Trust Is Not About Thinking Trust Is About Feeling Our Way Through

One of the hardest things for us to do is trust ourselves.

We believe that we are not trust-worthy based on our history.

We feel that given the chance we will make the same mistakes again.

Yet, most of the time, when we look back the mistakes we made came from not truly trusting ourselves.

Something went wrong, and we think it’s our fault.

If we really focus on the details, most of the time we will find that something didn’t feel right, yet we still went forward because the was no hard evidence.

That’s where we didn’t trust ourselves.

We didn’t trust the signals that were coming from our bodies.

We didn’t trust our intuition.

We didn’t trust that life was signaling us the best way it could at the time.

We trusted our minds over everything else, and it didn’t turn out the way we expected.

Trust is not about thinking our way through something.

Trust is about noticing our feelings and believing without any other evidence, those feelings are true.

Our brains are actually lousy decision-making devices.

They are great for recording and measuring things.

Our bodies, our gut, our intuitive sense of life, is much better at feeling the way through to the right choice.

We are very trust-worthy when we use all that life has given us.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Our Monsters Are Here To Protect Our Innocence

We all have monsters within us.

We are taught to shun our monsters and keep them hidden.

This is because most people don’t really understand why the monsters are here.

By suppressing our monsters we allow them to fester in the unconscious.

And they will not stay there.

In time, all of our monsters come out.

Sometimes in positive ways, many times in damaging ways.

What we don’t understand is that our monsters are here to protect our innocence.

They are here because our inner child cannot deal with some harsh reality.

Perhaps it is some form of physical pain or emotional trauma that is too difficult to accept.

Perhaps it comes from the loss of a parent or person close to us.

Whatever the reason for the appearance of our monster, it is not here to destroy us.

It is here to help us. To protect us. To serve us.

Yet we have to mature and learn when we are ready to release our monsters.

Yes, they served us well and kept us from the pain.

Yet as we grow and face our pain, our monsters are no longer necessary.

We are no longer dependent on our monsters.

We can see them for what they are, be grateful to them for their service, and allow them to be integrated into our lives.

Our monsters are a part of us, yet they do not have rule over us.

When we are open to our monster’s messages, we can learn quite a lot about ourselves.

Our monsters are not that bad after all…

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

The Quality Of Our Energy Is More Important Than The Amount

We all talk about energy, usually about how much or how little we have.

We tend to think that we just need more energy so we can get more done.

Yet there is a lot more to energy than the amount.

Having too much energy can be as debilitating as not having enough energy.

More important than the amount of energy, is the quality of the energy.

When there is a high quality of energy inside of us and around us, we function more fully.

Yet what determines the quality of our energy?

The meaning we make from the source of the energy, or of the energy itself.

Is it a fun energy or a depressing energy?

Does the energy come from a friend or a foe?

Is the energy from competition or cooperation?

Does the energy feel erratic or smooth?

Are we able to take in the energy with grace or is it a battle?

Does the energy feel draining to us, or does it fill us up?

The meaning we make from the situations we all encounter come from our experience and our culture.

What one culture labels as bad another labels as good.

What is appropriate in the jungle may not be appropriate in the desert.

What feeds us when we are in nature may drain us in a big city.

Culture, context, meaning, it all plays a role in the story we make around energy.

What is the story you make around the energy in your life?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

The More We Push Against Our Trauma, The More It Persists

It is so common to push against the uncomfortable experiences of our lives.

We cut ourselves off from our trauma and our heartbreaks.

We look to “fix” and “resolve” those experiences and how they have affected us.

Yet the more we push against them the more they persist.

The more we separate ourselves from those experiences, the more energy we give to them.

For those aspects of our lives will always push back with an equal or greater force.

What we look to deny and disavow in our lives ends up defining our lives.

This is why the abused turn into abusers.

Is there a better way?

How about stopping the act of pushing against them and giving them space to breathe?

How about acknowledging those aspects of our lives, and allowing them to have a voice?

What would they say to you? Are there lessons there that we are not listening to?

Can we learn to feel the pain and not judge it?

We are so programmed to only feel those feelings that comfort and elate us.

Yet there are so many feelings that don’t, and we are taught to judge and deny those feelings.

And the more we deny them, the more trouble they will cause in our lives.

When we embrace them, dance with them, hold them without judgment or disdain, then we can process them and move beyond them.

The more we learn to allow all of the feelings that arise in our lives, the freer we become to live life fully.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant