Bringing Joy To Our Challenges Is How We Glide Through Them

Challenges are not something we need to avoid.

While challenges are not comfortable, they do serve a purpose.

They push us beyond what we thought our limits are.

They help us to get out of our comfort zone and bring real growth.

Just like an animal that must shed it’s skin to grow, the process is uncomfortable.

Just like a seed that must exert immense pressure to break through it’s case, it’s not easy.

Yet in order for our muscles to grow, they need resistance to push against.

In order for us to build our emotional, physical and spiritual muscles, we must push against resistance.

Once we have developed our muscles, then we can dance with it.

After we have gone through our transformation, then we can use our new wings and fly.

When we are in the middle of our challenges, they don’t feel very nice.

Yes, when we are experiencing the very things we want to avoid, we don’t feel good.

And if we can face the challenge without judgment and criticism, we may find it a little easier to get through.

When we judge our experiences and make them wrong or bad we are only making it more difficult for ourselves.

When we release our expectations and let go of our opinions about the challenges we face, then we can allow them to unfold more naturally and more quickly.

In the end, is that not what we truly want? To get through our challenges as quickly as possible?

Then it is up to us to stop resisting them.

The choice and the power is with us.

We can choose to fight against them and try to push them away.

Or we can embrace them.

We can revel in them.

We can bring our joy to them.

And then see what happens…

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

With Awareness, Allowing, And Acceptance, Comes Peace

First, we become aware of what is going on inside of us.

Then, we learn to allow it to be whatever it is.

It may be uncomfortable or uneasy at times.

Eventually we learn to accept it for what it is – how we are feeling.

That acceptance is key to ultimately finding peace.

Without awareness, there is no peace.

Without allowing, there is no peace.

Without acceptance, there is no peace.

Where there is all three, we find tranquility.

It is not about changing the world or fixing our relationships.

It is not about changing someone else or fixing ourselves.

It’s about being okay with how we are feeling in any given moment.

That doesn’t mean we have to act upon all of our feelings.

It doesn’t mean we have to express all of our emotions.

Yet when we allow the energies that reside within us to just be, we can observe without action.

We can allow them to flow.

We can allow them to go.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

The Beginning Of Wisdom Comes When We Realize We Don’t Know Anything

Most of us think we’re pretty smart.

We’ve got a lot of things figured out.

We’ve got a plan for our careers, our relationships, and our lives.

Then Life happens and suddenly all those plans go out the window.

Maybe it was a health challenge we didn’t expect.

Maybe it was something that happened to someone close to us.

Maybe our industry suddenly collapse and we don’t know what to do next.

Slowly, but surely, over time we begin to realize that we really don’t know anything.

Our predictions of the future were all wrong.

Our assumptions about relationships and family turned out to be complicated than we expected.

Our vision for our lives suddenly seems to be a fantasy.

Then we drop it all.

We drop our expectations.

We drop our projections.

We drop our certainty.

And that’s when true wisdom begins.

When we come to the realization that we know absolutely nothing, we can begin to accept what is.

When we stop our belief that we are the center and the master of the universe, then the universe can bring us magic.

When we finally give up our egoic stance that we are so great and so smart, then we can start to find peace inside.

It doesn’t happen overnight.

It doesn’t happen all at once.

Yet when it does happen, it feels like magic.

It feels like a relief.

We soften and then know that it is okay that we don’t know anything.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

How We Feel About Life Is About The Projections We Send Out

We see things in life all the time that we are sure are real.

How someone says something to us, and the meaning behind it, are clear to us.

Our memories are filled with moments that we are certain happened a specific way.

All these life experiences actually happened, yet they are filled with our own projects.

What our friend did is because they don’t like us.

What our partner said is because they’re mad at us.

The Why our parent acted is because they are not proud of us.

We constantly think we know what is going on inside someone else’s mind.

Yet what we are doing is projecting our own feelings and our own interpretations onto our experience.

Perhaps our friend was just in a rush and forgot to be polite.

Perhaps our partner got some bad news we don’t know about and they are mad about it.

Perhaps our parents just learned that a friend of theirs died and they’re upset over it.

How we interpret the world around us has less to do with the actual events and more about how we feel about ourselves.

Do we feel deep inside that we’re not good enough? Do the things we experience make us feel less than?

Do we feel that there’s something wrong with us? Do our relationships trigger those feelings?

Do we feel that we don’t deserve good things? Do we often feel the other person is taking advantage of us?

It’s not so cut and dry.

Our perspective and our self-image have a lot to do with it.

Perhaps when we get triggered we can use it as an opportunity to look inside instead of outside.

Perhaps when we feel someone is against us we can check in and see if we are battling with ourselves.

Perhaps instead of assuming it’s always about the other person, we can take a step back and look for how we might be projecting something onto them.

Maybe we will find it is…

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Feeling Safe Is Essential For Us To Heal, Grow, And Be Authentic

Feeling safe is more important than we think.

Feeling safe is about more than our environment.

Feeling safe involved more than just the people we’re surrounded by.

Feeling safe is essential for us to heal, grow, and be authentic.

As human beings we get traumatized by many things.

Our nervous systems respond to all sorts of stimuli.

Someone yelling at us on the phone can be traumatic and make us feel unsafe.

A person’s energy when they walk into the elevator with us can make us feel unsafe.

A dark and deserted place can make use feel unsafe as well.

What triggers one person may not be what triggers someone else.

As individuals, we all come to life with different associations and different experiences.

Do we really know when we make someone else feel unsafe?

Are we aware of what we do for others that does make them feel safe?

Without feeling safe we cannot relax.

Without feeling safe we cannot allow ourselves to show how we really feel inside.

Without feeling safe we cannot begin or engage in any kind of healing.

What we often overlook is that we first have to feel safe with ourselves, before we can feel safe with anyone else.

Sometimes, we don’t even consider what situations we need to be in to feel safe.

Do we feel safe with our families?

Do we feel safe with our friends?

Do we feel safe in our work environment?

What is the solution when we don’t feel safe?

Change where we are. Change who we are with. Change what we are experiencing.

When we find a moment’s peace, then we can begin to analyze what we need to feel safe.

When we are alone, and present to ourselves, then we can feel our bodies and see where there is tension or concern.

Knowing what we need to feel safe is important for us to create safety for others.

If we all keep in mind what it means to feel safe and to how to create safety around us, perhaps we can create a safer world.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

We Create Our Lives Through Our Focus, Energy, and Decisions

Taking responsibility for our lives is not easy.

It means accepting that we create all the good stuff and all the bad stuff in our lives.

It means there is no one else to blame for our situation.

Yet it also means we are empowered to create something different.

Often, we fall into the trap of making excuses and blaming others for where we are in life.

We are where we are because of our parents, our teachers, our coaches, our bosses, or our lovers.

We are sad or angry or upset because of what someone else has done.

We cannot do what we truly want because of our responsibilities to others.

Yet, who agreed to be in those situations to begin with?

How we came to our choices and decisions may go far back.

Perhaps a decision we made in school had far reaching effects on our lives.

At the time, we had no clue how that one little choice would send us in a totally different trajectory.

And step by step, we move towards one thing or away from another.

The energy we put into each situation has consequences and moves us further towards or away from what we want.

As days and weeks and months pass, we may even forget that original choice.

Years go by and instead of being in one place we are in a completely different place.

So who is say that it’s better or worse than someplace else?

Ultimately it is a place of our own making.

It is a place formulated by our own choices.

It is a situation that  arises from the energy we put out.

Yes, that means we are responsible for where we are.

Yes, that mean we have to take credit for all the bad as well as all the good around us.

Yes, that means we have created our lives to be exactly how they are at this moment.

The good news is that we can always learn to make different choices.

As long as we are still breathing, we have an opportunity to do something different.

The real question is, what are we going to do with this power?

What are we going to create next in our lives?

Who are we going to show up as and be next?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant