20170928

On the path to trust, we first come across acceptance.

Ultimately, we all want to develop that deep sense of trusting ourselves. The first step is to accept ourselves.

We start by learning to accept ourselves as human – which means we make mistakes, we’re not perfect, nor do we have to be.

We learn to then accept ourselves as perfect – yes, we are fallible, and we are also perfect in who we are. There is no one else quite like us, we are unique and perfect in our imperfections. We are the best manifestation of our spirits that we can be.

We then learn to accept ourselves as we are – if we could do better, we would, always!

Which leads us to accepting ourselves without judgment – we are not good, we are not bad, we are who we are and we make the best choices and decisions we could possibly make given our personality, our history and our experiences. We can do no better and no worse than we already are.

The amazing thing is how all this leads up to – accepting others as they are. We may not trust them, we may not like them, we may not want to be in their presence (and nothing says you have to), and you can still accept that they are who they are, and they are doing the best that they can.

And what kind of world would we be living in if we trusted our ability to accept things just as they are? That does not mean we don’t strive to make things better, yet we can accept that things are the way they are without judgment and still work towards evolving, awakening, and creating a better world for us all…

20170926

Trusting ourselves is one of the greatest challenges, especially if we are conscientious.

Because we know all the things we have done wrong in the past, because we are acutely aware of all of our impure motivations, because we are keenly sensitive to all the harsh judgments we have witnessed our whole lives, trust in oneself may be hard to come by.

Can we trust ourselves enough not to second guess our choices?

Can we trust ourselves enough to know that our intentions are good, if not pure?

Can we trust ourselves enough to believe in our dreams even when no one else does?

Can we trust ourselves enough to keep going when everything seems to be against us?

Trust is built slowly, one baby step at a time. First, let’s start with trusting ourselves that we are showing up the best that we can.

Then, let’s trust ourselves to walk the path in front of us, first slowly, then trusting we can pick up the pace.

Then, how about we learn to trust not only our choices and our decisions, but our ideas, our connections, and our leadership as well?

We can build trust in ourselves, if we are willing to start small, count every little victory, and then keep our focus on all the things we do right.

Repeat after me, “I trust myself!”

20170921

The inter-connection of the the tribe is much deeper deeper than we normally perceive.

We usually just consider that the leader leads the tribe, and the tribe follows. If the leader does well, the tribe does well.

Yet there is something much deeper happening that we don’t often see.

It is not just about how the leader is, nor is it about the state of the tribe, the reflection of the leader in each member of the tribe, and the reflection of each member in the leader, is far more intertwined.

In fact, if we look closely enough, over a long enough period of time, everything happening within each member of the tribe, every dream, every accomplishment, every fault, every fear and every trauma, plays out in the relationship of the leader to the tribe.

So does every aspect of the leader’s psyche get played out in the tribe’s relationships not just with the leader, but with each other as well.

Indeed, as we all have massive collections of neurons in our brains that collectively add up to make one whole mind, the collection of tribe members add up to be one whole unit that reflects the leader’s soul.

The real question then becomes, did the leader’s presence call the tribe into being, or did the tribe’s being call in the leader’s presence?

And who evolves first? Does the leader grow as the tribe evolves, or does the tribe grow as the leader evolves?

This tight relationship between leader and tribe is always there, regardless of the type of tribe or the type of leader.

Whether we are part of the tribe or whether we are the leader (and we are all both in some aspect), it is our responsibility to evolve and grow and support each other, so the other may evolve and grow and support us as well.

So who is your tribe? Who are you leading? And are you evolving?

20170919

Feeling home is not about where you are or a particular house or apartment.

Feeling home is not (necessarily) about being with relatives or childhood friends.

Feeling home is about much more than familiarity or comfort.

Feeling home is actually about safety, connection and like-heartedness.

We generate that internal feeling of belonging, of completeness, of joy when we are with those who uplift us, who accept us as we are, and who support us with all our failings.

Home may be where the heart is, yet if there is no one to share that heart with, then home is a lonely place indeed.

We are home with our tribe, with those whom we resonate with, with those whom we can share space with without having to say a word.

Home is that indescribable feeling that no words can do justice to, yet we all know it when we feel it.

When was the last time you felt Home, and what can you do to cultivate that feeling now?

20170914

Community is not about where we live, it’s about who we feel connected to.

Traditionally, we tend to think of our community, our tribe, in terms of proximity – those who live closest to us. Our community was thought of as the people in our neighborhood, our village, or our city.

Today, location is less important than connection, alignment and values.

Our tribe are the people who think like us, who value the same things in life as we do, or who enthralled by similar interests.

Our tribe may be in our neighborhood, or they may be spread out throughout the globe, located in far off countries.

Borders have less meaning than they used to. Now, who we are as a person speaks more to others than our backgrounds or our politics.

Is your tribe local or global? Virtual or In Person? Does it matter?

20170912

Taking time to remember our ancestors is not something we do for them, it is for ourselves.

Our parents, grandparents, and even great-grandparents all had lives that were lived in very different times, yet their experience, their stories, their lineage all add to the fabric of our own existence.

Did they come from overseas? Did they lose their families in the war? Were they successful or did they work long and hard for not much recognition?

Their DNA is in our bodies. Their names live on in our hearts. Their trauma, their joy and their accomplishments all contributed to who we have become.

By remembering them, reflecting on what they endured and what they celebrated it gives us a stronger foundation upon which to build. We stand on their shoulders and we see greater heights because of what they did. Even the things that they thought were insignificant may have played a big role in shaping who we eventually grew into.

So let’s take some time to remember them, to honor them, and recognize how even if we never met them in person, they have influenced our lives in ways beyond our imagination. Let’s all learn to be a little more grateful for those who came before us.

20170907

When we give ourselves space, space to rest, space to grow, space to explore, or space to know ourselves, we can allow our magic to come out.

When we keep ourselves so busy, rushing from place to place, constantly engaged in activity, filling up every moment of our day with something to achieve or accomplish, there is no room to find our magic.

While it may be important to focus on certain tasks while working on projects and our careers, it is equally important to rest in between and give ourselves a break so our minds and our souls have a chance to play and explore.

We are not at our best when we are stressed out, harried, and distracted. We are not creative when our minds are so full of all the daily tasks to accomplish that we cannot daydream and toy with fanciful ideas.

Breakthroughs happen at the most unexpected times. Giving ourselves the space and time to allow those breakthroughs to show up naturally, on their own, is essential to allowing our true genius to shine through…

20170905

There is really only one way to understand the world around us.

Many people have come up with all kinds of theories about why things are the way they are, how things got this way, and what to make of it all.

These ideas can be helpful, yet all we really have to do to understand the world around us is to truly understand ourselves.

Not in a superficial, ego-centered fashion that makes everything all about us.

To understand ourselves in a primal, emotive way, that reveals our deepest fears and our highest aspirations. When we can be truly honest with ourselves about what we desire and what motivates us, them we can begin to see the same desires and motivations being played out before our eyes.

When we admit to ourselves our trauma, our most ferocious fears, and our most terrifying nightmares, then we can begin to tame the violence we see around us within our own heart.

As we come to terms with all of these aspects of ourselves, and more, we begin to come to terms with all the outward manifestations of these energies.

When we find the peace within us, we move through life in peace.