Safety Is About How We Feel Inside Not What Is Going On Around Us

How do we come to a peaceful place inside?

How do we find the tranquility we seek when there is so much chaos in the world?

How do we feel safe when there seems to be so much that is not safe around us?

Feeling safe may be a challenge at times, yet it is possible to achieve when we find our tribe.

The first time we meet a group of people we are all a little bit uneasy.

We’re not sure where or how we fit in.

We don’t know what is expected of us or what to expect of the others.

Yet as we form connections to people individually, we begin to feel more at ease.

It takes time to feel safe in a new situation.

Whether it is a new workplace, a new family, or a new social group.

As we allow ourselves to go through our own process of discovery and exploration of the group, we realize that we do find our equilibrium.

It may not happen as quickly as we would like.

It may not happen in the manner we expect.

Yet when we release ourselves from the expectations and from any timeline, it all goes much smoother.

We connect with one person first. Then another.

Soon we find that we have much more in common with the group then we first thought.

Safety, it turns out, is more about how we feel inside than what is going on around us.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Self-Care Is Essential For Our Own Well-Being And The Well-Being Of Others

We often feel pressure to be of service to others.

Sometimes that works out well.

Other times it wears us down.

If we don’t learn to balance out self-care with service, we can end up with some serious challenges.

It is easy to think of other’s needs and put our own needs to the side.

We feel that if we just show up for others and help them with their challenges we don’t have to worry about ourselves.

Yet that isn’t how things usually work out.

We put ourselves second, or last, and then we have a breakdown while trying to help others.

The breakdown can come in many forms.

It can be physical, it can be emotional, or it can be in our relationships.

What we often don’t understand is that the breakdown occurs exactly because we put our own needs behind that of someone else.

Whether it is a friend, a relative, a partner, or a business, it doesn’t matter.

By not meeting our own needs, by not recognizing that we have to take care of ourselves first, we head down a track that ultimately leads to some kind of breakdown.

The fact that the breakdown occurs is not a bad thing. It is a signal.

It is a signal that we haven’t been operating from a compassionate place and that something needs to change.

Yes, we need to be compassionate to others.

Yet how can we be compassionate to other if we have not yet been compassionate for ourselves?

The breakdown is to show us we need to practice self-care.

Self-care means we have to take care of our own needs in order to have what we need to take care of others.

Practicing self-care is essential for our own well-being as well as the well-being of others.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Releasing Control And Trusting More Allows Life To Surpass Our Imagination

We often get in trouble when we focus too much on control.

The desire for control comes from more than fear.

We look to control our circumstance, our environment, and our relationships because of something deeper.

It comes from a profound lack of trust.

A lack of trust in ourselves.

A lack of trust in the world.

A lack of trust in Life.

In our minds, we have good reasons for this lack of trust.

Yet if we look deep into our hearts, we want to trust more than anything else.

Making the effort to control everything in our lives is exhausting.

It also leaves little room for Life to bring us the unexpected.

While that may sound comforting to us, it is also quite limiting.

Life can surprise us with the most amazing adventures when we allow it to.

Giving up control is not about releasing our responsibilities in our lives.

It is about trusting ourselves deeply that we can handle and thrive in any situation Life brings us.

By trusting more and controlling less, we can allow amazing circumstances to develop.

We can allow others to contribute more and truly create team efforts.

We can lessen the stress in our lives and live more joyfully.

We can start to have a happier journey throughout our lives.

Yes, control can be very comforting.

Is it worth it?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

The Kinder We Are With Ourselves The Easier It Is To Take Responsibility

How do we take responsibility for our actions?

How do we show up when we’ve made a mistake or done something we thought better of afterward?

Do we justify and throw blame on to others?

Or do we go beyond the idea of blame and merely make right what we have done?

All too often in this society, we find that people fear to take responsibility for their actions and words.

We see how people deny or change what happened out of fear.

Fear drives us to hide from the consequences of our deeds.

We fear how others will respond and react to what we have said or done.

We fear it not because of what others may do.

We fear it because of our own judgments about ourselves.

We fear it because we are being too hard on ourselves, and secretly we are condemning ourselves long before anyone else knows what happened.

This is because we are always our own worst critic, our own worst detractor.

We are far harsher on ourselves than anyone else can ever be.

Our fears are not about what others may do.

Our fears are about merely being exposed and being seen for what we have done.

We fear being human.

We fear making mistakes.

Yet when we allow ourselves to be human and make mistakes, we allow others to do the same.

When we become more compassionate for ourselves, we can be more compassionate for others.

And when we all soften into compassion for being human, there is no reason to be afraid to take responsibility.

We are all guilty, so let’s be more kind to ourselves and to everyone else.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

The Quality Of Our Lives Is Determined By The Quality Of The Questions We Ask

How often do we listen to the questions we ask ourselves in our heads?

How often do we ask ourselves questions that cannot be answered?

How does it affect how we feel about ourselves and our lives?

When we start to become more conscious and mindful we start to observe ourselves more.

We start to notice little things, such as how we ask such things as “Why does this always happen to me?”

We can look at this and see that questions like this are not helpful to ask ourselves.

For when we ask ourselves any question, it feeds the unconscious mind which then goes to work finding the answers to our questions.

This is a very powerful form of programming that we do to ourselves.

Yet when we ask questions that will inevitably lead to negative answers, it disempowers us.

The solution is to ask more empowering questions that actually serves us.

Questions such as “How can this serve me?” or “How can I have fun with this?” point our minds in a direction that creates a better life for ourselves.

In general, Why questions do not serve us.

How and What questions are usually much more constructive.

So as we notice ourselves asking questions that do not serve us, we can learn to re-frame them into questions that move us forward.

“How does this help me?”

“What can I do to improve this situation?”

“Where can I find more resources to help me with this challenge?”

These are all good questions that move us closer to an answer that actually helps us to find real solutions to the things we face in life.

As we become more adept at asking high-quality questions, the quality of our life improves.

What high-quality questions can you start asking yourself today?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant