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20170822

Control in our lives is something we often strive for, yet in fact it is not attainable.

We think we can control our circumstances, in reality we cannot.

We think we can control other people, in reality we never can.

We think we can control the environment, in reality the environment is much greater and grander than we can imagine.

When it all comes down to it, the only thing we can control is our responses to what life brings and the choices we make.

And in the end, that is the most important control we can have.

20170817

Cleaning House is about much more than just straightening up our living environment.

How we take care of our home, the place we sleep at night and the location of our possessions, is a reflection of something much deeper.

Of course, we “clean house” with much more than our home. We can clean house with our mailing list, our Facebook friends, our desk at the office, and just about anything that accumulates items over time.

So what does it really mean when we Clean House?

It’s actually about our identity, how we see ourselves, and how we feel about ourselves and our life.

Cleaning up and straightening out our environment is symbolic for cleaning up our life, our self-image, our hopes and dreams.

If our home is a chaotic place, chances are our life is chaotic. If our home is messy, chances are our life is messy. If our home is sparkling clean with everything perfectly in it’s place, chances our are life is just as clean and rigid.

Are you feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or lost? Trying cleaning up your home, one corner at a time, and see how much better you feel by the time you finish.

After all, we all deserve a home, a life, that supports our vision and our dreams.

20170815

Learning the rules is important, for many reasons.

When you learn the rules of the game, any game including life, you understand how to interact with people, what’s acceptable, and what’s not.

If you pay attention, you also learn about how the game is structured, what the game is all about, and whether this is a game you want to play or not.

You then learn when to break the rules, bend the rules, or simply ignore the rules. Of course, there are consequences to all three actions, and sometimes that’s just fine.

Ultimately, it’s all about how we show up and learn about ourselves in relation to the rules. Are you a rule follower? A rule Bender? A rule Breaker? Or are you someone who would just rather play another game entirely.

The choice is always yours, if the rules allow it…

20170810

Blessings often come in the most unusual ways, at the most unusual times.

Sometimes they don’t even look like blessings.

It might look like an accident, that causes us to think more about our health and take better care of our bodies.

It might look like a devastating breakup that causes us to look inward and begin some deep inner work instead of look for happiness in someone else.

It might look like the loss of a job or career that causes us to re-examine our choices, and causes us to start a whole new path, a new business, create a non-profit that becomes a movement, or a whole host of other possibilities.

Of course, at the time, they don’t appear to be blessings at all. They seem to be daunting challenges that could break us.

It takes time to gain the perspective to see how these events will truly unfold in our lives. We so often focus on the immediate, that we don’t have a clue how the long term effect will manifest.

So how do we get through the challenges to see if they are truly blessings? Drop the judgment. Wait 24 hours. And then another day. Always save the judgment for tomorrow.

As we know, tomorrow never comes, yet with time we do gain perspective.

20170808

Grief is a part of life.

We grieve when we lose someone. We grieve when when we lose something that is dear to us. It is normal to grieve.

Grief and death are not normally spoken about until we do lose someone. That is something we can change.

We have a tendency to ignore one of the most important aspects of life, the fact that it will one day end. It is as if by ignoring it we feel that we won’t have to deal with it when it does come.

That strategy never really works so well. The time to talk about death and loss is before it happens. To prepare ourselves for that eventuality only serves us to help to deal with it when that day comes.

Death does not have to be feared. Indeed, according to the laws of thermodynamics, energy cannot be created nor destroyed, it merely changes state.

That is what death is, a change of state. The person may be with us physically anymore, yet they can still live on in our hearts, in our memories, and in our spirit.

How we choose to honor them after they pass is up to us. The fact that one day we will all leave this physical existence, no matter how long we extend it, is not.

So let’s learn to celebrate and honor it before it comes knocking on our door.

20170803

Loss is something we all deal with.

Whether it is the loss of a friend, a parent, a loved one, or even a home, we all deal with loss some time in our lives.

The loss itself is not usually the hard part, it tends to happen in an instant, what is the challenge is dealing with the aftermath of the loss.

How do we process the fact that this person is no longer with us? What do we do with all the emotions and pain we feel at the loss of our job, our career, or our marriage?

There is not right or wrong way to deal with loss. There are, however, some perspectives that can help us to move forward and continue in the wake of loss.

First, let us remember that energy is neither created nor destroyed, it merely transforms state.

Second, let us remember that nothing, absolutely nothing, is permanent in the world.

Third, although our external world may continue to constantly change beyond our control, who we are on the inside and how we choose to deal with it, is completely up to us.

Feel like crying, go ahead. Feel like celebrating someone’s life, go ahead. Feel like being alone, go ahead. Feel like being with people, go ahead.

However you choose to deal with loss in your life is up to you. If we choose to celebrate it instead of morn it, perhaps we can gain some insight from the loss.

It is okay to grieve. It is also okay not to feel the need to grieve as well.

20170801

It is courageous to take a step on a new, untried path.

Yes, it is simpler and easier to walk down the same old road, keep doing things the way you always have, and just leave well enough alone.

If we want to create something of value, of relevance, of worth, to give the world our greatness, then playing it safe just doesn’t cut it.

Yes, it is scary. Yes, it is hard. Yes, it is not what most people do. And that is why we must do it.

To truly contribute to people’s lives we must show up. We must display our commitment to growth by keeping our commitment to be bold, to be different, to be honest.

We may fail. We may crash and burn. There is no safety in traveling down a new path. And we may find diamonds there. We may find treasure beyond our imagination. We may find insight that opens a whole new world to us.

Of course you can decide to play it safe, and no one will ever know that you didn’t take that precarious step into the unknown. Except for one person…yourself.

The world is waiting for you…

20170727

Starting new, destroying the old, recreating our lives is both liberating and painful.

It is painful because we are often attached to how our life is, to the status quo, to the comfort of knowing what we can expect.

It is liberating because we now have a clean slate, a blank canvas on which to create something completely different from what we had before. There are no restrictions, and no guidelines as well.

It is thrilling to begin anew and be limited only by our own imagination. It can also be scary as it is the most uncertain, unknown place to be.

Once the first line is drawn, once we take the first step, we can feel relief. The blankness of the empty canvas can feel daunting and overwhelming. The surest way to get past those stifling feeling is to just take action, do something, create the first little piece.

When we begin, taking that first step, the second step comes easier. As does the third, the fourth, and then we are in the flow. What we once feared dissolves and transforms into the excitement of creation in process.

Every day is an opportunity to see your life as a blank slate. An opportunity to destroy your life and re-create it in any form you desire.

So what do you desire now? What possibilities are you looking to bring into your life?

20170725

Nothing is created alone.

We all create our lives in community. It might be a small community or a large community, regardless we create life together.

We create not just by the actions we take or the conversations we have. We create by the things we allow and the experiences we witness.

We create by using our imagination, and we create by using our words.

We create by using our energy, our emotion, our intentions.

Yes, we create it all. The good, the bad and the unwanted. If it is in our life, we created it somehow, someway.

Yet, we did not create it alone, by ourselves, isolated from others. We create it with those around us, with those who contribute their energies and their intentions.

Even if they say they did not want this thing that has been created, without their focus, without their allowing, it would and could not have been created.

The good news? Since we’ve created all this together, together we can create something different. Together, we can create even more, even better, even brighter futures.

When we create together intentionally, consciously, and with a higher awareness, we create new magic and new beauty.

The gift of life to us is this amazing ability to create. What will you create with your community?

20170720

Forgiveness is more than just a virtue.

Forgiveness is more than just an act of kindness.

Forgiveness is more than just a way to feel better.

Forgiveness is the most powerful path to enlightenment, to healing, to wholeness, and to love.

When we forgive we do not just do an act of kindness for another, we are doing an act of kindness for ourselves.

When we forgive we are releasing the hate, the anger, the sadness inside of us that keeps us from our true potential.

We are also releasing the other person from those energetic bonds that cause further pain and suffering. When we wipe the slate clean, we can all start anew, with a fresh perspective and a new outlook on life.

Ultimately, forgiveness is the greatest act of self-care, self-kindness, and self-love we can do. It is also the single greatest act we can do to heal the world.

Who can you forgive today?