Hate Is Not About Hatred

Hate is not about Hatred.

Anger is not about Rage.

Fear is not about Fright.

When we go deep enough, what underlies them all is pain and sadness.

When we are in pain we lash out. We lash out without thought and without understanding.

We may pick a specific target for our hate and anger, yet it is not about that specific target.

It is about our pain. And underneath that pain is a profound sadness.

In the moment, all we can feel is that if we cause someone or something else pain, it will take away ours.

Nothing is further from the truth.

Pain only causes more pain. To stop the pain, we must be present to it, we must allow it to run its course without stuffing it down.

We all have pain and we all feel pain, the difference is how we deal with it.

The most important thing is not to pass it on.

So let’s give ourselves some space to feel our pain, to feel our sadness, and to allow our bodies to process it with time.

Perhaps when we learn not to pass on our pain we will see less pain in the world.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Our personal power starts to end the moment we begin to blame someone or something else.

It does not matter what they did, or what happened to us, it only matters that we allow the circumstance to dictate our reaction.

Our power come from our presence and our ability to decide how we choose to respond to any given situation.

Blaming and making either someone else or the situation wrong, merely takes away our ability to move past it.

When we decide how we want to be in the situation regardless of the truth of it, then we are exercising our most important muscle.

It is the muscle of choice. It is the muscle of our spirit. It is the muscle of our divine right to create our life anew.

Resisting what is only causes us pain and keeps us stuck where we are.

To acknowledge the truth of the reality of the situation yet not allow the truth to dictate our behaviour the surest way to build our personal power.

Being present to a situation that is unpleasant is a choice. Being present with compassion and love for ourselves is one of the greatest choices we can ever make.

So let’s stop resisting the reality, let’s stop blaming anyone or anything else, and let’s focus on what we can do instead.

When we shift from blame to choice we empower ourselves beyond measure.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Community Is About The People Who Accept Us For Who We Are

Community is not about what we are born into.

Community is not about our neighborhood, our town, or our country.

Community is about the people we choose to be with.

Sometimes our community is in our neighborhood, sometimes it is spread across the globe.

People align with others for many reasons. Sometimes it is about a set of common values.

Sometimes it is about a common belief system.

And sometimes it is because of a group of shared experiences that form strong emotional ties.

We often shy away from community because when a small group of people know us so well it is hard to hide.

Yet we keep coming back to community because it is where we find the most support.

It is also where we find the greatest comfort.

When we are with the people who accept us for who we are without judgement, we find a sense of peace and calm that is very hard to find.

We are all part of one community or another. If you are not feeling the support from the community you are with, it’s time to find another one.

There are thousands upon thousands of communities out there. If you don’t find the one that’s right for you, create your own.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

We are programmed against change.

Our brains are hard-wired for keeping the status quo going.

Change is death. Change is Bad. Change is to be avoided.

Is it any wonder that change is so hard for us?

Yet, we no longer live in jungles where if we stray off the path we can be eaten by a tiger.

We (most of us) no longer roam the plains in search of our next meal as we fight off starvation.

We have the privilege now to reflect on our lives, work on ourselves, and change.

Yet in order to do that we must fight again generations and generations of instincts that tell us not to.

This is why so much effort is needed, especially when we are working from the outside, in.

When we work from the inside, out, we often find our results come quicker and last longer.

Getting comfortable with being uncomfortable is essential.

Practice being open to change in little ways first, then build on that.

See the change in yourself and in others, even where you don’t want to.

Recognizing change is one of the most important things we can do to reinforce the changes in ourselves.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant


We often hear people talk about finding their voice, but what exactly does that mean?

Our voice is not about how we pronounce our words.

Nor is it about about the content we share.

Finding our voice is about showing up, and through our actions and our language, convey that we are here and we have something to share.

It’s not about talking a lot, and it’s not about telling someone what to do.

It’s about courage. It’s about standing out from the crowd and allowing the light to shine on us for a few moments.

It’s definitely not about ego, or about how great we are.

It actually comes down to being humble, and brave, and sharing what we have learned for ourselves.

It is about showing up when we commit to showing up, and sharing our spirit and energy with those who chose to listen to us.

What we say may touch people, or it may not.

What we say may inspire people, or it may not.

What we say may mean something very deep to another person, or it may mean nothing at all to anyone except ourselves.

Finding our voice means we speak our truth regardless of whether it is anyone else’s truth or not.

We can speak our truth in many different ways. We speak our truth with our actions and our presence as much as we speak it with our voice.

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant