20170831

Commitment is about much more than just making a decision.

Yes, it starts with a decision, a decision that has been weighed carefully, outcomes considered, and the responsibilities that go with the commitment.

All too often we commit to something without truly considering the implications. Once the full consequences of the commitment are revealed, we then retreat and often end up breaking our commitment.

When we start taking our commitments more seriously, as something sacred, we may not get into them so easily, and when we do, our word is our bond and we fully live up to it.

If we find we are having a hard time living up to all of our commitments, that is the time to examine how we enter into our commitments, and whether we are truly reflecting on what it mean to make a commitment in the first place.

We can all do better around our commitments if we just take our time before entering them, really reflect upon them, and only commit when it is in alignment with our heart and our spirit.

20170829

When we allow others to be who they are, without having to change them or get them to believe what we believe, we actually give ourselves more freedom to be who we are.

What calls to us to change in others is merely a reflection of what we desire to change within ourselves.

It might not seem directly applicable, yet in some way the very things that annoy us about someone else, that irk us about someone else, that cause us to cringe when we think about this other person, are the very same hidden dark corners of our psyche that we feel are untenable.

We usually think it’s all about the other person. It’s not. It’s always about us. If we didn’t have that irritating thorn in our own side that causes us pain when someone else reflects it back to us, then those traits would not annoy us at all.

It is only because those characteristics hit home and ring true within us, that we have a reaction at all.

No, it’s not about them. Yes, it is always about us.

Maybe not directly, maybe not in the same way or about the thing, yet it is there, somewhere, lurking in the recesses of our mind.

Now that we know that, can we be a bit more compassionate for others?

20170824

It is easy to fall into the trap that there are “others” in this world.

Those who do not think the way we do, those who do not talk the way we do, those who do not believe the way we do.

We separate ourselves from other people where we see differences.

The truth is that we are more alike than we are different, we have more in common than divides us.

For we are all people, on one planet. We are one human race, one species, and are members of one global society.

When we learn to take that larger perspective, we will realize that we are all connected, if not in daily life, then by the very molecules that make up bodies, that come from stars that exploded long before we were born.

20170822

Control in our lives is something we often strive for, yet in fact it is not attainable.

We think we can control our circumstances, in reality we cannot.

We think we can control other people, in reality we never can.

We think we can control the environment, in reality the environment is much greater and grander than we can imagine.

When it all comes down to it, the only thing we can control is our responses to what life brings and the choices we make.

And in the end, that is the most important control we can have.

20170817

Cleaning House is about much more than just straightening up our living environment.

How we take care of our home, the place we sleep at night and the location of our possessions, is a reflection of something much deeper.

Of course, we “clean house” with much more than our home. We can clean house with our mailing list, our Facebook friends, our desk at the office, and just about anything that accumulates items over time.

So what does it really mean when we Clean House?

It’s actually about our identity, how we see ourselves, and how we feel about ourselves and our life.

Cleaning up and straightening out our environment is symbolic for cleaning up our life, our self-image, our hopes and dreams.

If our home is a chaotic place, chances are our life is chaotic. If our home is messy, chances are our life is messy. If our home is sparkling clean with everything perfectly in it’s place, chances our are life is just as clean and rigid.

Are you feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or lost? Trying cleaning up your home, one corner at a time, and see how much better you feel by the time you finish.

After all, we all deserve a home, a life, that supports our vision and our dreams.

20170815

Learning the rules is important, for many reasons.

When you learn the rules of the game, any game including life, you understand how to interact with people, what’s acceptable, and what’s not.

If you pay attention, you also learn about how the game is structured, what the game is all about, and whether this is a game you want to play or not.

You then learn when to break the rules, bend the rules, or simply ignore the rules. Of course, there are consequences to all three actions, and sometimes that’s just fine.

Ultimately, it’s all about how we show up and learn about ourselves in relation to the rules. Are you a rule follower? A rule Bender? A rule Breaker? Or are you someone who would just rather play another game entirely.

The choice is always yours, if the rules allow it…

20170810

Blessings often come in the most unusual ways, at the most unusual times.

Sometimes they don’t even look like blessings.

It might look like an accident, that causes us to think more about our health and take better care of our bodies.

It might look like a devastating breakup that causes us to look inward and begin some deep inner work instead of look for happiness in someone else.

It might look like the loss of a job or career that causes us to re-examine our choices, and causes us to start a whole new path, a new business, create a non-profit that becomes a movement, or a whole host of other possibilities.

Of course, at the time, they don’t appear to be blessings at all. They seem to be daunting challenges that could break us.

It takes time to gain the perspective to see how these events will truly unfold in our lives. We so often focus on the immediate, that we don’t have a clue how the long term effect will manifest.

So how do we get through the challenges to see if they are truly blessings? Drop the judgment. Wait 24 hours. And then another day. Always save the judgment for tomorrow.

As we know, tomorrow never comes, yet with time we do gain perspective.

20170808

Grief is a part of life.

We grieve when we lose someone. We grieve when when we lose something that is dear to us. It is normal to grieve.

Grief and death are not normally spoken about until we do lose someone. That is something we can change.

We have a tendency to ignore one of the most important aspects of life, the fact that it will one day end. It is as if by ignoring it we feel that we won’t have to deal with it when it does come.

That strategy never really works so well. The time to talk about death and loss is before it happens. To prepare ourselves for that eventuality only serves us to help to deal with it when that day comes.

Death does not have to be feared. Indeed, according to the laws of thermodynamics, energy cannot be created nor destroyed, it merely changes state.

That is what death is, a change of state. The person may be with us physically anymore, yet they can still live on in our hearts, in our memories, and in our spirit.

How we choose to honor them after they pass is up to us. The fact that one day we will all leave this physical existence, no matter how long we extend it, is not.

So let’s learn to celebrate and honor it before it comes knocking on our door.

20170803

Loss is something we all deal with.

Whether it is the loss of a friend, a parent, a loved one, or even a home, we all deal with loss some time in our lives.

The loss itself is not usually the hard part, it tends to happen in an instant, what is the challenge is dealing with the aftermath of the loss.

How do we process the fact that this person is no longer with us? What do we do with all the emotions and pain we feel at the loss of our job, our career, or our marriage?

There is not right or wrong way to deal with loss. There are, however, some perspectives that can help us to move forward and continue in the wake of loss.

First, let us remember that energy is neither created nor destroyed, it merely transforms state.

Second, let us remember that nothing, absolutely nothing, is permanent in the world.

Third, although our external world may continue to constantly change beyond our control, who we are on the inside and how we choose to deal with it, is completely up to us.

Feel like crying, go ahead. Feel like celebrating someone’s life, go ahead. Feel like being alone, go ahead. Feel like being with people, go ahead.

However you choose to deal with loss in your life is up to you. If we choose to celebrate it instead of morn it, perhaps we can gain some insight from the loss.

It is okay to grieve. It is also okay not to feel the need to grieve as well.

20170801

It is courageous to take a step on a new, untried path.

Yes, it is simpler and easier to walk down the same old road, keep doing things the way you always have, and just leave well enough alone.

If we want to create something of value, of relevance, of worth, to give the world our greatness, then playing it safe just doesn’t cut it.

Yes, it is scary. Yes, it is hard. Yes, it is not what most people do. And that is why we must do it.

To truly contribute to people’s lives we must show up. We must display our commitment to growth by keeping our commitment to be bold, to be different, to be honest.

We may fail. We may crash and burn. There is no safety in traveling down a new path. And we may find diamonds there. We may find treasure beyond our imagination. We may find insight that opens a whole new world to us.

Of course you can decide to play it safe, and no one will ever know that you didn’t take that precarious step into the unknown. Except for one person…yourself.

The world is waiting for you…