Relationships are such tricky things.

We come to them with all sorts of expectations, ideas, and history, yet we seem to keep repeating the same patterns.

We search for someone who is completely different form that last disastrous person we had a relationship with, only to find out after a few weeks (or sooner) that our new partner is just the same or worse!

So what’s going on with that?

Whenever we look for answers outside of ourselves, we will always end up disappointed. Especially with relationships, as it’s never really about the other person, it’s about us.

People are wonderful mirrors for what is going on inside of us, we just don’t often realize it.

When we stop making it about the other person and start looking inside ourselves, we find the clues and patterns that underlie the repeating patterns.

It’s not easy, and it is definitely not for those who have a hard time being honest with themselves.

For the person who gets it, who looks inside instead of blaming the other person, a whole new world of empowered relationships await!


Appreciation is one of the most powerful tools we have to make a change.

All too often we find ourselves wishing things weren’t as they are. We want the world to be different, the economy to be different, our partner to be different.

We blame our unhappiness on the situations around us, and make it someone or something else’s fault we’re stuck or in a bad way.

Actually, it is our resistance to the way things are that is causing us the most trouble. It is our insistent desire that things should just be different and the non-acceptance of how things are that cause us grief and pain.

What do we do to change it? Having appreciation for the world around us, for everything, for the people, for the economy, for life itself, is one of the surest ways to shift our energy, and thereby, shift our whole perspective.

Learning to see how we can be grateful for everything that surrounds us, is a discipline whose dividends pay off for years to come, as well changing our current state.

So let’s be grateful for the cloudy days, the holes in our socks, and the under-cooked meal. After all, what’s more important, the world around us or how we feel about it?


Moving forward in life is often not about making more money, taking a new job, starting a new business, or going back to school.

Moving forward often has more to do with that internal process of recognizing more and more of our own power.

It is easy to forget that we create our life, in a million different, little ways. We create our lives by the choices we make, by how we respond to life, and by where we decide to place our focus.

We move forward in life when we bring more consciousness to any of these aspects of our lives.

Are we being more conscious in our choices? Are we being more conscious in our responses? Are we being more conscious of where we are allowing our focus to go?

These may not seem like big steps, indeed they may only be baby steps in our lives, yet as one step piles on top of the other, they soon have a gigantic effect on our life.

So let’s move forward together, one baby step at a time, bringing more consciousness and more awareness into our lives…


Awakening to our dreams and purpose can be both invigorating and scary.

We all desire to know what our true purpose is, what dreams we really want to fulfill in our lives, and what Life desires from us.

Yet once we know, it can be daunting and frightening.

We are not often prepared for what greatness Life sees within us that we don’t already recognize. We shy away from shining bigger, brighter and more full when we have been used to going at half power.

How do we step into our greatness, awaken to a fuller potential, and shine brighter when the very thought of it causes us to quake in our boots?

The key is to focus on the dream, on the passion, and on the feeling of what it will be like to fulfill these visions.

As we learn to allow ourselves to be pulled towards the higher path instead of pushing ourselves up the mountain, we find that life is willing to do much more of the work than we first thought.

Trust your visions, your dreams, and your purpose. They have been given to you to empower you.


Life often presents us with a choice – to choose ourselves or to choose someone else.

It comes in ways that are not often obvious. Are we choosing to take care of ourselves or others? Are we choosing to support our own projects or someone else’s vision?

It often feels easier to choose someone else, to support their business, their venture, their dream in exchange for money now.

When we choose ourselves, our vision, our dreams, the money often takes longer to come. Immediate gratification is hard to resist.

Yet, when we do choose our dreams, our vision, our project, the rewards are often many fold and greater. It is not just about immediate vs delayed gratification, but about minor growth vs greater growth.

It takes courage to choose yourself. It takes vision to choose yourself. It takes belief in yourself to choose yourself.

So let’s choose ourselves and practice having the courage, having the vision, having the support we all crave…


Some things are just beyond our control.

Yes, we do create our reality, to a point.

Yes, we do have complete control over how we respond to the world around us.

Yet things happen in the world that ultimately are beyond our control to do anything about. That’s when we learn how to surrender.

Surrendering is not about giving up. It’s about understanding our place in the universe and seeing where we can do something that has an effect, and where we can’t.

That is the time we learn to develop trust or faith.

As humans, we cannot see the full implications to our own actions, let alone the actions of others or of nature. Our perception is limited, and we are not omniscient.

Learning to be okay with that helps to make our lives easier, and allows us to enjoy the ride. When we enjoy the ride, we show up from a more empowered place.


Expansion happens sometimes explosively, and sometimes slowly.

There are those moments when we are thrust into our expansion not by design or by choice, but by life itself.

We may not think we are ready. Life does.

We may not think we have everything figured out. Life does.

We may not know exactly what we’re supposed to do. Life does.

When we expand because we are answering life’s call, we do not need all the answers. We do not need much of anything, except to accept it, and step up.

Accepting that now is the time, just because Life says so, can be the most liberating attitude. If we allow Life to guide us, to trust Life, and to respect Life enough that we show up and play fully, then we can watch as miracles happen.

Is Life calling you to step up?


It is okay in the moment to feel stressed, overwhelmed, or beyond your capacity. We all do sometimes, and it normally comes when we are in the middle of a growth spurt.

Things happen, sometimes unexpectedly, that cause us to have to deal with situations we don’t normally have to deal with. Our abilities are put to the test, and our strengths and weaknesses rise to the surface.

It is at these times that we discover what we are truly capably of, as well what we are not. This is important, as the two are not normally exactly what we think we can and can’t do.

We are often surprised, one way or the other, at how we got through those tough times, what kind of support we needed and received, and what resources where there that we never recognized.

That’s a big part of growing. Seeing what we once couldn’t see about ourselves.

We don’t usually like those situations, we don’t go looking for them on purpose, and yet when they find us, we are made anew. So let’s not resist or shy away from these amazing opportunities. Let’s learn to embrace them and love them with the passion they deserve.


Building a bridge from where we are to our dreams can feel daunting and impossible at times.

Especially when the unexpected strikes, we have a hard time seeing how to move forward and get through our current challenges.

This is the time when trust and community are most important.

Trust, that for even though we can’t see how our vision can come into being, life has a way to allow it to happen. We need to keep our focus on the what, and allow the universe to show us the how.

Community, for it is in the most difficult times that the community around us wants to support us, help us, and be there for us.

Not that Community is there to do it for us, but to encourage us that even though we can’t see the bridge that will take us to our vision, it is there and it is just one step in front of us.

When it is darkest, when the clouds are so thick you can only see one step in front of you, that one step is all you need to take. One foot in front of the other, slowly, carefully, we move forward.

And when the clouds lift and the dawn comes, we find that not only have we been walking on the bridge the whole time, we are actually almost over to the other side!