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Shame is something we don’t often speak about in polite company.

It’s a topic to avoid because it is at the heart and core of many of our challenges.

Yet speaking about shame and bringing it to light is exactly what we need to do to heal the wounds.

We get shamed as children for the littlest things.

For writing on the wall. For Coloring outside the lines. For playing with fire. For not being as good at school or sports as our siblings or the other kids.

All those little incidents add up over time to an unconscious feeling of unworthiness and being broken.

We then spend the rest of our lives running to seminars and gurus looking for the magic that will fix us and make us whole.

What we don’t see is that no one else can fix us. It’s purely an inside job.

It’s also not something that we can do overnight. These unconscious patterns were built up and reinforced over years and will take time to rewire.

The step in the rewiring process is to recognize that the shame is there. To recognize that it is running our lives in many different ways. To shine some light on those dark corners of our psyche.

Doing that in community, with a trusted group of people that we know will support us through the process, is essential.

Exploring this core issue in community also not only helps us, it also helps the rest of the community because shame is so universal in our society.

Are you ready to shine the light on your shame?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

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Strategy is only 10% of the equation of success yet we spend the most amount of time focused on strategy.

The other 90%, the 90% that is the foundation everything we do, is made up of the energy around our endeavours.

The energy around what we do primarily comes from two things.

First, it comes from the experiences we have had in our lives and the meaning we have made from those experiences.

Second, it comes from our choices and responses to all of our experiences.

We experience life from our own particular point of view. From that point of view, we have decided if we live in a compassionate, loving universe, or a cold, dispassionate, mechanical universe.

From the point of view we have adopted, we then response to life in an optimistic, hopeful, abundant manner, or we respond in a pessimistic, doubtful, lackful manner.

Our results show us our foundation. Our feelings belie our beliefs.

If we come from a place of joy, we will have a joyful journey and joyful results regardless of our strategy.

If we come from a place of lack, we will have a journey of struggle and hard work, and our results never quiet seem to measure up, regardless of our strategy.

Perhaps it is time to spend more emphasis on our energy than on our strategy?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

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Being truthful is not about telling the truth to others.

Being truthful is not about not telling lies.

Being truthful is about being honest with yourself.

Before we can begin to be authentic in public, we first have to be in alignment within ourselves.

How can we speak truth to our tribe if we do not even know it ourselves?

Too often we find people who will say one thing in private, and another in public.

Regardless of the validity of the statements, if we are not sharing the same message, whether in private or public, we are not being truthful.

Does this mean we have to tell everyone everything? No, of course not. What it means is that we are clear in our intent and with our presence. It means we are being the same person with our families, our friends, our business associates, or our tribe.

Our essence is what matters. Our presence conveys our essence. Our words reflect our essence.

The more true to ourselves about ourselves we are, the more true we can be to other people.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

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Dedicating ourselves to a spiritual path is one of the most selfish things we can do.

It is selfish because we are doing it for ourselves. It is selfish because it is a solitary path.

It is selfish, yet it is something that is in our best interest to support.

It is selfish because we are driven to a spiritual path out of our own suffering. We walk the path because we want to feel relief from the pain.

No matter where we are along the path, we move forward out of our own desire.

Even though this is the most self-centered of directions to take, in the end, we all benefit from it.

The monk we support contributes nothing to the GDP. The donations we give to the spiritual organizations we support are not creating new jobs.

Yet all of the people we support in becoming more self-aware, more enlightened, and more transcendent, are all serving our highest good in some way.

For every soul that comes closer to truth shows us a path we can take should we choose to.

For every spirit that sings a little louder so more can hear it’s song, raises the hearts and minds of those it touches.

For every person that dedicates themselves to becoming better, to evolving, to raising their consciousness, raises the consciousness of the entire planet in some way.

So selfish as it might be, it is also the most altruistic path we can take.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

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The patterns of our lives are the strongest forces we experience.

When we are young, we are open and our minds are supple.

Then we experience life. We start to make meaning from what we experience. Then the patterns begin to emerge.

What we don’t realize at the time is those patterns are self-reinforcing.

Because we see something one way, we look for that in other things.

Slowly, over time, we see that pattern so much it becomes ingrained in us.

Like a stick drawing a line in the dirt over and over again, soon that line become so deep we can’t change it.

Or the tiny drops of water that continually drip on the stone, wearing it away over centuries.

These patterns become our lives. These experiences create the grooves in our mind that are so instilled we don’t even notice them any more.

We become so set in our thinking and our being that only a true shock to the system can create a change in our lives.

That is, unless we purposely look for experiences and situations that are so outside our usual patterns that we learn to create new ones.

Those new patterns, in turn, become our new default and our new way of being.

Want to know what your defaults are? Just listen to what your mind says to yourself when no one else is around.

Listen to how you talk to yourself. Listen to the things you say to yourself about yourself.

Don’t like what your hearing? Then it is time to create a new pattern…

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

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Why is it that we try so hard to avoid our feelings?

We dampen them with substance. We drown them in drink. We stuff them down with food.

We ignore them by spending all our time on our gadgets and no time just being present.

Is it so frightful to feel that we have to come up with new ways not to feel every day?

The sad part is that there is so much beauty, so much richness in our feelings.

Our feelings tell us so much about ourselves, and how the other person is.

Our feelings let us know when we should be silent, and when we should be engaged.

Our feelings let us know when there is something to deal with, and when we are in the flow.

Our feelings are the key to so much of our lives, yet we do not value them as the treasure they are.

What can we do to pay more attention to our feelings?

Show up, be present, listen to our bodies, and feel what is going on around us and within us.

Our world becomes so much deeper when we do…

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

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There is one thing that so powerful it change change all of our lives.

There is one secret weapon that when utilized properly can make a failure a success, or turn a defeat in to a win.

It is something that with just one little adjust, one little change, everything in our world changes.

That one dynamic, potent, universal thing is the story we tell ourselves.

It is the story we tell ourselves about our life, about our relationships, and about our experiences.

It is the story we tell ourselves about our past, our present, and our future.

It is the story we replay inside our heads about who we are, what we are, and how we are.

It is the story that justifies, defends, and protects.

The real secret is… it’s all just a story! And because it’s just a story, and the fact that we are the authors of the story, we are always capable to tell a new story.

Don’t like the circumstances you are in? Tell a new story!

Don’t like the relationships you are in? Tell a new story!

Don’t like the family you are in? Tell a new story!

It does not matter if your new story is true or not, you an make it true. It does not matter if your new story is realistic or not, you will make it a reality. It does not matter if your new story has happened yet or not, just keep telling it and it will happen.

Are we telling ourselves stories of how we are worthy or unworthy?

Are we telling  ourselves stories of how we are good or not good enough?

Are we telling  ourselves stories of how we are lovable or not lovable?

Let’s shift and change the stories that are rolling around inside our heads, and let’s see what shifts and chances in our lives.

Taking control of our stories is remembering that we are the authors of all of our stories!

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

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Intention is not just a whimsical thought.

Intention is not a daydream or a wish.

Intention is the energy we put into an act, a word, or a feeling.

Intention is what makes the difference between creating an outcome of joy, and one of misalignment.

Intention is how we create a world and a life by design, instead of by default.

Intention is what makes our efforts so powerful and effective.

Taking the time to sit with our intentions and be clear with them is one of the best investments we can make.

Meditating on a course of action is not wasted time, it is the essential space that we need to be clear.

And clarity of intention is one of the most powerful forces of nature.

Have you taken the time to set your intentions today?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

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Being skeptical is not necessarily a bad thing.

Yet the critical do not see magic.

We often feel that if we’re gullible, we will be taken advantage of. Yet how can we see the wonders of the universe if all we do is look for what is wrong?

There needs to be an opening for us to see a different reality. There needs to be a space where we suspend our disbelief and allow new possibilities to come in.

Just because something is true, does not mean it has to dictate our future.

The world may show us what is real for now, and tomorrow a new reality may appear at our doorstep.

In order to be able to embrace that new reality, we must be a little gullible.

Being a little open to the impossible goes a long way in creating it.

If we focus too much on what is, we do not leave room for what can be.

The possibility of what can be is far more exciting, far more magical, than what is right now.

Yes, it means taking a chance. Yes, it means you might be wrong or get disappointed.

Is that not better than never seeing the magic?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

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When we face challenges in our lives, most people have a tendency to push through a problem.

We effort and grit our teeth as we work incredibly hard to get where we want to go.

Yet how often do we stop and think about whether there is a better way?

In today’s world, it’s all about strength of will and sheer determination. It’s about crushing it, pounding on the desk, and sheer force.

We rarely stop to think about the consequences of such an attitude, especially the cost on our health. It also reveals an underlying belief that life doesn’t really support us.

What if, instead of having to “kill ourselves” to get something accomplished, we were able to allow something to blossom?

What if life really does support us when we are in alignment, and we learned to accept how things worked out?

Imagine if you can, what your life would be like if instead of every place where you found you had to exert extreme force, you merely took a step back and tried a different way? How much more could we achieve if we listened to life and paid attention to where there wasn’t resistence?

It all comes down to our beliefs. Do we believe life is constantly guiding us or that we have to go it alone?

Do we believe life wants us to succeed and spread more good things in the world, or is it totally indifferent?

When we choose to believe that life is supporting us, constantly and always, the life we lead becomes one of less struggle, not more. Accomplishment becomes something we receive, instead of something we must work hard at.

Which world would you rather live in?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant