Hate Is Not About Hatred

Hate is not about Hatred.

Anger is not about Rage.

Fear is not about Fright.

When we go deep enough, what underlies them all is pain and sadness.

When we are in pain we lash out. We lash out without thought and without understanding.

We may pick a specific target for our hate and anger, yet it is not about that specific target.

It is about our pain. And underneath that pain is a profound sadness.

In the moment, all we can feel is that if we cause someone or something else pain, it will take away ours.

Nothing is further from the truth.

Pain only causes more pain. To stop the pain, we must be present to it, we must allow it to run its course without stuffing it down.

We all have pain and we all feel pain, the difference is how we deal with it.

The most important thing is not to pass it on.

So let’s give ourselves some space to feel our pain, to feel our sadness, and to allow our bodies to process it with time.

Perhaps when we learn not to pass on our pain we will see less pain in the world.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Our personal power starts to end the moment we begin to blame someone or something else.

It does not matter what they did, or what happened to us, it only matters that we allow the circumstance to dictate our reaction.

Our power come from our presence and our ability to decide how we choose to respond to any given situation.

Blaming and making either someone else or the situation wrong, merely takes away our ability to move past it.

When we decide how we want to be in the situation regardless of the truth of it, then we are exercising our most important muscle.

It is the muscle of choice. It is the muscle of our spirit. It is the muscle of our divine right to create our life anew.

Resisting what is only causes us pain and keeps us stuck where we are.

To acknowledge the truth of the reality of the situation yet not allow the truth to dictate our behaviour the surest way to build our personal power.

Being present to a situation that is unpleasant is a choice. Being present with compassion and love for ourselves is one of the greatest choices we can ever make.

So let’s stop resisting the reality, let’s stop blaming anyone or anything else, and let’s focus on what we can do instead.

When we shift from blame to choice we empower ourselves beyond measure.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Community Is About The People Who Accept Us For Who We Are

Community is not about what we are born into.

Community is not about our neighborhood, our town, or our country.

Community is about the people we choose to be with.

Sometimes our community is in our neighborhood, sometimes it is spread across the globe.

People align with others for many reasons. Sometimes it is about a set of common values.

Sometimes it is about a common belief system.

And sometimes it is because of a group of shared experiences that form strong emotional ties.

We often shy away from community because when a small group of people know us so well it is hard to hide.

Yet we keep coming back to community because it is where we find the most support.

It is also where we find the greatest comfort.

When we are with the people who accept us for who we are without judgement, we find a sense of peace and calm that is very hard to find.

We are all part of one community or another. If you are not feeling the support from the community you are with, it’s time to find another one.

There are thousands upon thousands of communities out there. If you don’t find the one that’s right for you, create your own.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

We are programmed against change.

Our brains are hard-wired for keeping the status quo going.

Change is death. Change is Bad. Change is to be avoided.

Is it any wonder that change is so hard for us?

Yet, we no longer live in jungles where if we stray off the path we can be eaten by a tiger.

We (most of us) no longer roam the plains in search of our next meal as we fight off starvation.

We have the privilege now to reflect on our lives, work on ourselves, and change.

Yet in order to do that we must fight again generations and generations of instincts that tell us not to.

This is why so much effort is needed, especially when we are working from the outside, in.

When we work from the inside, out, we often find our results come quicker and last longer.

Getting comfortable with being uncomfortable is essential.

Practice being open to change in little ways first, then build on that.

See the change in yourself and in others, even where you don’t want to.

Recognizing change is one of the most important things we can do to reinforce the changes in ourselves.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant


We often hear people talk about finding their voice, but what exactly does that mean?

Our voice is not about how we pronounce our words.

Nor is it about about the content we share.

Finding our voice is about showing up, and through our actions and our language, convey that we are here and we have something to share.

It’s not about talking a lot, and it’s not about telling someone what to do.

It’s about courage. It’s about standing out from the crowd and allowing the light to shine on us for a few moments.

It’s definitely not about ego, or about how great we are.

It actually comes down to being humble, and brave, and sharing what we have learned for ourselves.

It is about showing up when we commit to showing up, and sharing our spirit and energy with those who chose to listen to us.

What we say may touch people, or it may not.

What we say may inspire people, or it may not.

What we say may mean something very deep to another person, or it may mean nothing at all to anyone except ourselves.

Finding our voice means we speak our truth regardless of whether it is anyone else’s truth or not.

We can speak our truth in many different ways. We speak our truth with our actions and our presence as much as we speak it with our voice.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant



Life is always a mixed bag.

It is a mix of what we want and what we don’t want.

It is a mix of what thrills us and what brings us down.

It is a mix of people we enjoy being with and people we don’t.

The contrast is always there, yet ever-changing.

We can’t get rid of the contrast, and indeed we probably shouldn’t because we learn so much from it.

The bag will always be mixed.

The key is to focus on the parts of the bag that we enjoy, that uplifts us, and that supports us.

The parts of the bag that don’t are also there for a reason. Let’s learn from them and not judge them.

Ultimately, all the parts of the bag make up life. They are all part of the whole.

So let’s have a little more compassion for the whole bag, and know that there will always be a mix.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

What is it that pulls us forward into a better life?

It is not a better job or a better partner.

It is not more money or more contacts.

It is the vision we hold of our future selves.

How we envision ourselves in our future is what pulls us forward.

It calls us to do more, be more, and serve more.

When we see ourselves not only achieving more in our lives, but contributing more to the lives around us, that’s what inspires us to become more of who we really are.

We can only grow to the extent that we envision ourselves changing.

We only strive to the level that we see in our mind’s eye that’s achievable for us.

Our life is a creation of the vision we hold for ourselves and the belief that that vision is real and possible.

Can you see yourself a week, a month, or a year into the future?

Can you see the beauty you will create, the good you will do, the inspiration you will spread?

Time to envision more, feel it more, and allow it to pull you forward.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Yet sometimes being stuck is exactly where we need to be.

There is great information in being in that place of stuckness.

Perhaps it is an indication that you can take a break. Perhaps it is a way for the Universe to slow you down and give you some perspective.

Maybe we need to be stuck every once in  awhile to remind us of what’s like, and why we like moving forward so much more.

There is so much to be learned from being in a stuck place, we just have to learn to be okay with not being comfortable in that place, give it some space, and look at it with new eyes.

Is there another way to go?

Are you sure you want to continue on the path you’re on?

Is there a new direction or new journey you can take that feels better for you?

Are there things you have not yet considered about where you are that you can look at more deeply?

Being stuck is one of the great pauses we can take to look around, re-evaluate, and reconsider what we’re doing or where we’re going.

Let’s not waste the moment complaining about it. Let’s use being stuck as the great opportunity it is to ponder and meditate on our situation more deeply…

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Strategy is only 10% of the equation of success yet we spend the most amount of time focused on strategy.

The other 90%, the 90% that is the foundation everything we do, is made up of the energy around our endeavors.

The energy around what we do primarily comes from two things.

First, it comes from the experiences we have had in our lives and the meaning we have made from those experiences.

Second, it comes from our choices and responses to all of our experiences.

We experience life from our own particular point of view. From that point of view, we have decided if we live in a compassionate, loving universe, or a cold, dispassionate, mechanical universe.

From the point of view we have adopted, we then respond to life in an optimistic, hopeful, abundant manner, or we respond in a pessimistic, doubtful, lackful manner.

Our results show us our foundation. Our feelings belie our beliefs.

If we come from a place of joy, we will have a joyful journey and joyful results regardless of our strategy.

If we come from a place of lack, we will have a journey of struggle and hard work, and our results never quiet seem to measure up, regardless of our strategy.

Perhaps it is time to spend more emphasis on our energy than on our strategy?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Being truthful is not about telling the truth to others.

Being truthful is not about not telling lies.

Being truthful is about being honest with yourself.

Before we can begin to be authentic in public, we first have to be in alignment within ourselves.

How can we speak truth to our tribe if we do not even know it ourselves?

Too often we find people who will say one thing in private, and another in public.

Regardless of the validity of the statements, if we are not sharing the same message, whether in private or public, we are not being truthful.

Does this mean we have to tell everyone everything? No, of course not. What it means is that we are clear in our intent and with our presence. It means we are being the same person with our families, our friends, our business associates, or our tribe.

Our essence is what matters. Our presence conveys our essence. Our words reflect our essence.

The more true to ourselves about ourselves we are, the more true we can be to other people.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant