It is not uncommon for our childhood traumas to have a hold on us throughout our lives.

What most of us don’t realize is that we can transform, change and re-imagine those traumatic times as adults, and find ways to make those moments serve us instead of cripple us.

The important thing to remember is that when those memories were formed, we were but children, seeing the world as a child sees the world.

Since then, we have matured, gained experience and insight that allows us to see the world quite differently. The world we live in as adults is not the world we lived in as children.

So how do we change those memories? We don’t. We change our interpretation of those memories instead.

You see, it is not what we experienced so many years ago that makes such an impact on our lives today, but the meaning we make around it. It is the stories we’ve told ourselves since then about ourselves, about people, and about the world around us that still shapes our world today.

So let’s go back, visualize those experiences, feel what we felt and see what we saw then. Now, let’s look at the meaning we made from those experiences. What different meaning could we make from the experiences instead? What empowering, inspiring meaning can come from those exact same events?

Do they now show us how strong we are? How loved we are? How resilient we are? How much love we have in our hearts that those events did not turn us into a darker person?

When we remake the meaning behind those fundamental experiences we had as young children, we can remake our entire world.


We don’t like to sit in our discomfort, whether it’s physical, emotional, or spiritual.

In fact, we usually do just about anything to get out of it.

There’s nothing wrong with that, it’s perfectly natural.

Yet there is something valuable to learn from our discomfort. Perhaps there’s a situation we need to deal with better. Perhaps there’s a relationship that needs some attention, or a physical issue that we haven’t taken care of.

Sometimes, when we allow ourselves to really feel the discomfort, we can gain insight or clarity from it. Sometimes it is a lesson to be learned that we will not soon forget.

We don’t have to force ourselves into the discomfort, but rather just allow what is there to arise and be present with it.

What is our discomfort trying to tell us? What is the message we have not yet heard? What is it that we are not listening to?

We do not have to endure agonizing pain to learn our lessons. We do have to be present to what is already here and allow it to teach us what we have not yet been willing to learn.


Knowing what to do, knowing how to do it, and actually executing on what you want to do are three entirely different things.

Is it important to know what to do? Absolutely!

Do we need to know how to do it? Of course!

Is executing on what it is you really want to do the same thing? Definitely not!

Sometimes we get too caught up in the figuring it out stages and forget that we can have all the best intentions, all the best ideas, and all the best know-how, but without taking action and actually working on the goal, it is all just a mental game.

Even if you are not quite 100% clear on the what, even if you’re not quite how to go about doing it, if you start working on it, if you start by just doing the very first step that’s right in front of you, the what and how will be clearer over time.

Just taking that first step, writing the first paragraph, creating the first outline, making the first phone call, hammering the first nail, planting the first seed, seeing that first client, just doing the very basic first step is the most important action you can take.

Because then the next step becomes obvious. We’ve broken the barrier to begin and overcome inertia. Movement created momentum, and momentum creates our destiny!


Seeing what we don’t want to see about ourselves is some of the hardest work we can do.

Self-examination, self-reflection, and self-analysis is key to truly knowing ourselves. It’s not easy. and it’s not for the timid. It is easy to fool ourselves and believe that we are better than we really are.

It takes true courage and true strength to be raw and vulnerable, especially to ourselves.

None of us want to admit to ourselves that our motives are not so pure, that our desires are more base than we thought. Yet without that inner inspection, without that courageous vision to see ourselves as we truly are and not as we want to be, we cannot change.

We get blindsided by our own faults, our own flaws when we refuse to see them. Others can trick us and get to us through those little hidden dark places we refuse to examine.

It’s not so much about fixing ourselves, although that will happen as well. It’s about shining the light so we can see ourselves more clearly, bring a higher awareness of ourselves, so we can then watch for those little traps that keep us from being true to our ideals and our real spiritual identity.


Listening to pain is one of the most informative things we can do.

We don’t like it, we don’t want it, and yet pain is one of our greatest allies. It lets us know that there is something that needs our attention, and it is time to take of it.

Pain is that big flashing neon billboard that calls us into action to make a change, to practice self-care, to pay attention.

Pain does not come to us merely for pain’s sake. It is here to deliver a message. It grabs our attention and smacks us around a little until we listen to the message. Not listening? Then it’s going to smack us around some more until we do.

The truth is, when pain comes around, it is usually because of something we know we should be taking care of, but aren’t.

Have we been exercising enough? Have we been paying attention to our diet enough? Is our physical/emotional/spiritual health where we want it to be?

The sooner we pay attention and take action, the sooner the pain goes away…


Making the first steps onto a new path are always the scariest.

The path is unknown, the consequences are unknown, and the outcomes are unknown.

That must not stop us from taking those first few steps. With each new step, the path becomes less treacherous, more familiar, and soon we gain confidence.

All great work starts with with one step onto an unknown path. The road traveled by many yields no new insights, no new secrets.

It is only when we have the courage to step outside the well-trodden path that we find treasures no one else found. When we explore new territory, we become rich in experience and knowledge.

Don’t deny the world your courage, for it is in that courage that you spark the hearts and minds of those around you, and that is where real change lies.

Do the great work, the hard work, the important work, for it is in the unknown that we truly get to know ourselves.


Seeing new possibilities is an art that is developed over time.

We like to think that we are open to new ideas, new places, new people, new ventures, when in fact we are normally creatures of restriction and limitation.

It takes time to focus on expanding our vision and seeing opportunity where before we saw obstacles. It is not natural in our society, so we must cultivate this skill until it does become second nature.

Seeing the new possibilities is like being a child again and having the imagination to see a whole world in just a pile of plastic blocks, or a dinosaur in a lump of play dough.

It takes playing and letting our minds wander though the endless labyrinths of fantasy and fiction, to create new connections and new appreciation for the empty spaces.

How much time do you allow yourself to play?


What does it mean to see yourself as a spiritual being?

It’s not about halos and harps, or wings and magic wands.

It’s about seeing yourself as something greater than just your physical, mental and emotional self.

It’s about being aware of the energetic side of life, the ebb and flow of our energy, the energetic implications of our thoughts, words, deeds and actions.

Mostly, when we recognize that we are more than just this physical body, we come to an understanding that how we feel about ourselves, how we treat ourselves, and how we talk to ourselves, is as important as what we do.

We learn to nurture ourselves, to support ourselves, to make a meaning of life that is loving and gentle to ourselves. Is that not the way you would treat an Angel?

When we recognize ourselves as spiritual beings, we see our limitless possibilities, our power, and our infinite capacity to love…