20171031

We often search for information in words, actions, movement, and whatever activity is taking place.

When we do this, we miss the richness and abundance of information that is in the silence.

There is a great deal to learn from silence. From how people show up in silence, from how things feel in the silence.

That gap, that little moment between words and responses, between action and reaction, can teach us so much.

Is there any nervousness in the air? Is there a tension, a pressure, or something pushing back in the silence?

Is there an ease, a flow, an openness, a spaciousness in the silence?

When we rush to fill in that space, we miss what that space is telling us.

How can we learn to pay attention to the silence? Wait. Practicing waiting to response or react. Take a breath, and feel into the moment. What are you feeling? What are you seeing? What is arising within us in that moment.

Silence is golden because there is such great value in it…

20171026

Human beings usually do not like to deal with, or allow chaos.

We like things orderly and neat, everything in its place. It makes for a more efficient workplace, and a less stressful home environment.

Yet, when we allow things to go a little crazy, when we allow some chaos into our orderly lives, it can bring tremendous transformation and change.

In an orderly environment, change happens slowly, if at all, and in very small incremental steps.

When we blow things up, create a mess, spread it out all over the place, then revolutionary new patterns can emerge. Then we can take a completely new and fresh perspective on issues we’ve been dealing with for years.

The mess gives us an opportunity to come up with that next great idea, that new relationship, that amazing insight.

Evolutionary growth is fine. Revolutionary leaps forward are rare and amazing!

20171024

People often speak about doing “shadow” work, healing their “shadow” and integrating their “shadow.”

What we often don’t realize is that the “shadow” is merely an indication of the light.

Without light coming from a specific direction, there is no shadow. As light shifts and changes its position, so too does the shadow shift and change.

We see this through a single sunny day. In the morning our shadows are long. As time progresses, the shadow shrinks, until the Sun is directly overhead, and then the shadow disappears altogether.

Then as the Sun continues its route, the shadow reappears, at first small, and then getting longer throughout the day, until the Sun sets, and then there is no more shadow until the next day.

So perhaps we should pay more attention to how our light is shining, instead of how long the shadow is?

Better yet, perhaps as we shine the light inside of ourselves, looking in the full brightness of our light at all aspects and sides of ourselves, we can come to love and accept all those little scared children inside of us, who are afraid of how we will treat them.

Perhaps more inner kindness, more inner acceptance, more inner awareness is all we need.

What if we were already perfect?

20171019

The wisdom of life is reflected all around us.

As there are seasons in our lives, there are the four seasons of the year.

As there is a cycle to our life, there is the reflection of the cycle of life all around us.

A flower starts from a seed, that is watered and nurtured until a plant springs up from the ground.

The plant grow from the earth, takes in water, air, and light to grow. Eventually we see buds start to form.

The buds grow larger and larger and then burst open. Before long a beautiful flower emerges.

The beautiful flower shares its fragrance and colors with the world. Then it starts to fade.

Then the flower is gone. All that remains is the memory of the beautiful flower.

And that is our life. Beautiful. Changing with the seasons. With a beginning and an end.

So let us share our beauty with the world while we are here. Knowing, as with all things, one day we will no longer be here.

That is life…

20171017

What if we assumed that the trauma we experience in our life was here to teach us instead of hurt us?

What if we decided that life was here to support us, support our soul’s development, and help us grow as people, instead of something to be conquered or fought against?

What if we could make a positive, empowering meaning out of everything we experience in our life, instead of feeling like a victim of circumstance?

Maybe life isn’t as harsh and brutal as we are sometimes led to believe. Maybe life is a great teacher that helps us to be more of who we really are, grow in ways we never could imagine, and become more evolved?

Our assumptions and our expectations shape our experience of life. The meaning we make from all the little, and great, things that we experience decides how we will feel about it, and how it will shape us.

We are individuals who experience life. How we choose to interpret what we live, is up to us.

What’s a more empowering interpretation you make of your own life?

20171012

We all strive to create community in our lives, one way or another.

First, we are part of the community that is our family. When the family unit is functioning well, it becomes our primal community.

When the family unit is not functioning well, or we feel disconnected or alienated from our family unit, we then seek to find community in our friendships.

Friendship can be a foundation for community, if there is enough common ground and aligned intent to stay together. Often there is not.

Some use religion to find community, with the promise of brotherhood and sisterhood to bind the group together. When we find too much hypocrisy in the religious organization, we leave that community disappointed.

As we progress and find more of what we truly believe in, we almost inadvertently start to attract people into our life that are more like-minded and like-hearted to us.

So the more we become individuals, the more we know ourselves and do the deep inner work, the more we find the very thing that has been so elusive throughout our life – community.

20171010

Does success in “the world” mean success in your life?

We have a tendency to measure our success by society’s standards.

Do we have a big house? A car? A spouse? Kids? And most importantly, a good paying job or a successful business?

Yet we can have all these things and still feel empty inside. We can have all these external trappings of a successful life and still feel unfulfilled, disconnected, and that we are not contributing to the world.

At the same time, we can have none of those symbols of society’s expectations, and still achieve inner peace, profound relationships, and create community among like-minded people and feel fulfilled and whole.

The real question is, what are our own standards by wish we measure success in our lives?

Is it knowing ourselves on a deep level? Is it having a life free of responsibility and being able to travel the world? Is it living close to the land and learning how to grow your own food and be self-sufficient?

Deciding what we want for ourselves, and not allowing the external world to dictate our dreams and our standards, is perhaps the most important form of success we can achieve.

20171005

We often have expectations of life that don’t manifest quite the way we expect.

We expect to have a normal life, yet challenges that appear in our life transform our path into an amazing journey.

We expect to have a comfortable life, yet the ups and downs of life bring us to places we would never normally tread, and especially the downs teach more about ourselves than anything else.

We expect certain people to always be around, until they’re not, and the sense of loss or abandonment shows us how to appreciate those that are still in our life even more.

We expect to have a certain career or job path, and then our industry gets decimated by a new app or we get laid off in middle age forcing us to reinvent ourselves in a manner we could never have foreseen.

Life is rarely what we expect of it, and that’s okay. The mystery of life is what causes us to grow, to find ourselves, and to learn more deeply what it means to be human, sentient, and conscious.

How has life surprised you?

20171003

When we work with others, as a profession, vocation or avocation, we sometimes think it’s all about them.

Actually, it’s all about us.

When we work with a group, whether it’s our tribe, our following or our bowling league, the group has come together because of common energy. The issues that arise are issues for everyone, in some way, not just an issue for the one person that triggers it.

It does not matter if you’re a workshop facilitator, a healer, a shaman, an athletic coach, a teacher, or an executive consultant, the faces may look different, the clothes (or uniforms) may be far apart, yet the underlying energies and patterns are still present.

If we find ourselves getting annoyed at someone in the group who is not contributing or not participating fully, then we must ask ourselves, How are we not contributing or participating?

When we find someone not doing their own work or not doing their homework, how are we not doing our own work?

The group reflects the individual and the individual reflects the group. It cannot be any other way or we would not be with that particular group, or they would not be with us.

The issues may not be directly correlated, perhaps someone is cheap with you because your are cheap with yourself or your family, even though you are generous with your friends. We just need to learn to be more figurative in our interpretations, not quite so literal.

It is not easy to see our own nonsense reflected back to us from other people. In fact, one of the hardest lessons to learn is that it’s all our nonsense, in some manner, that we are being triggered by.

If it wasn’t, it wouldn’t trigger us…