20170727

Starting new, destroying the old, recreating our lives is both liberating and painful.

It is painful because we are often attached to how our life is, to the status quo, to the comfort of knowing what we can expect.

It is liberating because we now have a clean slate, a blank canvas on which to create something completely different from what we had before. There are no restrictions, and no guidelines as well.

It is thrilling to begin anew and be limited only by our own imagination. It can also be scary as it is the most uncertain, unknown place to be.

Once the first line is drawn, once we take the first step, we can feel relief. The blankness of the empty canvas can feel daunting and overwhelming. The surest way to get past those stifling feeling is to just take action, do something, create the first little piece.

When we begin, taking that first step, the second step comes easier. As does the third, the fourth, and then we are in the flow. What we once feared dissolves and transforms into the excitement of creation in process.

Every day is an opportunity to see your life as a blank slate. An opportunity to destroy your life and re-create it in any form you desire.

So what do you desire now? What possibilities are you looking to bring into your life?

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Nothing is created alone.

We all create our lives in community. It might be a small community or a large community, regardless we create life together.

We create not just by the actions we take or the conversations we have. We create by the things we allow and the experiences we witness.

We create by using our imagination, and we create by using our words.

We create by using our energy, our emotion, our intentions.

Yes, we create it all. The good, the bad and the unwanted. If it is in our life, we created it somehow, someway.

Yet, we did not create it alone, by ourselves, isolated from others. We create it with those around us, with those who contribute their energies and their intentions.

Even if they say they did not want this thing that has been created, without their focus, without their allowing, it would and could not have been created.

The good news? Since we’ve created all this together, together we can create something different. Together, we can create even more, even better, even brighter futures.

When we create together intentionally, consciously, and with a higher awareness, we create new magic and new beauty.

The gift of life to us is this amazing ability to create. What will you create with your community?

20170720

Forgiveness is more than just a virtue.

Forgiveness is more than just an act of kindness.

Forgiveness is more than just a way to feel better.

Forgiveness is the most powerful path to enlightenment, to healing, to wholeness, and to love.

When we forgive we do not just do an act of kindness for another, we are doing an act of kindness for ourselves.

When we forgive we are releasing the hate, the anger, the sadness inside of us that keeps us from our true potential.

We are also releasing the other person from those energetic bonds that cause further pain and suffering. When we wipe the slate clean, we can all start anew, with a fresh perspective and a new outlook on life.

Ultimately, forgiveness is the greatest act of self-care, self-kindness, and self-love we can do. It is also the single greatest act we can do to heal the world.

Who can you forgive today?

20170718

Blaming others is easy.

Pointing fingers, being a victim, putting all our problems on someone else, is what we are taught from a young age as acceptable.

You can do that. No one will stop you, and indeed, other will be happy to join in and add fuel to the fire.

What takes real courage is owning up to our own faults, our own lessons, to our own part of any situation, and take responsibility for it.

Society does not encourage that. After all, if everyone starts to take responsibility for everything in their lives, that empowers them and then they can make changes and society no longer has its hold on them.

For society at large, that’s a dangerous thing to happen.

For the individual, it is the path of most growth and self-actualization.

It may not be a popular point of view, yet the energy of it rings true. When we take responsibility for everything in our lives, when we own it, when we deeply understand that our energy attracts and creates all of life’s situations around us, we are liberated.

Pain may be unavoidable, but suffering is optional. By taking complete responsibility for our lives, we can end the suffering and heal the pain without destroying anything or anyone. We can make changes to our own lives. We can create magic.

What is it that you want? Victimhood or Magic?

20170713

When we seek retribution, we may find satisfaction, but we rarely find peace.

When we seek vengeance, we might find justice, but we rarely find healing.

When we seek to tear down another to build up ourselves, we are building on sand and our house will surely fall.

There is only one right way to heal an injury from another. That is to find the wholeness within ourselves that was never injured, and return to it.

When we seek to hurt another, we not only hurt them, we hurt ourselves. And we hurt ourselves far more than we can ever hurt another.

Has someone done wrong by you? Start by forgiving yourself for being involved, take better care of yourself, and examine what within you is holding that energy active. There is always some kind of energetic pattern that created the situation to begin with.

This is not to say that you should keep the person who wronged you in your life, of course not. Yet that is exactly what we do when we seek retribution, vengeance or harm upon another.

Making peace with ourselves is a far more effective way to find the healing and wholeness that we truly seek.

20170711

The big lie the world perpetrates is that we are powerless to do anything about the way life is.

We are too small, we do not have enough resources, we are not well connected enough, in short, we have no power.

This is a lie on so many levels that it is hard to believe that it is so pervasive. Yet every day, more and more people buy into this idea, and allow themselves to become slaves to what is in their lives.

When we really look at it, we actually have all the power to change. While we cannot control what other people do, or what circumstances may come our way, we have complete control over the most important thing in our lives.

The decisions we make.

Yes, the choices we choose, every moment of every day, is where all the power lies.

How we respond to situations, how we deal with the good times and the bad, how we decide, day to day, to show up for ourselves and for others, is far more important than anything that happens to us externally.

And the biggest power of all, is the choice to change. For we can change everything important in our lives through changing our focus, our thoughts, our language and our physiology.

Real power, is the power to choose something different!

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Learning to trust yourself takes time, patience and perseverance.

Mostly, that is because from the time we are young we are taught not to trust ourselves.

We are taught instead to trust our parents, our teachers, our peer group, just about everyone else except ourselves.

We learn to put our faith in our religious or political leaders because, after all, they know better than we do what’s best for us.

This learned behavior is not only dis-empowering, it is dangerous to our well-being.

When we ignore our common sense, when we put down our intuition, when we place our fate into the hands of some guru rather than trusting our own bodies, tragedy can follow.

When that tragedy occurs, we blame the guru, and that dis-empowers us even more.

Instead of blame, let us learn to be curious and find the lesson in it.

Instead of giving away our power, let us make our own decisions, for better or worse, and learn from the outcome.

This is our life! Let’s start living it like we mean it. Ultimately, we are all responsible for our choices and their outcomes, and because of that we are empowered by each one.

20170704

Some people have big dreams.

Some people have moderate dreams.

Some people just dream of have a roof over their heads and food in their stomach.

Some people have no dreams at all…

Yet we all do dream, sometime, somewhere, sometimes snuck away in little corners of our psyches, there are those moments, those flashes of hope and light that just begs for tiniest of encouragement.

Often, people feel that they are seeking clarity. more often, it seems, we are all just seeking the courage to dare to dream the dreams we fear are impossible, beyond us, and just plain ludicrous.

Courage, real courage, is believing in something even when it seems absurd. The courage to believe in ourselves, when by all outward appearances there is nothing to stand on, is the greatest effort we can make to change our lives.

Dreams make life not only bearable, dreams make life amazing. To conceive of new worlds, new ideas, new stories, and new ways of evolving, is the greatest gift we can give ourselves, and the world around us.

Do not just dare to dream, live to dream!

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There are many ways to fill up our cup.

For some people, they fill up their cup by being with friends and family.

For others, it comes from being out in nature.

And for still others, it can come from a good book, a movie, a concert, a play, or some other performance.

Yes, for some people it comes from connection to others, and for other people it comes from solitude.

The important thing is not how we fill up our cup, but that we do it in the first place.

We spend so much time giving to others, at our job, our business, at parties and family gatherings, that we often forget to take the time to receive.

Receiving does not mean having to receive an actual physical gift. It can just be receiving what we need from life to feel full inside.

We cannot truly give from a cup that’s half empty, for what we give will not be enough for the other person and it will only drain us.

We can only give from a cup that is over-flowing, for then the act of giving uplifts us, and we are truly able to give what the other person really needs.

So how do you fill up your cup?

20170627

Acceptance of that which we do not like to see comes first.

After acceptance, after recognizing how that thing we have such a distaste for is actually inside of us, comes love.

Getting there may not be easy, yet it is the only path towards wholeness.

When we can accept the tyrant within us, the predator, the cheat, the liar and the thief within, then we can accept those around us who embody those very same qualities.

Some call it the Shadow, some the dark side, yet no matter what the label, it is all us. It is in the world because it is inside of us.

Coming to that realization takes courage, forgiveness and self-love.

It is only when we can embrace it within us, admit it, shine our light on it, and still love ourselves that we will heal it in our world.

As long as we separate ourselves from it, cut ourselves off from it, it will continue to show up and be that thorn that no one can remove. We can only remove it ourselves.

It is up to us, not anyone else, to heal this within us. No one can do it for us, they can only do it for themselves.

So let us this day love a little more, forgive a little more, support and help others a little more, not from a place of guilt but from a place of love.