We All Contribute Our Talents And Skills In Our Own Unique Way

We often do not recognize our true gifts.

The things we are good at just come naturally to us.

We don’t think they are a big deal.

Yet when we ask someone else what they think our gifts are, we are quite often surprised by their answer.

We are surprised not because we didn’t know it.

We are surprised because we didn’t value it the way they did.

To us, that talent or gift is just part of who we are.

We’ve always had it.

We use it effortlessly.

It is just not something special to us.

Yet to someone on the outside, it is an amazing talent.

To our friends and our clients, it seems like we have some incredible skill that they feel they could never develop.

And to us, what they can do is beyond us.

We always value what someone else can do much higher than we value our own skills.

Precisely because they can do it and we can’t.

And if we bring in a third person, they will be shocked at what both of us can do.

So if not so much about what we can or can not do.

It is about valuing our own innate talents and skills on par with other people’s innate talents and skills.

We all contribute in our own unique way.

We all can something that makes the world a better place to be.

Let’s learn to value all our contributions for what they are, and stop placing others, or ourselves, above anyone else.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Every Day Is A New Day To Gift The World A New You

Every day is a new day.

Every time we wake up we have an opportunity to create something new.

Every time we open our eyes we have a chance to see the world from a new perspective.

Life is not stagnant.

We do not stay the same.

Every moment we breathe we can make new choices and move in new directions.

We can build something that has never been built before.

We can touch someone’s life with kindness and care.

We can show up with more presence and courage.

We are not limited to our past experience.

We are not limited to our past actions.

We are not limited to our past thoughts.

It does not matter what happened yesterday.

Today is a new day and with it comes new possibilities and new options.

We can create a new world if we choose to.

We can create a new life for ourselves if we choose to.

We can create new experiences for ourselves and others.

It is our choice. It is our life to decide what to do with.

Let today be the new day you have been waiting for to launch your new venture.

Launch your new ideas.

Launch the new version of you as a gift to the world.

The world is waiting for you. What will you do with this day?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

It Is Gratitude That Makes The Holiday Season A Joyful Time

The Holiday Season is not about giving gifts.

It’s not about getting together with family.

It’s not about reviewing the past year.

In fact, the holidays are not about any of the things we usually associate with them.

The holidays are about remembering to be grateful.

To be grateful for Life.

To be grateful for our community.

To be grateful for our experiences.

To be grateful for it all, the struggles and the joys.

For when we learn to be grateful for all of life, life becomes much easier to live.

Gratitude lights our hearts and spirits.

Gratitude is the grease that oils the wheels of our relationships.

Gratitude is the energy that gives us the strength to be generous.

So it is gratitude that makes the family gatherings more pleasant.

It is gratitude that makes the gift giving more fun.

It is gratitude that makes reviewing our past year a joyful endeavor.

It is gratitude that makes looking forward to next year so palatable.

We are grateful for all of you who make this time of year special for us.

With all our hearts, we say “Thank You!”

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Not Giving The Answer Allows People To Grow and Trust Themselves

How do we empower others?

How do we, as coaches, teachers, guides, parents, bosses, and managers, help those we interact with, find their way?

Do we give them all the answers?

Do we tell them all that we have learned?

Or do we guide them to find the answers within themselves?

Handing someone the answer to a challenge they are facing may feel good to use, yet if the person we are trying to help does not learn to find the answers on their own, we have only disempowered them, not empower them.

Being a real guide, a true mentor, means learning to ask the questions that allow them to realize what the correct path is for themselves.

We may think we know the answer.

We may think we have the solution to their issues.

Yet if all we do is share our opinion with them, they have not learned how to access their own inner wisdom.

We have not taught them that they do have the power to resolve their own issues.

We have not given them the gift of our presence and allowed them to use their creativity and trust themselves more.

It does not matter whether the person we are working with is our partner, our lover, our child, our employee, or our co-worker.

It does not matter how important or unimportant the situation may be.

We are only enticing the people around us to find their own path through their own efforts, or we are taking that opportunity away from them.

When we create dependency for others, we create slaves.

When we create the atmosphere for independent thinking, we allow people to grow.

What do you want to create? Follower or fellow leaders?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

We Can Measure Our Success By More Than Money We Can Measure It By The Lives We Touch

Is bigger always better?

Is doing more always the answer?

Is working harder and constantly pushing ourselves to create more, have more, and make more always a good thing?

When do we start to take into account the impact the growth of our business or our company is having on our health, our relationships, our family?

Most of us are trained from the time we are very young to believe in the mantra, Bigger is Better.

We are told by our parents, by media, and by society at large, that you can’t be happy with just a modest income or a small business.

You have to build it big, grow it large, working harder and harder until that day when the big payoff comes.

The thing is, that big payoff doesn’t always come.

The fact is if you look at the statistics, the vast majority of the time we fail.

We get crushed by a competitor who has much deeper pockets than we do.

Someone else is hired who has a better degree or more advanced training and they become our boss instead of us moving ahead.

Rarely do we look at the impact working so hard is having on the other aspects of our life.

We don’t often evaluate how our relationships with those closest to us suffer from our focus on work.

We forget to take stock of all those times we missed being with our children.

And let’s forget about our health.

What about the toll are all those long days and the stress is taking on our bodies?

How much are we shortening our lifespan by not sleeping well over our worry over our work?

Perhaps there is another way. Perhaps we can have different values and different standards for our lives.

As the Dali Lama says, “The planet does not need more ‘successful people’. The planet desperately needs more peacemakers, healers, restorers, storytellers, and lovers of all kinds.”

So perhaps we can find a way to be a better healer and lover so we can be an example of how to live happily by a different standard.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

To Create A Kinder World We Only Have To Be Kinder Ourselves

We all crave to live in a more friendly and compassionate world.

We want to feel safe to live and be who we are.

We long for the feeling of community and camaraderie.

So it is important to look at what we are doing to create that kind of world.

Are we being friendlier to others?

Are we expressing our compassion for others, even complete strangers?

Do we engage in rituals and activities that engender the feeling of community?

It is time to stop waiting for others to change, and to make the change ourselves.

If we desire to see a world that is more gentle and kind, then it is time for us to be more gentle and kind.

Be the change you want to see in the world” is not just a pretty slogan, it is the way to live.

The power is in our hands, we can and do make a difference every day.

We make a difference by being nice when someone else is in a rush and not being mindful.

We make a difference by being soft when others are being hard.

We make a difference by showing our kindness to those in need.

We make a difference with our presence, our words, and our actions.

Even one small step goes a long way to creating a friendlier world.

What can you contribute to a kinder, gentler planet?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

When We Stop Being Defensive We Can Truly Open Our Hearts To Others

Whenever we have a difficult time with someone else, we naturally start defending ourselves.

We think the other person is attacking us, and we must defend our position or our opinion.

The argument with our coworker or our sibling turns into an offensive on our very being.

So what do we do?

We close out hearts and we go into our heads.

We start analyzing and rationalizing why we are right and they are wrong.

We create all kinds of stories around the incident that make us feel better about ourselves and feel not so good about the other person.

And where does that lead us?

To more hard feelings and a breakdown in communication.

All because we think it is all about us.

There is another way.

If when we are in the middle of the disagreement we keep our hearts open and realize that it is not about us but about the other person, then we can be more compassionate.

We can ask them what’s wrong and listen.

We can hear and feel what’s going on with them instead of putting up a wall.

We can be present with them and see where it takes us.

And we may just find out that is not about us at all.

It’s about the hard time they are dealing with at home, at the office, or in some other aspect of their life.

Suddenly we have evidence that it really wasn’t about us, or the subject of the discussion, it is about them and the difficulties they are going through.

Yet we would never get to that point if we did not give ourselves the benefit of the doubt and assume there is something else going on.

When we stop defending ourselves and assuming that the other person is against us we can transform the situation.

Being present and feeling the pain the other person is in not only helps us to feel better about ourselves, it helps diffuse the tension and energy of the situation and brings healing to everyone involved.

Isn’t that worth the effort to keep our hearts open?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Trusting Ourselves Is The Great Gift We Can Give The World

Trusting ourselves may be one of the hardest things to learn.

It is hard not because we are untrustworthy.

It is hard because of how we have interpreted our experiences throughout our life.

It is very common for us to feel that bad things happened to us because it was our fault.

We must have done something wrong for that bully to beat us up.

We must be wrong for wanting the things that we need as children yet didn’t receive.

There must be something really wrong with us for us to experience all that pain we felt.

We turn all the blame inwards not knowing how else to understand the world around us.

Yet as we unravel the traumas we experienced when we were young, we can begin to see that it was not our fault.

We are not to blame for other people doing bad things to us.

We are not to blame for losing people close to us.

We are not to blame for desiring to have our emotional and physical needs met.

Indeed, all it means is that we are human.

And if we are not to blame for how the world is around us, then we can trust ourselves more.

We can change the story around those experiences and learn that we are basically okay.

Our presence is a gift to others.

Our contributions are valuable.

Our point of view does matter.

And ultimately, there is no blame to go around, there is only the experience of life.

The magic is that once we start to truly trust ourselves, life will give us more reasons to do so.

The more we trust ourselves, the more we can trust ourselves.

And as we practice trusting ourselves, we can inspire others to trust themselves as well.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

The Sign Of True Evolution Is Accepting Our Family Without Judgment

As adults, our families are our biggest teachers.

Our family knows us better than anyone else.

Our family can trigger us in ways no one else can.

The way our family judges us means more to us than anyone else.

Yet how we choose to show up in the midst of all of that says more about us than any other situation.

It is a great opportunity to put our practices and our patience to work.

When those closest to us push our buttons, how we respond shows our maturity.

Who we are as individuals is revealed by our actions in these most trying situations.

We can forgive our friends and our co-workers for behavior that annoys us.

Can we do the same for our family?

Our family may still treat us as if we are 10 years old. Can we respond as if we are no longer 10 years old?

We stress over how our parents or our relatives act. We would prefer they change.

Can we learn to accept them exactly the way they are?

Can we be with our family without judgment even when they judge us?

Can we be kind to them even when they are not kind to us?

Can we be patient with them if when they are not patient with us?

The sign of our true evolution is when we can face those that we know better than anyone else on the planet, and still accept them without judgment and with love.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant