Sitting Still Allows Us To Be More Present To Ourselves And Others

How are we present to ourselves?

Can we sit still and just be aware of our feelings?

Do we fidget and become restless in our seats looking for something to do?

How we are when we are by ourselves actually tells us a lot about ourselves.

When we are at peace with ourselves, it is easy to sit and be still.

When we are uncomfortable with some aspect of ourselves, it is hard to spend time alone.

When we take a moment to just breath and relax are we really relaxed?

Most of the time, we are not relaxed around ourselves.

We need to be doing something or be engaged in a conversation.

We look for some kind of distraction to take us away from how we are really feeling.

Yet, if we take a moment to explore that feeling instead of avoid, we can learn quite a bit.

We can see more clearly where our work is.

We can feel what it is that triggers us.

We can discover what unresolved issues are rolling around inside of us.

It is not always comfortable to just sit with ourselves.

In fact, it can be quite challenging.

Yet the rewards are enormous.

And the practice itself is quite helpful.

It gives us that moment of peace with which we can enter our day.

It helps us to be more centered and grounded.

It reminds us to be more gentle and more kind with ourselves.

And it calls us to be more present to everything in our lives.

Presence allows us to be more available to others, and to ourselves.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Our Life Is Created From The Meaning We Make And The Stories We Tell

From the moment we are born we begin to create stories around our experiences.

We start to label events as good or bad.

We then reflect on those judgments and make them mean something.

We’re a bad person because some we didn’t like happened to us.

Life is good because we got something we wanted.

People love me because they give me attention.

The world sucks because someone hurt me.

All of these thoughts are stories that may not have anything to do with the factual events.

These stories hold great power over us as we make significant meaning from them about our lives.

I’m worthless.

I can’t do anything right.

I’m a failure.

These stories soon become our identity, and we unconsciously find ways to live into these identities.

My life is blessed.

I always find a way.

I can do anything I set my mind to.

It doesn’t matter if these stories support us or disempower us, they still have great power over us.

These stories soon become programs we run over and over in our heads as we encounter new situations.

The truth of these beliefs become apparent in our experience.

Yet they are only true because we believe in them and we have made so much meaning from them.

The most important key to using this to our advantage is that it is all made up!

We created the meaning behind all these programs and we can change the meaning if we wish.

A black cat walking in front of us can no longer mean something bad will happen to us, but that animals love us.

The challenges we face are not because we are no good, but because we are stronger than we know.

Our life is no longer dependant on the stories we created a long time ago.

We can create new stories with new meanings every single day.

We can make new meanings of everything in our life that truly supports and empowers us.

So what stories and meaning have you made from your life that you want to make new meaning from?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

The Moments Lived Being Truly Present Are The Most Precious Of All

What do we measure a life by?

Do we measure it by the number of dollars earned?

Do we measure it by the number of lives touches?

Or can we stop measuring everything and just acknowledge that each life is precious?

We all contribute in our own way.

We all add to the fullness that is life in this world.

We all add to the richness that makes up the tapestry of creation.

Regardless of how much money we have earned.

Regardless of how many accomplishments we are credited with.

Regardless of the races won.

The moments we live being truly present with another being are the most precious of all.

In the end, a life lived with joy an compassion is the richest life of all.

It is not about who is the most productive.

It is not about who makes the most deals.

It is not about who has the largest, or smallest, family.

Our energy, our presence, creates a unique impact on this planet.

We all add something to the mix.

If we were not here, things would be different.

If we never existed, life would be unimaginably altered.

We all have a place in this world, from the poorest of the poor to the richest and most famous.

Our roles are different, our purposes diverse.

As we learn to revel in our differences and stop comparing ourselves to others, we start to live life more fully.

When we focus on each moment as the precious gift it is, we become rich in experience.

How are you measuring your life?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

If We Are Not Selfish We Cannot Take Care Of The Larger Whole

Why do we find it so difficult to ask for what we want?

Why do we fear the reactions we will receive when we do?

Is that label of being called Selfish so derogatory that we cannot even go near it?

Society often uses the term “Selfish” when an individual voices their need or desire.

Being Selfish is about being concerned for the Self.

Self-care is not only important, it is essential for our health and growth.

We cannot contribute to society without taking care of our selves first.

Being called “Selfish” is a form of control society uses to get individuals to do what Society wants.

It is all about placing Society’s needs above the individual’s needs.

The fallacy of that point of view is that if the individuals are not taken care of, they cannot take care of society.

So why should we fear being called Selfish?

Actually, it is a compliment.

It means we are strong enough and wise enough to consider our own needs first before we can consider others.

When we come from a place of strength, we are able to contribute more.

When we come from a place of strength, we are able to give from a deeper place.

When we come from a place of strength, we are able to truly give what someone needs most.

We can all learn something from being a little more Selfish.

It means opening our hearts to ourselves first, then we can open to others.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Feeling Our Feelings Is Healthier Than Shutting Them Off

Sometimes, it’s not comfortable to feel our feelings.

Sometimes, it’s downright depressing, frustrating, anxiety-provoking and maddening.

Sometimes, it’s uplifting, joyful, and wonderful.

Unfortunately, we don’t always get to choose.

When we decide to feel, we feel it all.

The good, the bad, and the ugly.

Sure, when we’re stuck in the really ugly feelings, we’d rather just not be there.

We’d rather hide, or shut down.

We’d rather retreat behind concrete walls and shut off all of our feelings.

Yet, that does not serve us.

Granted, no one likes to marinate in the deep, dark depressing places that we sometimes go.

Sure, we would all like to feel happy, joyful, uplifted, and energetic all the time.

Yet, we are not built that way.

We are made to feel the full range of emotions.

Dozens of them.

From the highest to the lowest.

When we shut ourselves off from them, we often find trouble.

Perhaps not right away.

Yet over the long run, the unexpressed, unfelt feelings can cause lots of trouble.

From heart-ache to heartburn, and much worse.

It’s not easy, it’s not comfortable, but it sure beats the alternative.

What are you feeling today?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

By Honoring Another’s Path We Come To Understand Our Own

The desire to help others comes naturally.

When we are connected to our tribe in a loving way, we want to see everyone do well.

Where we get in trouble is when we try to protect people from their own path.

We cannot stop someone else from making their own choices.

We cannot keep people from the consequences of their own actions.

And we certainly cannot prevent people from feeling their own emotions.

Indeed, the more we judge someone else’s path, the more trouble we cause for ourselves.

The more we resist what is, and how others are, the more we suffer.

Our judgments cause ourselves pain.

Our opinions on how someone else’s life is unfolding only keeps us from being present with them.

We may not agree with their choices.

We do not have to accept their actions as ones we would take in their shoes.

Yet the more we honor their own decisions, the more we honor ourselves.

The more we accept life as it is, the more we can be at peace.

We cannot control the entire universe.

We cannot control even one other person’s path.

We can only live our own life and accept how others have chosen to live theirs.

We don’t have to agree with it.

Yet, if we live as an example of how others can live, perhaps one day they will notice.

Perhaps one day they will ask for our help and be open to receive it.

Before that time comes, there is no opening for us.

It is only by honoring a person’s path that we come to understand our own path more clearly.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Boldness Builds A Life Free From Fear And Regret

There are many fears in life that bother us.

There’s the fear of being alone.

There’s the fear of loss of a loved one.

There’s the fear of lack of resources.

There are many little fears we live with every day.

The fear of pain.

The fear of missing out.

The fear of being last.

All these fears, when taken to the extreme, are ultimately one big fear.

The fear of death.

The fear of the unknown that lies beyond that singular point at the end of life.

We fear to be alone because in the jungle it can mean death.

We fear to be without resources for that can lead to death as well.

We fear losing others because that only reminds us of our own mortality.

Yes, a healthy fear of death can help us to stay alive.

Yet when our fears become unhealthy and run our lives instead of our passions, we become paralyzed.

To overcome our fear of death is not natural.

To override that most basic instinct takes a lot of internal work.

Yet the more we learn to overcome the small fears, the more we eat away at the big fear.

The surest way to get past our fear of death is to live life fully.

To live with the reminder that every day could be our last.

To live life in bold, outrageous fashion.

Moderation is for monks.

Meekness is for puppies.

Fate favors the bold and being bold diminishes regret.

How can we be bolder in our own lives?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

There Is A Often A Huge Difference Between Perception And Truth

Our perceptions are tricky things.

We think we know what is going on, yet we only see it from our perspective.

That conversation we had with our partner or the event that happened in another part of the world, is open to our interpretation based on our perceptions.

In order to stay grounded, it is useful to ask ourselves a simple question.

Is that really true?

Is our perception or interpretation of a given situation actually true for other people and not just us?

If a third party, someone not involved emotionally in it, saw or heard what went on, would they have the same conclusion as we do?

What we often think of as an objective fact is rarely so.

The more we question our perceptions and our assumptions, the more we realize how much of our belief is opinion and not fact.

Is that really true?

Even our own thoughts are our interpretations.

That is true for us, and it is true for everyone else.

So it is useful to always double-check when we recognize there are assumptions present.

Is that really true?

The more that question becomes part of our daily practice, the more we can catch ourselves.

The more we catch other people’s assumptions.

The more we can be humble with our opinions.

The more we can connect with people on a deeper level.

Is that really true?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant