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Great Work Can Emerge From Our Joy and Our Surrender

When we think of work it often calls up feelings of effort and stress.

We have been programmed to think that work must be hard.

It must be difficult.

There is no joy in it.

Yet, our best work comes when we bring joy to it.

Our best work happens when we are inspired and motivated.

Our effort seems effortless when we are completely engaged by it.

Creating deep work does not have to be painful.

It does not have to be scary.

It does not have to be taxing on our body or soul.

Yet it does take courage to go deep.

It does take effort to create value.

It does take vulnerability to be truthful and honest with ourselves and others.

When we open our hearts to what is in front of us, magic can happen.

When we allow life to guide us, we can find amazing experiences.

When we surrender to the moment, we can achieve greatness.

If we can leave our assumptions behind.

If we can be innocent and playful.

If we can show up and be present.

Our work and our life does not have to be hard to be worthy of remembering.

We can create beauty and art with a smile.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Bringing Joy To Our Challenges Is How We Glide Through Them

Challenges are not something we need to avoid.

While challenges are not comfortable, they do serve a purpose.

They push us beyond what we thought our limits are.

They help us to get out of our comfort zone and bring real growth.

Just like an animal that must shed it’s skin to grow, the process is uncomfortable.

Just like a seed that must exert immense pressure to break through it’s case, it’s not easy.

Yet in order for our muscles to grow, they need resistance to push against.

In order for us to build our emotional, physical and spiritual muscles, we must push against resistance.

Once we have developed our muscles, then we can dance with it.

After we have gone through our transformation, then we can use our new wings and fly.

When we are in the middle of our challenges, they don’t feel very nice.

Yes, when we are experiencing the very things we want to avoid, we don’t feel good.

And if we can face the challenge without judgment and criticism, we may find it a little easier to get through.

When we judge our experiences and make them wrong or bad we are only making it more difficult for ourselves.

When we release our expectations and let go of our opinions about the challenges we face, then we can allow them to unfold more naturally and more quickly.

In the end, is that not what we truly want? To get through our challenges as quickly as possible?

Then it is up to us to stop resisting them.

The choice and the power is with us.

We can choose to fight against them and try to push them away.

Or we can embrace them.

We can revel in them.

We can bring our joy to them.

And then see what happens…

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

With Awareness, Allowing, And Acceptance, Comes Peace

First, we become aware of what is going on inside of us.

Then, we learn to allow it to be whatever it is.

It may be uncomfortable or uneasy at times.

Eventually we learn to accept it for what it is – how we are feeling.

That acceptance is key to ultimately finding peace.

Without awareness, there is no peace.

Without allowing, there is no peace.

Without acceptance, there is no peace.

Where there is all three, we find tranquility.

It is not about changing the world or fixing our relationships.

It is not about changing someone else or fixing ourselves.

It’s about being okay with how we are feeling in any given moment.

That doesn’t mean we have to act upon all of our feelings.

It doesn’t mean we have to express all of our emotions.

Yet when we allow the energies that reside within us to just be, we can observe without action.

We can allow them to flow.

We can allow them to go.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

The Beginning Of Wisdom Comes When We Realize We Don’t Know Anything

Most of us think we’re pretty smart.

We’ve got a lot of things figured out.

We’ve got a plan for our careers, our relationships, and our lives.

Then Life happens and suddenly all those plans go out the window.

Maybe it was a health challenge we didn’t expect.

Maybe it was something that happened to someone close to us.

Maybe our industry suddenly collapse and we don’t know what to do next.

Slowly, but surely, over time we begin to realize that we really don’t know anything.

Our predictions of the future were all wrong.

Our assumptions about relationships and family turned out to be complicated than we expected.

Our vision for our lives suddenly seems to be a fantasy.

Then we drop it all.

We drop our expectations.

We drop our projections.

We drop our certainty.

And that’s when true wisdom begins.

When we come to the realization that we know absolutely nothing, we can begin to accept what is.

When we stop our belief that we are the center and the master of the universe, then the universe can bring us magic.

When we finally give up our egoic stance that we are so great and so smart, then we can start to find peace inside.

It doesn’t happen overnight.

It doesn’t happen all at once.

Yet when it does happen, it feels like magic.

It feels like a relief.

We soften and then know that it is okay that we don’t know anything.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

How We Feel About Life Is About The Projections We Send Out

We see things in life all the time that we are sure are real.

How someone says something to us, and the meaning behind it, are clear to us.

Our memories are filled with moments that we are certain happened a specific way.

All these life experiences actually happened, yet they are filled with our own projects.

What our friend did is because they don’t like us.

What our partner said is because they’re mad at us.

The Why our parent acted is because they are not proud of us.

We constantly think we know what is going on inside someone else’s mind.

Yet what we are doing is projecting our own feelings and our own interpretations onto our experience.

Perhaps our friend was just in a rush and forgot to be polite.

Perhaps our partner got some bad news we don’t know about and they are mad about it.

Perhaps our parents just learned that a friend of theirs died and they’re upset over it.

How we interpret the world around us has less to do with the actual events and more about how we feel about ourselves.

Do we feel deep inside that we’re not good enough? Do the things we experience make us feel less than?

Do we feel that there’s something wrong with us? Do our relationships trigger those feelings?

Do we feel that we don’t deserve good things? Do we often feel the other person is taking advantage of us?

It’s not so cut and dry.

Our perspective and our self-image have a lot to do with it.

Perhaps when we get triggered we can use it as an opportunity to look inside instead of outside.

Perhaps when we feel someone is against us we can check in and see if we are battling with ourselves.

Perhaps instead of assuming it’s always about the other person, we can take a step back and look for how we might be projecting something onto them.

Maybe we will find it is…

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Feeling Safe Is Essential For Us To Heal, Grow, And Be Authentic

Feeling safe is more important than we think.

Feeling safe is about more than our environment.

Feeling safe involved more than just the people we’re surrounded by.

Feeling safe is essential for us to heal, grow, and be authentic.

As human beings we get traumatized by many things.

Our nervous systems respond to all sorts of stimuli.

Someone yelling at us on the phone can be traumatic and make us feel unsafe.

A person’s energy when they walk into the elevator with us can make us feel unsafe.

A dark and deserted place can make use feel unsafe as well.

What triggers one person may not be what triggers someone else.

As individuals, we all come to life with different associations and different experiences.

Do we really know when we make someone else feel unsafe?

Are we aware of what we do for others that does make them feel safe?

Without feeling safe we cannot relax.

Without feeling safe we cannot allow ourselves to show how we really feel inside.

Without feeling safe we cannot begin or engage in any kind of healing.

What we often overlook is that we first have to feel safe with ourselves, before we can feel safe with anyone else.

Sometimes, we don’t even consider what situations we need to be in to feel safe.

Do we feel safe with our families?

Do we feel safe with our friends?

Do we feel safe in our work environment?

What is the solution when we don’t feel safe?

Change where we are. Change who we are with. Change what we are experiencing.

When we find a moment’s peace, then we can begin to analyze what we need to feel safe.

When we are alone, and present to ourselves, then we can feel our bodies and see where there is tension or concern.

Knowing what we need to feel safe is important for us to create safety for others.

If we all keep in mind what it means to feel safe and to how to create safety around us, perhaps we can create a safer world.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

We Create Our Lives Through Our Focus, Energy, and Decisions

Taking responsibility for our lives is not easy.

It means accepting that we create all the good stuff and all the bad stuff in our lives.

It means there is no one else to blame for our situation.

Yet it also means we are empowered to create something different.

Often, we fall into the trap of making excuses and blaming others for where we are in life.

We are where we are because of our parents, our teachers, our coaches, our bosses, or our lovers.

We are sad or angry or upset because of what someone else has done.

We cannot do what we truly want because of our responsibilities to others.

Yet, who agreed to be in those situations to begin with?

How we came to our choices and decisions may go far back.

Perhaps a decision we made in school had far reaching effects on our lives.

At the time, we had no clue how that one little choice would send us in a totally different trajectory.

And step by step, we move towards one thing or away from another.

The energy we put into each situation has consequences and moves us further towards or away from what we want.

As days and weeks and months pass, we may even forget that original choice.

Years go by and instead of being in one place we are in a completely different place.

So who is say that it’s better or worse than someplace else?

Ultimately it is a place of our own making.

It is a place formulated by our own choices.

It is a situation that  arises from the energy we put out.

Yes, that means we are responsible for where we are.

Yes, that mean we have to take credit for all the bad as well as all the good around us.

Yes, that means we have created our lives to be exactly how they are at this moment.

The good news is that we can always learn to make different choices.

As long as we are still breathing, we have an opportunity to do something different.

The real question is, what are we going to do with this power?

What are we going to create next in our lives?

Who are we going to show up as and be next?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Trusting In Life Is About Believing In Ourselves

How deeply do we trust?

How well do we deal with the unknown?

How much change can we experience and still thrive?

Trust is not about blind faith.

Trust is about believing that ultimately the universe is compassionate.

Trust is about believing in ourselves and our abilities.

Trust is about knowing that one way or another, we will end up standing.

Life is rarely predictable.

Indeed, Life has become a constant flow of change in the world.

Some people resist change, and they tend to suffer because of it.

Some people are ambivalent to change, and they survive it.

Some people embrace change, and they thrive in it.

Real trust is about embracing the change.

Not just change in the economy or politics.

It’s about embracing the change in ourselves.

In who we have to become to face the unknown.

In our care for ourselves and those around us.

Our greatest challenge is letting go of our idea of our life, and embracing what Life brings to us as our actual life.

To see the beauty in the chaos.

To see the love in the midst of turmoil.

To see hope in the face of adversity.

We are magnificent being of creation.

When we true believe in our own power, we can trust is anything that Life has to offer us.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

To Go With The Flow Requires Our Trust and Surrender

To Go With The Flow is more difficult than we think.

It takes more than just doing nothing.

It takes more than just following the path in front of you.

It is about surrender.

It is about letting go of our expectations and allowing Life to unfold unfettered.

We all have ideas and expectations of how we want things to go.

We create plans and strategies for how to live our lives.

And then Life happens and we learn to adjust those plans.

Still we work on trying to get where we want to go, even when the signs all point towards something else.

We rush, we work harder, we work longer hours, and we do whatever it takes to get it done.

The one thing we don’t do is surrender to the moment.

To let go of our expectations.

To trust in Life and in what unfolds before us.

We think we know better.

We think we are wiser than the circumstances before us.

What will it take for us to just breath into it?

What will it take for us to drop our ideas and our preconceptions?

What will it take to release our judgments of what should and shouldn’t be?

When will we begin to see the Universe as being perfect, just the way it is?

When will we accept tat we really don’t have the perspective to judge the events before us as good or bad?

When we finally do, then we can Go With The Flow.

Then we can trust and allow.

Then we can be present to whatever is taking place and be at peace.

Is that not what we are all seeking?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Strength Does Not Come From Force It Comes From Being Vulnerable

Being strong is not about strength.

Being strong does not mean we are domineering.

Being strong is not about being forceful.

Being strong is about something far more powerful.

True strength comes from deep inside ourselves.

Strength is an intimate connection to our souls.

Strength is the power that comes from seeing ourselves clearly.

Strength is the knowing that we are the creators of our world through our choices and our intentions.

We are strong when we make conscious decisions in our lives.

We are strong when we refrain from using our strength.

And we are the strongest when we allow ourselves to be the most vulnerable.

True strength is the will to exercise our power as a force for good.

Might only makes right when the might is used to uplift and support.

It is easy to use our muscles to hurt another.

It is easy to use intimidation to control another.

These are signs of weakness, not strength.

It is far harder and more difficult to be a gentle giant than to be a bully.

The world does not need more cowards hiding behind masks of power.

The world needs more people who have the courage and strength to be true, honest, and authentic.

Real strength comes from being a real person.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant