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Stillness is something we achieve internally. Peace is not about our surroundings, it is about our heart.

Many times we feel that tranquility can only be achieved in monasteries and mountaintops. Yet when we achieve the peace inside, it doesn’t matter if we are in the middle of Times Square or the Alps.

Our projection onto the environment around us causes us to lose balance. Our attachments to things being one way or another causes grief around those very same objects.

It is not about detachment, as it is about non-judgment. Can we learn to accept the honking car as no better or worse than a tree?

Can we learn to see a skyscraper as equal to a waterfall?

Making one thing better than another causes us to loose sight ofthe fact that there is good and bad in everything. There is positive and negative in all that surrounds us.

Where is our focus? Where is our appreciation of the light and the dark?

Just as the Yin-Yang symbol has both within each other, it is incomplete without both aspects.

When we truly accept in our heart that all of this is necessary for the universe to unfold perfectly, then we achieve true peace and harmony.

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Chaos is all around us. It takes on many forms and many manifestations. Chaos is not the problem. Our response to chaos is.

Do we roll with it? Do we try to change it? Do we allow it to move us in new directions? Or do we just try to ignore it?

Many think that power comes from forcing chaos to conform to their will. This usually leads to some very unpleasant results.

Real power comes from knowing how to surf with chaos, riding the waves that take us to some unknown destination. Yes, it can be difficult to surrender to the power of chaos.

Yet when we do, we can allow life to propel us forward at amazing speeds, past untold challenges, to someplace unimagined.

Chaos brings change, and with it, exposure to the depths of our imagination. That is not something to force, but to revel in.

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When deciding on the meaning of a given situation, we always make it about ourselves.

Whether other people are involved or not, our minds believe we are the center of the universe and everything revolves around us.

Even when someone gets upset at us for no reason, we think we did something wrong, that somehow they know how we cheated or lied, that we’ve been caught at something.

In fact, it was not about us but about them. They had a bad morning, someone stepped on their foot, they just found out they have a medical issue, or some other unfortunate news.

They were never really upset at us, they were upset at something else in their life. When this is not evident we automatically assume it’s all about us.

Making meaning from the event and experiences around us is what we do.

When we realize that the meaning we make often has nothing to do with the reality of the situation, we are free to change the meaning we make from one that disempowers us to one that empowers us.

When we watch our minds and access our meaning making internal devices, then we can create wonderful new interpretations that show us how the universe is conspiring to help us, support us and lift us up.

How does that sound as a way to make meaning from life?

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To feel our true power takes courage.

Not the kind of courage you’d think you would need.

You need the courage to feel your heart.

Power, like truth, without compassion can be cruel. Yet the real power that is beyond force lies in our ability to come face-to-face with our own soul.

Most people think of the soul as something only light and loving. Yet something as deep and complex as our soul holds so much more. It holds our darkness, as much as our light.

To face that darkness takes real power, real inner strength, a real commitment to know oneself. That is the truest form of courage there is.

And from that comes true strength.

20170316

Changing our habits takes effort. It also takes something more.

To truly change, it is not about the external movements we make. It is about something more, something deeper.

All change happens in our hearts first. It’s something we feel on the inside, that then radiates out. If not, then the change does not last.

It is common for us to focus on the external behaviors, not the internal dialogue, not the why we feel about ourselves. Yet, our shifting our feelings first, is the start of a process that carries us all the way.

Making change can be discouraging when we work on the external first.

Let’s choose to work on the internal first. Let’s decide the come into alignment first with the change we want to see in ourselves, then we take action.

When we do that, the action flows. It feels like less effort. It becomes more natural. And then the change we make is long lasting…

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When we hold things inside, especially for a long period of time, and suppress our true feelings, we get wound up like a tight spring.

After a while, we get so used to being tense, on edge, and guarded.

Our bodies hold the tension, and to us it just feels normal. Until we start to do our work and we begin to unwind.

The unwinding process gets messy, awkward, and even painful, yet it is a necessary step to health and healing. We can’t skip that step, as much as we would like to.

Often times, the unwinding looks and feels like a falling apart. Physically, emotionally, and spiritually, as the repressed energy surfaces, it can be a bit scary for us and the people around us.

If we trust the process and stay with it, the other side of that disastrous-looking time emerges, and with it, peace and a new sense of self.

We can’t stop because we feel worse than before. We can’t shortchange ourselves. Life is calling us forth to heal, and if there wasn’t something better on the other side, we wouldn’t be going through the messy times.

Revel in the mess, for the other side is not just relief, but joy.

20170309

You matter in the world.

It may not seem like it some of the time, yet you do.

You matter to your family, your friends, your acquaintances.

You matter to your business, your job, your industry.

You matter to your neighborhood, your town, your city, your state, your country.

You matter because it takes every drop to fill a bucket of water. You matter because your unique expression, your voice, your ideas, your presence enriches life itself.

There is no one quite like you. There is no one who can fully take your place.

There is no one who can be another you!

Share yourself. Speak up for yourself. Let us know you exist and you have something to say. Most of all, let us see your heart, your soul, and your spirit in your message.

Let it inspire us, move us and inform us in a way that no one else can.

You matter.

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We often react to the actions and words of people around us as something to do with us.

We analyze, interpret, make judgments and choices based on what we think the person’s intentions are for us around those words or actions.

The truth we all know, yet often forget, is that what the other person says or does has little to do with us personally. It is almost always about what is going on inside of them.

Our ego has a hard time conceiving that the universe does not revolve around us, yet on a practical, day-to-day level, nothing is further from the truth.

In everyone’s own mind, the universe revolves around them, not us.

So that time that person shouted at you for being rude, it really wasn’t about you being rude. Or when that person in the car cut you off in traffic, it really wasn’t personal. Or perhaps someone yelled at you for no reason at all, that definitely was all about them, not about you.

The thing is, we all do that. That knowledge can help make us more patient, more understanding, and more tolerant of other people’s actions and words. Doesn’t it?

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Being different from others is not always easy.

Thinking differently, acting differently, even speaking differently causes those who are not comfortable with themselves to experience something they are not used to.

We get picked on, made fun of, and even ostracized for just being who we are. It is easy to internalize those experiences and feel like there is something wrong with us.

To be strong means to be steadfast in our commitment to be true to ourselves, to being honest and open, even if those around us don’t understand.

It is important, very important.

For if we do not stand strong in our determination to be who we really are, regardless of whether is makes others uncomfortable or not, then we loose the chance to inspire others to be themselves.

We may not realize it, but their eyes are on us as well. If we allow ourselves to be true, then they know it is okay for them to be true as well.

Each person standing up and not allowing others to bully them is the strongest statement of support for all of us to be authentic!