the future, and to know that the universe is unfolding exactly as it is supposed to, even when it doesn’t feel like it or seem like it at the time…

20170613

Releasing our fear and pain is not something that is necessarily easy.

It may go against our intuition, after all, we usually can’t wait to get out of pain, yet when it has been our companion for so long, we get used to it.

Fear and pain protects us. They protect us from having to feel, from having to show up, from having to change.

We know they don’t serve us. We know they hold us back. We know they suck our energy and keep us from being more creative, more open, more vulnerable.

We know all of this and yet we still hold onto our hurt and our sorrow like a warm blanket, covering our heart from any potential threat.

Yes, it is safer there. Yes, it is more comforting there. And yes, it is still holding us back.

How are you allowing your pain to hold you back? What could you do if you let it go, released even a little bit of it? Where would you put that freed up energy in your life?

Who would you be if that fear and pain that is so a part of you were no longer there?

20170608

Just because we know our failings, our weaknesses, does not always mean we avoid them.

We may know that we are not good with money, relationships, or commitments, yet that knowledge does not always help us from avoiding the missteps we make in those arenas.

Yes, as we bring more awareness and consciousness into those areas, we can begin to change our behaviors and create new patterns. And still it should not surprise us that we still over-pay sometimes, or that we are attracted to the wrong kind of person for us.

Awareness of the issue is key. Awareness brings understanding and engages the mind to work differently. Yet when we engage the heart and body, then we rewire and recreate new patterns in our lives.

Building new muscle takes time and repetition. It takes resistance and training. This is true whether it is for physical muscle or emotional/energetic muscle.

The process can be short or long, so having compassion and patience will aid us tremendously. Getting things right the first time is not as important as getting it in our system, fully, deeply, and making it our new reality.

20170606

Knowing ourselves is much more difficult than we think.

Mostly because we believe our own stories about ourselves, how we are better then we really are, how we are more pure than we really are, how we are more comfortable with ourselves than we really are.

And that’s how other people get to us.

Those that are good at manipulation, at reading people, at using our own faults against us, are able to do so only because we believe our own lies.

When we come clean with ourselves, when we are truly honest about who we are and how we operate, only then we can see past other’s lies.

There is great power in knowing ourselves. Indeed, it is the key to great freedom. It is also the key to seeing people as they truly are, not how we would like them to be.

Once we do that, we can then be truly more compassionate to both ourselves and others…

20170601

We look to live lives of meaning, we seek the profound in everyday life.

We desire for there to be something greater that we are a part of, something more than just life. It is as if we look for some deeper, hidden truth to justify our existence.

Why is it that we seek to create a greater meaning from just living our lives?

Why is just living life for the mere sake of it enough?

This is not to assume that there is not some higher truth or greater path we follow, it is only to question why can’t we just enjoy life as it is, and wait to see the deeper meaning revealed with time?

Is it so wrong to just enjoy life for its own sake? To revel in the beauty of nature for the sheer joy of it? To live fully in the moment because that’s what brings us happiness?

When we take our focus away from the future and the past and seek to keep in the never-ending present moment, we can find real joy without looking for meaning.

The journey for truth and meaning in our lives can be a joyful one. So can the journey of not looking. And we can change our mind which journey we are on at any given moment.

20170530

Relationships are such tricky things.

We come to them with all sorts of expectations, ideas, and history, yet we seem to keep repeating the same patterns.

We search for someone who is completely different form that last disastrous person we had a relationship with, only to find out after a few weeks (or sooner) that our new partner is just the same or worse!

So what’s going on with that?

Whenever we look for answers outside of ourselves, we will always end up disappointed. Especially with relationships, as it’s never really about the other person, it’s about us.

People are wonderful mirrors for what is going on inside of us, we just don’t often realize it.

When we stop making it about the other person and start looking inside ourselves, we find the clues and patterns that underlie the repeating patterns.

It’s not easy, and it is definitely not for those who have a hard time being honest with themselves.

For the person who gets it, who looks inside instead of blaming the other person, a whole new world of empowered relationships await!

20170525

Appreciation is one of the most powerful tools we have to make a change.

All too often we find ourselves wishing things weren’t as they are. We want the world to be different, the economy to be different, our partner to be different.

We blame our unhappiness on the situations around us, and make it someone or something else’s fault we’re stuck or in a bad way.

Actually, it is our resistance to the way things are that is causing us the most trouble. It is our insistent desire that things should just be different and the non-acceptance of how things are that cause us grief and pain.

What do we do to change it? Having appreciation for the world around us, for everything, for the people, for the economy, for life itself, is one of the surest ways to shift our energy, and thereby, shift our whole perspective.

Learning to see how we can be grateful for everything that surrounds us, is a discipline whose dividends pay off for years to come, as well changing our current state.

So let’s be grateful for the cloudy days, the holes in our socks, and the under-cooked meal. After all, what’s more important, the world around us or how we feel about it?

20170523

Moving forward in life is often not about making more money, taking a new job, starting a new business, or going back to school.

Moving forward often has more to do with that internal process of recognizing more and more of our own power.

It is easy to forget that we create our life, in a million different, little ways. We create our lives by the choices we make, by how we respond to life, and by where we decide to place our focus.

We move forward in life when we bring more consciousness to any of these aspects of our lives.

Are we being more conscious in our choices? Are we being more conscious in our responses? Are we being more conscious of where we are allowing our focus to go?

These may not seem like big steps, indeed they may only be baby steps in our lives, yet as one step piles on top of the other, they soon have a gigantic effect on our life.

So let’s move forward together, one baby step at a time, bringing more consciousness and more awareness into our lives…